How can you forgive yourself for screwing up your kids lives?

Answer 1

Wrong question, it should read: will your kids ever forgive you for screwing up their lives? Stop feeling sorry for yourself, you don't sound like you deserve it.

Answer 2

Just do anything you can and start using you're head! Why did this happened, hmm lets think on that. It may have happened because you weren't thinking clearly and u really messed up (evidently). So what are you going to do to make it up to them? Well that's where you have to take controll and toughen up. You should first explain the situation to them as best as you can(this is of coarse if your kids are old enough to understand). Next you should get them something to make them a little happier and take away some of the sadness. You should always stick by their side and make Shir that they don't start doing bad stuff and mess up as you did. I would also suggest seeing a councilor to help you get things a little more straightened out. Also say some Prayers.

Maby this will help, I'll know if I end up with 10 points.

Answer 3

You screwed up their lives according to whom? Are they happy and successful or at least marginally doing well with what they've got? All you can do is move forward and do your best now. Be there. Try to give the best advice and be a good listener and be sympathetic to their problems. If they are not kids now then help them be adults about their short comings. They have to be responsible adults moving forward. Even if you contributed to how they are now. You don't want to enable them to be further helpless. But don't get stuck in the past because you need to teach them to dwell in the now.

Answer 4

Well, because for some reason the instructions that they came with got misplaced and some how doing the best you can with what you have , isn't always a sure fired way of keeping them from lifes hard knocks. if you can teach them right from wrong, show them respect and have it returned, give them love and provide them with necessities, and they are still screwed up , well , it' isn't your fault that they didn't use what was taught them to become what they felt they wanted to be. For in the end . it is up to each individual as to the kind of person they are.

Answer 5

If you did it on purpose then you probably cant forgive yourself. However if you did the best you could with what you knew then thats all you can do. We can only do what we think is right or best. So cut yourself a break. I dont know anyone who has ever been a perfect parent.

Answer 6

I am not sure how exactly your kids lives are screwed up, however- you just have to acknowledge that you made a mistake and move forward with positive changes. As long as you love them unconditionally they will eventually forgive you.

Answer 7

Well, start by knowing that most parents have plenty of guilt because we just cannot be perfect. They made many of the choices themselves along the way. And probably none of those decisions is irreversible at this point. Even character and personality.

Answer 8

well how bad did screw them up? the best thing you can do for them is to be there change your ways and build a relationship with them. you still have the future it's not over yet. Not sure what your circumstances are but this what i can come up with, with the information you gave.

Answer 9

Ask My in-laws about this question. They have always told their daughter that she married poorly and that we would eventually divorce. They also attempted to have her kids taken away from her because she married me. Yet we are still married 15 years later.

Answer 10

How do you know that you did?

My husband died 5 years ago and I was screwed up beyond repair according to my family and the majority of my friends.....I was crazy and not myself....but now that I am well, I can see that it ain't as bad as I thought.

It ain't over!!!! Your not in control like you think that you are......