What makes people so bitter?

Question

I cant help notice how bitter people can be. If you ask for help your told 'do it yourself' Ive noticed it so much on here. Im tryin to figure out were the hatred comes from. Is it becuase our lifes have got so boring and nothing but work that we start showing resentment to people that have got what we want instead of being happy for them? Ideas???

Answer 1

Hi Lil me,
The people that are bitter, angry and hateful (however many that may be).. , are simply feeling hurt, pain and frustration....

They are disappointed with themselves, others and the world and are transferring that pain outwards....
Some people, have valid reasons to be angry, others just wish to avoid responsibility for their own failings....
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If you have : "the strength and insight".. to be of help to them, you are kind to do so...
If they only seem to "fight" your efforts, realize that they aren't ready to outgrow their problems.. and keep your distance... Your efforts will be appreciated elsewhere............
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I believe, they hold pain and hurt in so long,that as they get older, they take their pain out on any one that will take it, and blame their hurt on any one other than who really hurt them .....
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Thanks, for the question! :)

My regards!

Take care!!

Answer 2

Bitterness seems to only be a symptom to the real root of the problem. Envy causes bitterness at oneself and others for having what they don't or can't. Divorce causes bitterness because one partner feels they have sacrificed more than the other. Or one partner got away with something the other did not even think of. Bitterness is a definite outward sign of something else brewing inside.

Answer 3

Simply: life is not meeting their expectations.

But to go beyond the simple answer, this is what I know to be true for me... I notice when I am being bitter, I'm just not knowing how to enjoy what there is to enjoy in the moment and to let go of unrealistic expectations. At the moment of being bitter I have an ideal, a fantasy, of how life could be better but reality just ain't fitting the bill.

What I don't understand at the time of feeling bitter is that it's my expectations, not reality, that is causing me to be resentful and bitter. The closer I align my desires to whatever reality delivers, the more joy that is experienced. I just can't say, "I want whatever this moment brings," however and not take into account those already cemented expectations that contradict the moment. I have to spotlight each of those expectations through introspection, examine their validity, and allow myself to experience what it might feel like to not have that expectation to see if it's ok to not have. It always turns out to be ok. That's when the expectation naturally evaporates, as it is discovered to be hindering rather than helping me.

This doesn't mean that I can't go out and improve and better myself or the world around me as I see fit, but I understand reality might limit me at times. That's ok. I'm not a super-hero and I can't change the world overnight. I merely do what I can and I am ok with that. It leaves me to enjoy everything around me in the moment. It leaves me more peaceful, fun-loving, creative, available, and loving.

Answer 4

Life is what makes people bitter.

Also, it's not a "do it yourself" attitude, it's giving the dreamers a wake up call. Some people do ask the daftest questions on here, you have to admit. What's the point in telling a pregnant 12 year old that she's doing the right thing (for example)? What help will that be to them? You have to be a bit cynical at times.

Answer 5

I think it is disappointment from what we expected our lives and surroundings to be and what they really have turned out to be.

For instance politics and government are very important to me but every day someone is caught doing something illegal (either party) which brings so much dissatisfaction and disappointment about the ones we counted on to uphold the law. It is happening in business as well.

I am trying to decide if it has always been this way or if the ideals I was taught as a child are all wrong.

Answer 6

If you perceive a person to be bitter, than that is your interpretation not a fact. You may be misreading the signals, or signs.

They may well be happy for what other people have got. However, they are probably even happier about what they have got.

People who try to change other people end up bitter and twisted. Those who try to change themselves, understand other people better.

Answer 7

I feel a lot of it has to do w/ the computer era. Sorry don't putt the wammy on mine. I've lived enough years, I think I can honestly say it has made people go into their own little worlds where they are safe and no one can bother them and they can do what they want. They don't want to be bothered by anyone unless it's on their time. It's really hard to talk to younger generations in person. They think the only thing they can believe, or spend their time on is a computer screen.

Answer 8

Bitter? i can be sometimes but i wouldnt say im a failure like most of these answers here up above me!!! cant agree to that everybody in life can go through it no one is Mr or Mrs or miss perfect .i bet everybody here has been bitter sometime in thier lives and they dont wanna admit it!!!????


i can show alot of affection and yep also when im bitter its cause someone has turned against me thats when i come bitter. hey thankx 4 this

Answer 9

1. It isn't because they know better and have turned that way. It is because they don't know any better and don't know how to rejoice in someone else's good fortune or happiness.

2. Fear - of the unknown. Of being wrong. Of being guilty. Of not caring. Of being alone. Of doing the wrong thing. Of making the wrong decision.....etc.

3. People get used to their surroundings and it grinds them down when there is no happiness in it. If they have no happiness, then why or, indeed, how could anyone else have happiness?

Answer 10

Love

Answer 11

I can see a few reasons for their behaviour.
They do not like themselves.They consider that they are failures and often blame this feeling on others .( society.)people around them .
As all of us , they are not not perfect but what can make the difference is that we have been lucky enough to have been raised
(educated) by parents or close family who have enabled us to accept ourselves as we are with weaknesses and many qualities.
I also agree with Kimberley .She has good points in her answer.