The most important thing is to choose a women who does this the least, but I give advice to guys who have decided to stay with women who pull this crap a lot.
Some of the ideas that haven't worked very well are:
-Doing the same thing to the woman, and when she points it out, point out that she does the same thing...."Pretty annoying isn't it?"
-Man: "I know some thing's wrong, so we'll talk again when you're ready to tell me what that thing is. See you in a few days."
-Smiling (or laughing), and changing the subject to something light and unrelated.
What are some better ways to manage this tendency of most women?
2007-07-05 05:11:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good point, better listening.
2007-07-05 05:20:04 · update #1
Another good point, nip it in the bud by keeping track of what makes her happy and do those things without her having to ask.
2007-07-05 05:22:34 · update #2
"Yes, dear."
2007-07-05 05:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't manage your spouse, if you want to keep her.
You must understand that, while women can seem irrational at times, they're actually just operating by a different set of logic rules. Its common knowledge that, in general, women are more emotional than men.
When women behave in the way you described above, it could mean that you're failing in your responsibility to make her FEEL secure. That doesn't mean you're not taking care of her, or that you don't love her, but image is important! Shee needs to FEEL loved.
Everybody operates on one or two of five basic perspectives in terms of love. physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and acts of service. You need to find out which one is most important to your wife, and target that specific thing.
That actually means less work for you! Once you determine what her "love language" is, you've basically removed the guesswork.
I guarantee, your problem will be greatly reduced if you take my advice. And read the book below, if you get the chance.
2007-07-05 12:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women are not getting enough rest these days or eating right. Encourage her to take care of herself. They get cranky when tired and tired when not getting enough sleep and decent food. Then there is the never mention the obvious, of the monthly cycle with hormones and emotions. Drastic mood swings, thirsty, tired, and cranky a few days before is not unusual. They lose more iron too.
No, she isn't a man, and has 40% more fat than muscle. She is not a machine. She isn't going to take it like a man. If you want a man, well, lots of those go gay and admire each other's muscles.
2007-07-05 12:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women like to vent. They like to talk everything out. The best thing you can do is ride these storms out. Don't try and fix things, don't argue (if it really is an unimportant, pointless issue), basically, just smile and nod. Chances are she's done the same thing with you a time or two.
However, if these fights are becoming habitual and wearing down your realtionship, she needs to be made aware of them. Or, the man needs to decide if he wants to be with someone who nags/picks fights constantly.
2007-07-05 12:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A pad of paper works real well.
Write down her request or complaint.
Ask questions to better understand her request or complaint.
Re-write her request and complaint in your words.
Repeat back how you understand what she is talking about and have her agree or better describe it.
In all truth by the time you finally clearly understand her request or complaint no one including her will care about it any more, but feel that you are closer because you better understand each other.
Pointless fights are just a sign that one or the other fells that their is a communication going on. By clearly communicating it removes this feeling and life goes back to normal.
2007-07-05 13:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes Dear goes a long way. But at the same time you better listen cause she WILL quiz you on it. Otherwise, you will have to do a lot of take in this department. Pick and choose your battles very cautiously.
2007-07-05 12:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by sicarn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
help her out more around the house, or with kids, if U have any. I know I get annoyed and pick on the little things my husband does when im already irritated about having to be SUPERMOM.
ex. shoes in the middle of the living room floor
2007-07-05 12:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray with them and for her, let her hear your heart for her. Give her a big hug. Kiss her often. Go out of your way to bring her home a flower. Ask her to talk to you about what is bothering her and don't try to fix her, just listen. Try to do stuff with her that is important to her.
2007-07-05 12:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by wyokillion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest they find a man capable of having an adult discussion without treating them as if they were children with a short attention span. Addressing a problem with respect instead of gimmicks works wonders.
2007-07-05 12:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by justa 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try to nudge her into talking..they usually want to talk about it but don't think you'll actually listen.
Otherwise you're just gonna have to go with the flow and let her vent about it when she's ready. But it will still require effort on your part.
[and don't be surprised if you tell her you tried and she doesn't remember ;) ]
2007-07-05 12:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by :: SympliG0thic :: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just accept the fact that women will not admit when they are wrong, nor will they admit to being at fault for an argument, so the best thing is to either (A) let them vent (B) leave them or (C) agree with them even if they are wrong...I would choose B myself
2007-07-05 12:20:39 · answer #11 · answered by Tex 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋