I just recently found out my boyfriend of 8 yrs was talking with another girl whom he says he met on myspace they had been texting and calling each other. He sent her a text message saying "I am done with this friendship" in front of me and says he's done with her. I wanna believe him but I am so paranoid anytime he is out of my sight I fear he may call or text her again. What do I do I am not sleeping/eating and I am stressing.
2007-07-05 05:09:16 · 27 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this is the type of thing that causes you this much stress then when a real crisis comes along...in real life I might add...then you're screwed.
Get real kid. There's more to life than boyfriends, MySpace and text messaging.
2007-07-05 05:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you have to look at yourself and decide if this is the way you want to live your life
then decide if this is healthy to be wondering of his actions.
He took the first step in being deceitful texting or no texting the thought was in his mind already.
Its really up to you of how you want to live your life and how do you want to be respected and loved.
By not sleeping/eating and stressing you are causing negative effects to yourself. Bringing negativity into your life is a definite sign he is not for you.
Trust me this will not stop it will be ongoing. He has made a choice and there is nothing you can do. You can only make life better for you and only you. No one can change you therefore you cannot change anyone.
2007-07-05 12:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by addictiverendevouz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the only thing you have to go on at this point is trust. If you honestly believe him, then you have nothing to worry about. However, if this type of situation has happened in the past, you may want to be skeptical.
Just remember, that you have to do what is best for you, and you do not need the excess stress from someone who you have to constantly worry about being truthful to you.
Go with your gut instinct.
2007-07-05 12:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by gapchic400 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have been together 8 years I am guessing that you have built trust with him. However, it is kinda wierd that he would be trying to meet a girl on myspace... To me trust is one of the biggest factors in a relationship. If you have trusted him for this long and he has not hurt you before then I would put complete trust in him. And if he breaks it, then you need to take action.
2007-07-05 12:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ian R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all take a deep breath and relax, second just because he is talking with someone doesn't mean he has the desire to cheat on you, you need to trust him a little, relationships are built on trust. But on the other hand you need to know why he would even be talking to someone he just met when he already has a g/f. I suggest you have some faith in him and give him enough rope to hang himself, or prove he is trustworthy! Good luck!
2007-07-05 12:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by Tactical Medic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this sounds, you just gotta have trust in him. you cant do anything else but to trust him until he actually proves you wrong. you have to think if a person wants to cheat noone is gonna stop them from doing it. if this girl knew he was with you, he couldve just told her he was gonna tell her that to make you happy or he could just be real and want things to work between the both of you. you just have to trust him and let things be. the day you actually find out he cheated than you have all the reasons not to trust him. but dont be jealous and whatever you do dont question him about everything cause that pushes a man away and as stupid as this sounds sometimes it pushes a man to cheat..Im telling you from experience. hey you need to make your man know hes lucky to have you cause there could be some other guy out there trying to get with you.
2007-07-05 12:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by luvleebabygurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was he cheatin on you for her? if he was then he's prolly not done with her. cheaters only care about what they want not what their partners want. im in a relationship with a guy now who cheats on me all the time. he tells me he broke up with them. he really didnt. only reason im still with him is because i'm pregnant. i think you should get out of that relationship while you can, because you know what they say, once a cheater always a cheater. it might be hard and take a long time but you'll move past this n find mr. right
2007-07-05 12:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by The Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it he can't have a friend that is female. Do you have any friends that are the opposite sex. Maybe you can't eat or sleep because you feel guilty for the way you handled things. I am guessing you are are young, and would take this as a learning lesson, for future relationships, because if you feel the need to control who your boyfriend befriends, this relationship might not last for too long.
2007-07-05 12:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by ofsoundmind 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you come across to me as a crazy stalker chick. He comes across to me as... i don't know not enough info yet.
Your REALLY over reacting here. Maybe you should get to know the chick? I have a strict policy of all my female friends, that is they know and get to be at least aquaintences with my GF so there is at least some idea about each other's lives.
2007-07-05 12:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jim_atthedrive-in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it like 2 weeks and then check his phone, if he has texted her you can find out...
the best thing i would do personally is contact her on myspace yourself, i find that when the 2 girls talk you find out alot about the lying your man is doing to both of you...
2007-07-05 12:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by BeachLvr2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋