would my parents be upset?

Question

the problem is that i im a lesbain do you think my parents would be upset and my freinds wont like me

Answer 1

Try this website: www.hrc.org

Goto the coming out resources link...

It will help.

Answer 2

Well, it depends on who your family and friends are. You yourself are the only one who will know if they will accept you or not. How? Test them. Go get the movie "R.E.N.T" and watch it with them and randomly ask them what they think of gay people. I don't know. That's my best guess. If they are EXTREMELY relgious christans chances are they are most likely not going to accept you. As for your friends. I would choose the ones who will stick by your side no matter what to tell. Not the ones who will just go and think your a dike/fag/whatever they may want to call you. Keep it to yourself and keep a good head on your shoulders if you know what I mean. Don't be loud and proud about it. Well you can be proud, because that's who you are and always will be (unless you change) but don't go around too much telling EVERYONE your bussiness. ESPECIALLY in school!!! People will go around spreading rumors that aren't true and they'll start judging you before they even know you! I hate that. I told people I was bi and they just treated me so different and never gave me a chance. It sucks. So watch your back and good luck ever coming out about it to your family and friends!

~Sara <3

Answer 3

I was going into my senior year of high school when I told my parents. They were upset and actually banned my girlfriend from the house - so I was never home. Three months later they finally realized that they would lose me if they didn't open their eyes and come to grips with it. Now five years later they are very accepting and treat my girlfriend like their own daughter.

Answer 4

Sweetie, try not to let what others think and feel get in your way of leading a happy, healthy, positive life.
These people may be upset at first, but if they love you unconditionally they will get over it.
It's incredibly sad that we have to worry about such things, but indeed we do.
If the world was full of unconditional love and understanding, the world would be a much happier place to be.
God Bless

Answer 5

Yes. Allah has made it obligatory for Muslims to obey and respect parents. At one time Nabi Karim said, you father owns you and what you own.Disobeying parents is a great sin. Now that you have realized your mistake, ask pardon of your mom and repent before Allah Almighty. Muhamamd Javed Iqbal

Answer 6

If your parents or friends don't like you because of who you love, they're the ones with a problem, not you. I came out to my parents when I was seventeen. My mom still says, "It's a phase" actually, when other parents dissed me in front of her, she was all for me. It may take a while, but if you're miserable without telling them, how long will you wait to tell them? Will you be any less miserable if you don't tell them?

Answer 7

I just went through the same problem (but i am gay). If your friends are REAL friends they wont leave you. try by telling your best best friend ,one on one, first. see how he or she takes it. I just told 3 of my friends not to long ago and they all took it surprisingly well. If you are aren't in highschool yet, i would wait to tell your parents. Don't feel like you have to tell everyone right now, and all at once.

Answer 8

That depends on what kind of friends and family you have. I'd say if your friends can't accept you, then get new friends. It's no big loss if you can't even be yourself around them.

Family is more difficult, I would find it extremely hard to believe that any close family members could just stop caring when they find out you're gay. However if your family could really be that terrible, then there's no much you can do. You might just have to be prepared to do without them in your life.

Answer 9

Well, to be perfectly honest, you cannot change the way you were made to be. You cannot change your orientation.

Good parents love their children. Good friends will like you even if (and you have all the power here) they find out you are a lesbian.

You are still the same person. All that might change is that these people may know a little more about you, WHEN and IF you choose to tell them.

Good luck!
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Answer 10

It depends on the kind of people they are. Are you're parents kind, do they love you and care about you? Do you have true friends?
I was worried when I first came out, but I was accepted generally. My mom isn't estatic about it, but she accepts it, and all my friends are amazing about it and always joking about it, and checking out girls with me just for fun. It'll be okay, just remember that, if these people cannot accept you, they don't deserve you.
Goodluck,
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Answer 11

it really depends on your parents, how much they love you and how much they accept you. my parents were very upset when i first told them, and had to undergo a process of accepting it. today they treat my partner as part of the family and my mom even phones to chat with him at times and doesnt even ask for me.
on the other hand, i know people who were thrown out the house... so... only you know your parents.
as to your friends... if they'd stop being your friends once they find out your sexuality, are they really YOUR friends or the friends of a mask you show them?