As a straight person I'm frankly puzzled by those who think people can choose to be gay, so it would be interesting to hear from a straight person who has actually turned themself gay and thus proven that hypothesis. How did you change from being turned on by the opposite sex to being repulsed by the idea of sex with them? Conversely, how did you change from being repulsed by the idea of sexual activity with your own sex, to being turned on by it? Personally, I just don't see how it can be done, but with so many people saying they could choose to be gay, they must know how.
2007-07-05 08:17:34 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Mr. P: I would have to agree with you... unless someone says how they can do it... which I very much doubt.
2007-07-05 08:25:52 · update #1
Aqua Rose: Yes indeed.
2007-07-05 08:26:13 · update #2
ZERO: Yeah I know it's been asked before, but it doesn't hurt to ask again - one day someone might come up with a plausible answer! :-) However, I doubt it.
2007-07-05 08:27:21 · update #3
Antibiotic Void: I think you need to start again from the beginning, and really think things through :-)
2007-07-05 08:28:47 · update #4
Bareback: Are you prepared to share with us how you would make yourself turn gay? Answer the question as presented, and then your opinion may have some merit.
2007-07-05 08:30:25 · update #5
Robin: Sounds very plausible.
2007-07-05 08:31:32 · update #6
Thank you!!
The majority of Americans no longer believe this lie. The completely illogical and untrue basis for this lie have been revealed to most Americans, and they have to enforce an individual denial of the reality they know, to be able to assert this blatant untruth.
But as you note, straights never consider how they came to be straight, and they project their experience on everyone else.
But the battle has been won, and the tide is turning, thanks to many little arguments made and won, by things like Will & Grace becoming alomst as popular in Middle America as I love Lucy and Andy Griffith!
Only willfully narrow-minded religious extremists who want to mask their bigotry and hatred use this argument anymore.
2007-07-05 08:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 13⤊ 2⤋
A child can choose homosexuality from an influence of some sort and not even know it is homosexuality he is choosing. This often happens. Also the child can forget but the subconscious does not. So as they get older it can surface and the child will or could be influenced then by their own subconscious. Often children become homosexual innocently even. This is choice, but it is a choice often made without information known. Like I say children forget. If you hear a gay person say they think they was born this way, they forgot their initial influence and choice even though they knew nothing about homosexuality or heterosexuality differences.
2007-07-07 01:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to Bareback: Anne Heche is obviously bi-sexual, sexuality isn't black and white, it's a spectrum. I be-sexual person is attracted to both genders and therefore has a choice on who they want to spend their lives with. I'm a lesbian, the choice is not there for me.
to Skullbeauty: "I have never seen or heard of a man with boobs or a woman with a d*ck." - oh but these individuals do indeed exist, these people are intersex. - see the link below. You are also under the misconception that because a man has a d*ck and woman has a v*gina, that they can only be used for procreation in a straight relationship. You still don't grasp that who you are attracted to defines your sexuality. You, I assume are str8, and therefore are attracted to men. What this question is asking, is how do you change who you are attracted to if it's a choice. How do you suddenly make your self notice that really cute girl and make your heart flutter when she smiles at you. You didn't answer that question.
2007-07-05 09:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by momaab 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
This isn't really an answer to your question more of a rambling tangent. But I think one of the biggest issues connected with this misunderstanding (to put it lightly) on the part of the homophobes who deem it a choice, is that they only see being gay as a sexual practice. Their argument is always about sexual deviance. And some of the "more considerate" beraters who tell us that god loves the sinner even though he hates the sin, always talk about not acting on our feelings. None of them can seem to grasp that being gay isn't just about sex. Not any more so than heterosexuality is about sex. Even if we didn't have sex, it wouldn't make us any less gay.
2007-07-05 08:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
What I have noticed is that folks who insist it's a choice are defining "homosexuality" by sexual behavior, rather than orientation. By this definition, a person chooses to be gay by going to bed with someone of the same sex. When he stops doing this, he is pronounced "cured".
I think that the people who claimed to have turned straight are just bisexual, and have simply limited their dating choices to the opposite sex.
2007-07-05 08:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by Robin W 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think of human beings say that homosexuals choose for his or her sexuality, through fact traditionally it rather is been believed that all and sundry is heterosexual with the aid of default and consequently if somebody says they're gay, curiously to have been achieved with the aid of a decision... that's quite authentic contained in the way that they choose for to deviate from the classic norms and decide yet another orientation. Or quite they choose for to bare it or exhibit it with the aid of decision. in spite of the fact that it is not completely authentic that homosexuals all choose for his or her sexuality, it does happen -quite while somebody has had a bad adventure(try abuse) with an significant different of the alternative gender or some thing and that they get plagued with the aid of it plenty that they shop faraway from themselves completely from that gender.
2016-09-29 03:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I said to someone earlier (I think it was Skullbeauty)..yes she could have sex with a female even though she is heterosexual...In the end anybody can rub 2 body parts together and have sex....it's the inborn desire that I have for other men. the overwhelming desire for men both physically and emotionally that makes me gay. Choice had nothing to do with that. I was born this way.
2007-07-05 08:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
I understand your question and appreciate it. This isn't my opinion but I do know a couple gentleman who claimed they were gay, gave their life to God and one seems like a happily married family man of 26 years and the other a happily married man of 9 years but that's just their personal experience.
I would generally think it couldn't happen, but I am still surprised how many people (including my friends/relatives) believe "they chose" to be gay.
2007-07-05 08:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Diane P 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe those people think being gay or straight are as simple as making a right turn or left turn.
If anyone who announced they just turned themselves from gay to straight, they are just lying.
That's all
2007-07-05 10:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bounce Up 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way to answer this is to ask the straight person to CHOOSE to be gay. I do not think they could meet the challenge.
Obviously, it aint a choice now is it?
Mr. P.
2007-07-05 08:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. P. 1 · 7⤊ 0⤋