I have been taking care of my friend's son aged 14 for the past 10 years coz his mom (single mother) was working somewhere in Europe and come back to see him only once in every 2 years so I was like a mom to him. I am single, live in a studio and shared the same bed with him ever since he was a baby. I used to wear very lightly, sometimes naked to bed as I don't have a air conditioner but having a blanket covering myself.
Recently for the past 2 months he would creep under my blanket and cuddle himself against me like I was a bolster with one of his hand holding my breast and I could feel his erected penis between my buttocks whenever my back faces him. I can't ask him to sleep else where coz there is only one bed. Is he doing this on purpose or is he having wet dreams? I don't mind it if he is really sound asleep.
Moreover he don't feel shy taking baths without closing the door and change in front of me. I've told him many times but he don't seem to listen. What should I do?
2007-07-05 06:43:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he is becoming a man, and has the hots for you
2007-07-05 06:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by skcs11 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should change your twin size bed into 2 single beds. I don't think that he is asleep by the way you describe it. How could anyone be sound asleep holding your breast and placing his erected penis between your buttocks against your naked body? No woman with a sound mind would sleep naked with a 14 yr old teenager unless you want to turn him on.
1. Replace your bed to 2 single bed.
2. Please wear some clothings when you go to bed.
3. Tell him firmly to close the damn door when he is bathing
4. Get him to change his clothes in the bath room.
5. Send him back to his mom as the last option.
Please don't let me read in the news that you were rape by him because you ask for it. Take care, honey. Don't take the risk.
2007-07-05 15:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by moonlighter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, are you serious.
You must be out of your mind to sleep naked with
a 14 year old next to you. You are Sick.
You as a mature women should know that this is not right.
You are obviously provoking him, I am assuming since you are single you probably like to feel liked, and unfortunately this kid is falling for it.
He is a TEENAGER, his hormones are all over the place. You are responsible for this child, no matter if it is your friends son, you pretty much raised him, and if anything you should love him like your own son. Provoking him like that is just plain SICK.
If you only have one bed, then one of you should sleep in the couch or make yourself a little bed in the floor, buy and inflatable mattress. Buy a damn fan !!!!! And stop sleeping naked !!!!!
If you do want to do the right thing, then put your foot down.
Order him to close the bathroom door when he is using it. If not then close it for him while he is showering.
Oh and the "You don't mind if he is really sound asleep" part is even worse. How could you ??? You like that don't you ?? Someone should report you as a child molester !!
2007-07-05 14:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you sleep with him in bed since he was 4 years old until now? And he is 14? Why would you do that? In what world this you think that was right? Get him his own bed or send him to his mama. Someone can acuse you of something you think you are not guilty of, do you know what I mean?
2007-07-05 13:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by MEL831 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn yourself in for childabuse. That child should have had his own bed from at least age 4 on. A mattress or cot, or couch or even sleeping bag on the floor would have been better than the abuse you are putting on him now.
2007-07-05 13:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why on Earth would anyone leave their child with you? Why one Earth didn't you go to Ikea and or a second hand store and buy this child a bed? Do you realized you may have caused or may be causing emotional issues for this young man? Do you enjoy this? Yuck!
Please get this young man a bed. Please explain sex to him. He needs to know about his body. He doesn't need to feel ashamed, but he does need to learn about privacy.
And, buy yourself a light night gown for night time. It has never been so hot that I couldn't at least wear some underclothes.
I don't mean to be hurtful, but you are a freak! Good day to you! I said good day!!!
2007-07-05 13:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by ~Brenda~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you have caused this behavior by sleeping in the nude with him. He thinks it's okay. Get another bed for crying out loud. A cot, a blow up matress, the couch will do, but get that boy out of your bed!
2007-07-05 13:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
GET HIM A BED OF HIS OWN!!! That is just too wierd!! I don't know how your not bothered by it. I know you live in a studio, but try to find a way to let him have a space of his own. Let him know that it is time for him to be more subtle. Please. If you are considering yourself like a mother to him, then please get him his own bed. It is only going to get more akward from here.
2007-07-05 13:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by handvict81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be doing this is his dream ... nevertheless look on the other side hes asleep he dont know that he is doing this does he?
Maybe you should tell him?
Or sleep on the sofa?
Something (if you want) that keeps ya distance
2007-07-05 13:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by DaisysMumma13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋