How do I tell my parents? What will they say? I know I can do this...I'm even financially stable enough to be able to handle it. I also have a very stable relationship with my boyfriend. I'm just scared and not sure what to do...
2007-07-05 08:59:10 · 26 answers · asked by KrIsTyN 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If you are mature, then your parents should be happy. I took my dad to dinner and showed him the sono and thats how he found out. Congrats...
2007-07-05 09:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are 20 so you shouldn't worry about what your parents will say. This is your life and you just got a kick in the pants to adulthood. Is your boyfriend going to be there for you? If so, discuss how you are going to handle it and then lay it out for your parents. For example "Johnny and I are going to have a baby. Johnny is going to work full time and we are getting an apartment. I am going to work or go to school until I have the baby, then I we plan to find daycare so I can work or go to school." Then follow it up with "Am I missing anything?" Being able to show that you are an adult ready to take on this responsibility should help your parents feel more comfortable becoming grandparents. If they do not take to it right away, don't fret, as soon as they see that baby they will melt. Good luck!
2007-07-05 09:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cari D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as you're financially stable, have a stable relationship with your boyfriend and you sound like a very mature woman then it shouldn't worry you, your parents should be happy for you even if you weren't stable your parents should support you anyway. Congratulations on the baby.
2007-07-05 09:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by x♥ angelica ♥x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to tell your BF and find out what he wants to do. He is not married to you and he might not want to stay with you and help raise this child. It's sad but true. That's what happens with unplanned pregnancies.
Look at all your options. Don't be guilted into making a choice you're not ready for. There are a lot of people who are ready and waiting to raise a child.
No matter how stable you think your relationship is with your boyfriend - he did not sign up to be a father, and he might feel trapped or like bolting. Talk with him openly and honestly about what is best for the child.
2007-07-05 09:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by Karla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have basically answered your own question. You are in a stable relationship.It was not a one night stand.Hopefully your parents like your boy friend.
It is best to just tell them that you are pregnant.there maybe a row.Fathers can be very protective of their little innocent daughter.It can be hard for them to accept that they are not so innocent and sexually active(you should have used contraceptives-unless you planned it. accidents happen however) In my experience after the initial shock parents nearly always rally round and are very supportive.you cannot avoid telling them it will become obvious soon enough.I would not be the least bit surprised if your mother has not already guessed.Any morning sickness? has she commented about your period. Mothers usually know when their daughter is due. Good luck-A father
2007-07-05 09:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be prepared that your parents would be shocked once they hear this. this happened to my baby sister when she was 14 going to 15. she was ignorant about things and could not abort the baby cuz she's 6 months pregnant at that time. nobody actually noticed her change cuz she used to wear an oversized shirt to cover up. thank god, they are now living very happily and their boy is already 6 years old.
Since you are pretty sure that you wanna keep the baby already and to start up a family with your boyfriend, just tell your parents straight. anyway, they are gonna know sooner or later. although they might get mad at you in a spur of the moment, at the end of the day, they are still your family. i'm sure they'll be willing to understand and respect your decision.
2007-07-05 09:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by m0ncher1e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20 an pregnant as well. I have an associate's degree and got married before I got pregnant. So there was really nothing my parents could be mad about even though they kept telling me to wait to have kids...but things happen. They were both extremely happy for me. So just tell them, you're an adult, it's not like they can ground you or anything.
2007-07-05 09:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mandiex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not 14, you're 20 and as you said in a stabble relationship. You're parents should be happy for you. Will this be the first baby in your family? Your mother will adore being a Grandma. I'm sure she'll support her. You could even tell her by saying...You're going to be Grand-Parents!! That's how I told my Mom - she cried she was so happy. Congratulations my dear and good luck!
2007-07-05 09:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by julybutterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops! Well, I was pregnant for the 1st time at 20 yrs old and my mother cried. I was pregnant by a married man who lied and told me he could not have babies. It was financially devastating to me and he quit his job and I had to support myself thru the 9th month and ended up on welfare while he lived pretty well I must admit.
Just tell your parents....probably your mother 1st would be the best thing. Your not going to be able to hide it. for more than 5-6 months.
2007-07-05 09:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all....CONGRATS!!
Dont let worrying about how to tell your parents ruin you HAPPINESS and EXCITEMENT!
You sound just like me!
Im not pregnant, but I have been thinking about it, and the only thing Im scared of is if my parents wont approve!
I would just tell them in a HAPPY way.....dont sound upset when you tell them because it may cause them to respond in a negative way!
If you are very happy about it, and your parents KNOW that this is what you want than they might support you even more. Your not TOO young.........you are definetely very young, but I think you are a good age to have a baby!
Dont worry about it...............if your parents seem upset at first...by the time you have your baby they wont even care!!!
2007-07-05 09:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be nervous because you are doing the right thing. Your parents may or may not be upset, I don't know. But I do know that after they get over the stock of it, they will be happy. When that beautiful little baby is born that will BE SO HAPPY and wonder why they were ever upset in the first place. (If they are.) It's all going to be okay!!
2007-07-05 09:05:26 · answer #11 · answered by Pammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋