So, I am waiting until I am married to have sex. But I keep hearing that sex really hurts the first time. Is this true? And is it messy the first time? And how do I make it less painful?
2007-07-05 07:37:42 · 12 answers · asked by zozozo 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
There must be something in the air.......
As clinical as possible, there can be pain when the hymen breaks upon penatration. There can also be some blood.
The hymen is the thin membrane that sometimes covers the opening to the vagina if you're a virgin. I say "sometimes" because, even if you haven't had sex, the hymen can do a bit of a disappearing act due to an overzealous workout at the gym, horseback riding, tampons, and even passionate "heavy petting" with your boyfriend. (It's not an impenetrable barrier, anyway, as it has holes to allow menstrual blood to escape.)
When you're turned on, the uterus and cervix rise, lengthening the vaginal tube. When his penis penetrates, the walls of the vagina stretch to accommodate the difference.
For some, the first few times make you feel sore, as it's been an unused muscle or even hurt, if you aren't properly lubericated, like the guy is in a hurry, doesn't arouse you and your body isn't ready.
When the guy ejaculates, there is a mess, most of it is inside of you. Keep a towel handy. Be sure to pee before you fall asleep after.
2007-07-05 19:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of respect for you wanting to wait until marriage. It can hurt the first time, but if your with someone who truly cares for you then he'll be gentle and take his time and be understanding. You just have to relax your mind and body and it shouldn't be that bad, it was painful the first and second time after that I was better. Well it can get a little messy after the man ejaculates or you have an orgasm,but just keep a hand towel near by and after a while u won't even think about it being messy or painful. Just make sure your with someone who cares and respects you. Take care.
2007-07-05 07:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cheetara 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt if you do it right. The problem is that many couples rush their first time. Guys get ready before girls and if they don't know better get started before she is ready.
Take your time, have lots of foreplay, have some lubricant on hand just in case as being nervous will reduce your natural lubrication and have fun. Too often people think the first time has to be perfect, but it takes time to get to know what each of you likes and doesn't like, what feels good, what doesn't. If it begins to be uncomfortable, back up a couple of steps (figuratively) and slow down. Don't put the focus on the actual intercourse, but on the process of making love including touching other parts of the body, kissing, stroking, etc.
And unless he's wearing a condom it's messy every time.
2007-07-05 07:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by John D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes sex can hurt a bit during your first time! It can get alittle messy from the lub and if your hyme breaks you can start to bleed! The bleeding from the hyme breaking is not that bad though it is like a spotting of blood! There is nothing you can really do to help it from hurting that bad, just when that time comes for you tell him to take it easy on you since it will be your first time!
2007-07-05 07:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is always messy.yes it will hurt the first few times. its less painful when your ready for it
2007-07-05 07:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's different for everyone. for me it was really painful and i bled a lot but other women feel little to no pain and don't bleed at all. Use lots of lube and spend a lot of time with foreplay. Remember to relax your muscles down there because when they are contracted it will make it harder for penetration and cause even more pain.
2007-07-05 07:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by kamakazee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're one of few American treasures, the ladies have
answered the specifics, but the dude you marry can help
a lot by being gentle, considerate, and taking it slow. Don't
concern yourself with it now, you've surely got other bridges
to cross before then that should be of more concern.
2007-07-05 08:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it didnt really hurt the first time i had sex...
its messy sometimes but sometimes its not...
it all depends on the girl and the size of the guys penis..
2007-07-05 07:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by dragonfirenova IsMyMainYimTag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you have to enjoy it! it does hurt a little at first but sex was made for pleasure not pain!
2007-07-05 07:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anna L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about that now if you're waiting to get married... You sound pretty young, focus your attention on school and books rather than sex.
2007-07-05 07:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by divaheart06 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋