I was sitting in the parking lot at the grocery store on my cell phone. I started noticing a large amount of couples and the men just got in the car and never opened the door for the ladies. Am I just "old school" or has some chivalry been lost along the way. After the 45 minute phone call was over I noticed at least 50 couples and only two men opened the door for their lady. Shocked, maybe I was raised different, but do you ladies still like us to open your doors, place the napkin in your lap, pull the car up for you when it rains, start and warm the car in the winter mornings..etc..?
2007-07-05 06:22:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Probably many have not been taught from when they were young to be courteous and to remember their manners when with ladies.
Personally, I LOVE it when men are gentlemen... open my door, hold open doors, pull the car up when it's raining, let me in first, making sure I'm not cold or need anything, offer his arm or hand to me, just being with a gentleman is *sigh* wonderful to me.
I don't need him to place my napkin on my lap, I can do that by myself. I can order from the menu by myself too. But he can order my wine... if I have wine...
Call me old-fashioned? I don't care what you think. But hey, I'm not old, mid-20s, and I prefer gentlemen. There's nothing like a gentleman.
You were raised just the right way by good parents who wanted to raise a gentleman. Kudos to them!
2007-07-05 11:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chivalry is definitely becoming a lost art, partially discouraged by the feminist mentality that such behaviors are reinforcing the perceived weakness of women.
Perhaps I´m old fashioned, but I still prefer men who behave like gentlemen--complete with door opening, pulling out chairs, etc.
I used to know a guy who could manage to open several car doors when conveying up to 3 women--he would take off at a jog in order to get all the way around the vehicle before we reached it.
2007-07-05 13:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are not many men that do this any more. I fear that the reason is equal rights. Most men claim that since we wanted equal rights as women, that goes all the way around.
I can remember my grandpa always dropped us women at the door, whether it was church, restaurant, shopping etc. He would park the car and join us. Then he would drive up to pick us up. Most men still hold building doors for ladies. And many men will get the car door on a date, but not couples doing every day things.
Do we like it? Of course. Do we expect it? Only in certain circumstances. There are times it would be overboard in my opinion. Napkin in my lap? No thanks, I can do this. Oh, and do NOT order my food for me. This strikes me as controlling. Had a guy do this for me all the time. Drove me nuts. Or, if we walked into a restaurant, he would hold the door, so I would be first. The hostess would look at me and ask how many. I'm very capable of saying, "2 for non smoking please." But he would hurry to step in front of me WHILE I WAS ANSWERING and cut me off to answer himself. Chivalrous? Uh..NO!
So just be polite and conscientious of the situation.
And come over here to hold my door for me.
2007-07-05 13:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do like that my hubby starts my car for me on cold winter mornings and scrapes the frost and snow off, too. But I am quite capable of opening a car door myself and dealing with my own napkin. What I find less than chivalrous are the men who walk into stores ahead of me and drop the door in my face. Not surprisingly, these tend to be the young men out there who weren't raised as you and I were. I am not elderly by any stretch, BTW...
2007-07-05 13:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, well maybe except the "placing the napkin in my lap". but yeah i would appreciate a car door being opened for me once in a while, if not all the time. my boyfriend suprisingly dropped me off at the entrance to the store when it was starting to rain. it was sweet.
warming the car in the mornings, yeah i like when he does that. but if im up earlier than he is, i'll start 'em up
2007-07-06 09:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by million$? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you...I think it's the secret to any good woman's heart!
My husband, opens the door, brings me coffee in bed in the morning, helps me with my coat, and all these kinds of things.
If I know he's had a long day, I'll run a warm bath for him, pass up my favorite show, for something I know he would like to watch, bring him some soda while he's watching TV, etc.
I think a lot of people have lost chivalry for each other. It matters how we treat those closest to us.
But to answer your question, I was on a train in NYC recently, and there was an older woman who got on the train (there were a lot of people standing, and it was hard to get her attention. No one around her (men, women, teenagers) got up to give this little old lady a seat. I montioned to someone closer to her to please get her attention for me. I offered her my seat, and was getting up, when this guy trues to take the seat! I said, don't you have any shame? and then he backed off.
I think we've lost consideration for each other.
2007-07-06 14:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by joseygirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my husband still does it when we drive his car because he does not have auto door locks. when we drive my car he just pushes the unlock on the alarm keyring, but doesn't open the door for me. he will get the car when it's raining and drive it up to the curb. i don't really mind that he doesn't open the door for me in my car because I want the car started as soon as possible so we can roll the windows down or the a/c turned on.
i like that my husband always drives...no matter who's car we are in. i like that he takes control and wants to be the man.
I definitely think times have changed. everyone is all about rushing....getting things done quickly and not taking time to enjoy the important things in life.
that's sweet that you still do those things for your lady ; )
2007-07-05 14:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by KR52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people today think that if you get together with each other, it's not for an actual date but rather maybe MAYBE a couple of drinks (he pays for himself, you pay for you) and THEN he wants to screw you and if he likes the way you screwed THEN he MIGHT call you and if you do, you're oh so lucky.
Most men have lost the art and refinement of chivalry and actual dating.
2007-07-05 13:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some things...i like to open the car door bymyself and get my own napkin but i would'nt minfd if he did it for me ...but i'd love a guy wo pulls the car right o me when it rains and warms it up b4 i get in or when he gets say a glass of water would ask me if i wanted one two...stuff like that...but i do think that men ae doing it less now than they used to :) hope thid helped!!!
2007-07-05 13:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by froggyreba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say, for the most part, yes, chivalry is dead... but I think most of us would still like some of that... It's just that we don't expect it anymore. I suppose some women would find it patronizing but I think it's nice (except for the napkin thing, I think that would bug me).
2007-07-05 13:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋