2007-07-05 07:12:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Clare, while I agree with the other answers - G-d is very powerful and once you accept Him into your heart you'll be a stronger person - I do have some other advice. This may seem unconventional to some, but it really works. Trust me, this will give you a feeling of happiness like no other. When I am feeling unhappy, I touch another woman's breast. There is a woman I work with who allows me to do this. There is something about the warmth and fullness of her, and when I touch her... well it takes all my b*tchiness away! Try it!!
2007-07-06 03:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotten past the first step! You have admitted that you have a problem.
Now you need to find the root of it. Are you jealous of people? What they have, how they look? Are you unhappy with your school/career? If it is jealousy causing you to treat people bad, learn this phrase: "It's not about wanting what you don't have, it's about wanting what you do have." If it is your school/career you are unhappy with, you can take steps to change this. Never before has this been easier than now with the internet available.
I tend to think that because you said you are never happy for anyone, you are jealous but don't realize that it is jealousy. Jealousy is not always about wanting a specific item someone has, it may be jealousy that they seem to sail through problems that baffle you.
We must all learn to make lemonade when we have have lemons. I am not looking at the world through rose-colored glasses here. I had a pretty good life and it changed overnight and I go through periods of misery but I realize that I don't have a choice to NOT live with my disease so I must make the best life with it.
Good luck. Acknowledging the problem is the first step to changing it.
2007-07-05 14:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realizing the way you act and wanting to change is biggest and toughest and already shows that is not who you truly are. You may act this way because you may be missing something in your life that other people could be happy for you. If someone is happy for you it is much easier to be happy for them. If some of the things you say come out as rude, but unintentionally, then the thing to do is be concious of your thoughts, it has worked wonders on me. when in a conversation don't just listen and respond spontaneously. You must be aware of what you are fixing to say and process if thats something the other person would like to hear. The cliche "think before you speak" comes to mind but its much more than that. this is hard to do because you have subconcioussly become this way and i think the best thing to do is before you ever enter a situation where you afraid to might come off as bit****, you have to tell yourself, "don't act this way" and remind yourself often becaseu you will forget. Trust me, if people notice you trying to change on your own, they will have much more respect for you and hopefully everything else will follow.
2007-07-05 14:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by rnbrittain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Clare, very pretty name ! First of all you need to invite the Holy spirit of Jesus Christ to come into your heart ! He will come in and then never leave you nor forsake you ! Do you have a stable and loving home ? You need to get a King James bible and read some every day, it is the best food for your soul ! Hon if you really want to change then by Gods everlasting grace you will. Jesus loves you and so do I !
2007-07-05 14:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really going to HATE this answer then....
You can't make anyone else happy until you know how to make yourself happy.
Be selfish and focus on your own mental happiness. Make it your focus to turn yourself around.
Besides, why do you HAVE to make OTHERS happy? You can be nice, you don't have to be a bit*h or pop their happy balloon, but just keep your mouth shut. How difficult is that?
Turn your life around and before you know it you will accidently be making people around you happy.
2007-07-05 14:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by SuzyM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called ego strength. You're searching for perfection. Guess what...I haven't found my man either, but one day, I will. There's only one guy out there that's perfect for you. So go ahead and flirt and turn them all down, as cruel as that sounds, because there's only one that God has destined you to be with.
2007-07-05 14:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by Brommy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. Is it because you are jealous of others' good fortune? I'm guessing it's because you are not happy with your lot in life. When you start being satisfied with yourself, then you can be glad for others.
2007-07-05 14:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one thing can help you change and that's God and that's why ppl look for guys is case they feel imptiy but God helps me so i don't have that feeling that much
2007-07-05 14:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by kayla141655 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't knock yourself so hard; probably it is just the chemistry.
2007-07-05 14:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋