Adoption. If I adopt, How Much of That Child, Do I own? His Past , His Present? His Civil Rights are?

Question

If I adopt a child, at any age, say, over the age of 4-14, how
much of that Child's Life, do I really own? Do I have a Right to
Boss His Side of the Bloodline, that connects to the Child?
Do I have Right to Force the Child, to Neglect His Bloodline?
Do I prevent Him from Knowing, His Bloodline?
HOW MUCH OF THE CHILD, DO I GET FOR THE MONEY
I PAID FOR THE CHILD?
I want the child to be OF MY FAMILY, IN MY FAMILY...BUT...
does his bloodline, keep him from that?
Can I ever own the Child...Wholely?
These are some frequent questions which People have
asked me, an Advocate, and it has brought me to take an
interest in Adoption, & the process of Adoption & studying
the laws on Adoption.
There is so many questions about Adoption, and The
Rights of the Adoptive Parents / the Child(ren), that I'm be-
ginning to wonder, if the Foster/Adopt Parents (substitute
parents), come to Violate the Rights of the Child(ren), in
many ways...
BECAUSE NO ONE, CAN ''PUT ASUNDER'', BLOODLIN

Answer 1

It is said that possession is 9 points of the law. Do you consider it to be a truthful statement?

I see most of the answers say you can not own the child or any child, but I wonder. How is ownership really defined?

The dictionary say its: The state or fact of being an owner.
Legal right to the possession of a thing

I am not saying a child is a thing, but you sure are in possession if you do adopt. Thus I guess your questions are centered around the society in which this adoptation takes place and how much control others do have over the child and the supposed rights of the child.

I do agree that the treatment and facts to be considered are truly a moral issue and they are determined a lot by society. Along with this is the outside influences that the child is exposed to and how these influences are seen by the child..
I am convinced that pure innate nature is in the hands of My God and that this is not controled by blood line as most want to think. I do believe it is done by experiences and circumstances controlled By God to insure His perfect plan is completed. It is written: "Raise up a child the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it."

Now who must determine what way the child should go? If one does adopt, who really is in control and who made the child available to be adopted by those specific individuals?

Is your concept such that you see man or mankind as pure free-willed entities that can do anything they want with no controller or can you see maybe there is a God in control of some of it or all of it?

As a "NO" I see my God in absolute control except for the ultimate decision as to whether to believe it or not meaning that there is a God and that this God is in control!

Do give this some thought and do have a good day. While doing that think about those that do ask these kind of questions and please wonder in thought why they are asking them. What is their motive and pure innate nature that causes these questions to be ask?

Answer 2

Due to the nature of you question, it is really is more an ethical issue than a legal one, so I will address it as such.

Much of how to handle a foster child or consider adopting a child will depend on the child's background.

First of all, you don't ever OWN a child, they are always there own person, even those that you give birth too...you are there to care for them until they are of legal age and to help them make the rights choices, or you don't...either willingly through adoption, unwillingly through abuse or neglect, or worst case scenario, they cease to exist due to your abuse and neglect.

It is foolish to always believe "blood is thicker than water", but it isn't always...the people who are you family are the people who love and care for you; many times it coincides with being blood related, but that by no means it is exclusive that a blood relative is the best person to raise the child.

There are some cases where it is in the best interest of the child to terminate all contact because they are to narcissistic or to heavily involved in substance abuse that they are not capable or really don't have any interest in caring for their children. They leave their very young children or babies alone while they go to a bar, do drugs or "hook up". They leave their kids alone with no food in the house for days on end. They beat their children with objects or sexually abuse them.

As you are so biased towards blood relatives, you should resign as an Advocate because you have lost your objectivity to do what is in the best interest of the child, which should always be the priority.

Answer 3

Your Answer...to how much of that child do you own.
Boss his side of bloodline so you say...force the child to neglect his bloodline...will you in fact get your money' worth. As a mother who placed her daughter up for adoption...go by a dog...you will have the kind of control that you are so seeking. Do not ever fool yourself that you will control a child who' DNA is not your own. You remind me of Cinderella's wicked very wicked step mother. Never mind...dont even get a dog...I hate the thought of cruelty to animals. Seek psychiatric care first. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Well you can not "own" someone. You decide for yourself whether to tell them they are adopted but you can not force them to ignore their bloodline if they find out they were adopted.

Answer 5

Anyone who thinks that they own or bought a child has no business adopting.

Answer 6

With questions like this you don't deserve to have a child either through adoption or through birth. Grow up.