Girls, how did you deal with turning 40?

Question

I am turning 40 this year and every time I think about it I want to cry! 30 didn't bother me, 35 didn't bother me. 40! I feel so darn old! How have you all dealt with it?

Answer 1

Stefbear, I think you are wise to be trying to prepare for this event. After watching my older sister spend her 40th birthday crying (yes, for the whole day!) I was determined that I would try to make it a positive experience, and determined to make the years ahead the best ones, not sad or disappointing. Yes, it's true... we are older now and maybe there's some disappointment in letting go of some of the dreams of our earlier days.... we're not going to become astronauts, or super models.... may never climb Mt Everest, or fit back into "Those Jeans" *lol*. But that doesn't mean there's not a lot of wonderful stuff still ahead. But having seen my sister's crisis, I wanted to prepare mentally and physically for this milestone.

Firstly, I spent a lot of time reading and researching on how to move forward into Phase 2 in the healthiest way possible, so I made sure I got my act together about nutrition and exercise and looking after myself.

I made a long list of the things, large and small, that really make me happy, and resolved to spend more time attending to these things.

Then I thought long and hard about all the things in my life that needed to be let go of as I move forward - things that do not serve me well any longer. Old attitudes? Outworn relationships? Outgrown clothes? I saw it as a great symbolic time to get rid of a lot of the "clutter" in my life to make way for new things.

Last, I really thought about how I wanted to BE in the coming years. What sort of person? What sort of life? What sort of appearance? It really helps to find some older role models that you really admire and try to identify what it is that makes them seem special.

Prepare for the birthday itself - try to think of it as a "rite of passage" - you are now a woman who knows what she knows, and is who she is. If there is no-one in your life that can arrange the type of celebration you would like, be sure to give a gift to yourself (maybe a symbolic piece of jewellery, or something that indicates a new interest you would like to develop) and be sure to treat yourself really well (a spa day, or spending time doing your favourite thing or going to your favourtie place).

Lastly, just go with the flow. I hope the next stage of your life is a fulfillling and happy one.

Answer 2

Oh c'mon. They say 40 is the new 30. If you didn't have any trouble turning 30, then 40 is no big deal. Your age is just a number. How you feel about it, inside, how you carry yourself, etc. is what is important. I turn 51 on July 17th and have never felt better. I got a LOT of livin to do.

Answer 3

Don't deal with it ACCEPT IT! I mean come on, there is nothing you can do to stop it, just because you turn a certain age doesn't mean you have to change. If you don't like the look of 40 year old women who sit at home and cook for there family all day and knit and change diapers, then DON'T BE ONE, get out and explore your world. Act as young as you feel, don't let your age limit you.

Answer 4

Hello, welcome. Say hello on your feel of mortality. For a few unusual motive the vast majority of humans appear ahead into the longer term for the primary time after they hit forty. And the mathematics isn't regularly possitive. You are both part means, slightly below or simply over. And you discover too that you've such a lot stuff to do, that you didn't control to get performed within the first forty. All of that is very usual. All you have got to do consciousness on what you desire to get performed and do. A little record that you'll be able to paintings on, with one important rule: revel in everyday that you simply reside. a million. spend time with my children and take them to the park (if that's what you they usually like) two. be conscious and conscious of each and every moment that I spend with my husband and revel in it three. learn booklet x,y and z (in case you love to learn) four. get my weight in line via consuming much less however in additional quantities (in case you love to consume, you've got extra situations to revel in it) So make a record of confident matters so that you can upgrade your pleasant of existence. Even the no longer so exceptional matters, like going to the dentist, may also be grew to become round to a confident (have your possess enamel and oral well being, enabling you to revel in consuming and many others and many others) It is an issue of constructing a alternative. If you uncover it complex to consciousness your brain at the positve otherwise you brain performs sillybuggers on you and is going into opposite....get the record out, prefer whatever and consciousness and opt for it

Answer 5

I agree with the lady above! Well, except for the plastic surgery. There is not one thing you can do to slow the calendar so just take care of yourself and get in as much fun as possible! Laughter i believe is the key to health as well as happiness....welcome to you 40's!!! I'll be 41 soon:o)

Answer 6

HONEY 40 IS THE NEW 30 !!!! I AM 54 AND HAVING A BLAST.I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF AND WILL FIGHT GETTING OLD AS LONG AS POSSIBLE, THANK YOU GOD FOR MAKE-UP,HAIR DYE,PLASTIC SURGERY,AND YOUNGER MEN WHO LIKE OLDER WOMEN ! YOU ARE ONLY AS OLD AS YOU FEEL,YOU CAN'T STOP IT SO YOU JUST HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT,MAKE THE BEST OF IT AND ENJOY THE MOMENT. IT'S TRUE THAT NOW YOU CAN REALLY START LIVING,SO DO IT !!

Answer 7

your not the only 1 turning 40 ur lucky ur not 75 yet.

Answer 8

I had a bunch of girlfriends over and we got drunk and danced and acted crazy

Answer 9

My wives got tramp stamp tattoos