What do you think of a six year difference in relationships?

Question

My boyfriend is 6 years older than me. He's 26. I'm 20.

Today I talked to some 14 year old kids and I realized how immature they are.

Why doesn't my boyfriend view me in the same light? Or does he? Is there a huge difference between 14 and 20?

Answer 1

Of course there is a huge difference between a 14 year old and 20. 14 year olds are still kids...you are an adult at age 20 (unless you act like you are 14 LOL). Maturity has a great deal to play in this, and how many 14 year olds do you know have the maturity of an adult? ZERO, right?

Answer 2

That depends on the ages and the ppl involved and their maturity level. Age difference can be a real problem, and it can also be a blessing. BUt, both have to be adults. a 13 yr old girl with a 19 yr old boy, wrong. One is still a child, and still has a childs maturity level, even if she is more mature than most her age, and its just wrong. But, you say you are 20, and your boyfriend is 26, that may be a problem and maybe not. Depends on how you each see things, etc Just be sure he loves you for you, and not just into having a younger girl to hang off him to make him look good. Some ppl have this really bad, and its insecurity and it wont work. You must each know who you are and what you want from life and in relationship.
I am 61 and my husband is 46, 15 years different. I look younger and he looks older, so we never even suspected it when we met. PPL think he is my age or a few years older. hahaha BUt, we are on the same page in every area, and we are spiritually on the same page too, which is very important. WE both march to the beat of only Gods drum and we arent into what others think, just what God thinks. We complete each other in every way, encouraging each other in the others weaknesses. WE are much alike, yet very different. WE both love the same music and see life thru the same eyes, thru the eyes of the Holy Spirit. We both have senses of humor that sometimes others do not get. We can have as much fun running to Wal Mart, as we do going on a terrific vacation. We believe in living life to the fullest and living it for God. I cant see him with anyone but me, and he is the same way.
Now between 14 and 20, yes this is the wrong differnce as the 14 yr old is still a child, and 20 is an adult, tho a young adult. Plus it is against the law for an adult to be with a minor. and in that way, it also rarely will work anyhow, as they ahve zero in common really I know at 14, I was into having crushes, and being a silly girl. Guys at 20 were much more mature than I was. What would he want with a giggling, silly little girl? Except possible to use her.
But, you and your boyfriend are both adults, young adults, but adults. Only YOu can deceide if you are right for each other or not. Ask God and HE will show you. You only want to be with the one He wants you to be with Anything else brings misery and wont work anyhow.
God bless you. LEt us know how it goes.

Answer 3

The difference between 14 and 20, and 20 and 26 is enormous. After you hit your 20's 6 years is nothing.

Answer 4

My bf and I are 6 years apart I'm 22, he's 28. We are doing great. There is a difference between a 14 year old and a 20 year old because the 14 year old is still a child and views things much differently.

Answer 5

The difference between 14 and 20 is GINORMOUS! You are in a totally different place mentally and emotionally and are not concerned with the same things. With you and your boyfriend, you are at least in the same boat as far as looking towards a future and careers and all that. If he doesn't feel any gap, then just go with it! I think your gap is totally reasonable, but I wouldn't date anyone much older at your age because then there will be another big life experience gap. Talk about it with him if it bothers you, but be sure to let him know that id doesn't bother you...unless it does...

Answer 6

Age doesn't matter when you feel the feelings...
My fiance is 11 years older than me!!
If you are mature enough as a 26 year old, or he's is immature enough to be considered a 20 year old, than things will work out.

Answer 7

Good point.... And happy that you are smart enough to take that into consideration. Awsome.

But in your particular case, it also depends on, if both of you are in school, living at home, have similar friends or life styles if you have the same intrests. The differnece in reverse (in this case) is huge due to puberty and all that. There are gonna be some set backs but I think in your case it's all right to go ahead. But if he lives on his own and your at home or even visa versa this would be a big gap between you. lol

Answer 8

yes of course you mature with age so you're more mature than a 14 year old. My husband is 6 years older than me. It didn't bother me until he hit 61 and now I feel oh boy there's SIX YEARS! Seriously though, if you love someone age doesn't matter as long as it's legal of course.

Answer 9

Right now, there's an 8 year difference between my boyfriend and I. As long as you're both adults and comfortable with it, any age difference makes no matter.

Answer 10

When you are both adults you are both mature enough to where the age difference is not so noticeable. You just need to be sure you have things in common with each other!