Is it to early, am I rushing, or should I live my life?

Question

I am about to be a senior in highschool. My boyfriend whom I have known since Freshman year are planning on going to the same college and getting serious in our relationship, very serious. He is planning on proposing to me after graduation before we go to college. Is being engaged at eighteen too young? I personally like the idea. It is better than just shacking up and having babies. He want's to marry me. What do you think?

Answer 1

I personally think 18 is too young...but really it is all about what YOU think. If at age 18 you truly feel ready, then go for the engagement. The nice thing about an engagement is that it still leaves open the possibility that if things don't work out, then you can both go your seperate ways. Good luck and I hope things work out.

Answer 2

Nah. Don't get married, and for sure don't have babies, sweetie.... Get your education... as my mom said when I was 16:

1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry... choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong... kids can destroy anything... and have no more than you yourself can support... you may have to.
3. Finish your education however long it takes Your education and kids are forever.... husbands and promises are not.
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you know you will never need it... you will, and the more the better....

OHHHH thank you mama.

Don't get married, hon. What you like at 18 ain't what you may like at 25. If you are still together after college, great. If not, fine too. But for sure, have no kids for a loooooggg time. Kids really do change your relationship... you go from being the sexy lady, the babe to mother and housekeeper. He goes from being the stud, the sex machine, the hunk, the father and provider... and your relationship is forever changed... be sure your bond is strong before to enter this phase... lots of marriages don't survive it.... read all these questions on this site... "OMG, I am 21 years old, we have 2 kids, I have no job, he's got a girl friend, I feel so left out... All I seem to do is change diapers, listen to a screaming kid, and clean house....We thought having a baaaayyyyybeeeee would be soooo romantic, and it isn't... help....yayadyadyadyadya... What do I do?????????"

Answer 3

No.But How about a Long Engagement if you are concerned.I do agree that shacking up is not a good idea.You 2 have been together for 4 yrs and that is something to be very proud of.I have been with My Husband since I was 15 and we are now 36 and 37 and been Married 15 &1/2 years.With 3 kids.You can have a long and Happy Faithful Marriage if you work hard at it.Good Luck

Answer 4

I think it's okay, it's never too early, except when you're 15, now that's exaggerating. But, he shouldn't of told you, he should of kept it a surprise because both are great chapters in your life, especially going to college and having a hubby at the same time.. WO!
But I think you should wait after college because you will be so busy with college that you won't have the time to plan your wedding. Maybe engage now but wait for marriage after college or do it all after college and get a job because a wedding can be cheap but if you have a dream wedding then it can come to be very expensive. I have a teacher that she has been with her fiance for 10 years but got engaged in a restaurant 5 years ago. They didn't get married yet and are waiting for a baby right now and I think she is late in her pregnancy. Just don't rush too much in your life, or else it could be boring after some time.

Good luck and have fun in college.

Answer 5

Emotionally it sounds romantic and wonderful, BUT before you get married you should know who you are first. Between the ages of 18 and 25 people do a lot of changing and growing. I recommend to work on your self and find a career first. The stronger a person you financially and emotionally the strong partner you will be in a relationship (married or not). Too many people have unrealistic expectations in life and marriage and later regret their foolishness. Learn a little about life, the world and yourself, then you will be able to know what is really important (to you) and also know how to get it.

Answer 6

Get engaged but wait to marry until you are finished with college. Having both people in college is extremely hard on a relationship emotionally and financially its nearly impossible. The chances of you dropping out are high. Its better to get your education and then get married once you have (as you put it) lived a little bit and become more stable.

Good luck

Answer 7

I think marriage is a wonderful thing, however I also think that 18 is too young. Sorry! I also think that it is better to be married than to like you said, "Shack up and have babies". But sweetie, you are too young to settle down that much. Marriage is a huge commitment. I was 21 when I got married and I still think that was too young. Please think about it long and hard before you make this kind of commitment. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

It all depends....as always :). For me it was a mistake....for my brother he and his highschool girlfriend have been together for many many years. I would say proposing might be a little to young...I wouldn't suggest marrying before you both get out of college...so you might want to wait for the end of that....but I don't think its too young to be very serious...just be serious and realistic :).

Answer 9

well you can be engaged but don't marry so soon wait until you guys are out of college and dont have a baby before that first get your lives together make sure you are completely sure before thoe don't rush in

Answer 10

worked for me--but we waited to get married until I was 20. Been married 10 years and life is great. You don't have to be with 10 different people--if you know he is the one then go for it!