I keep having dreams that my husband is cheating on me with someone at work. I will admit that I am the jealous type and it does run through my head sometimes, but those are childhood issues that i take out on my husband. Otherwise, he doesnt show any telltale signs of cheating. Some people tell me that I dream this b/c that is on my mind and others tell me that its a sign. What do you think?
2007-07-05 04:50:55 · 20 answers · asked by Blue 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you, indicates your fears of being abandoned. You may feel a lack of attention in the relationship. Alternatively, you may feel that you are not measuring up to the expectations of others. This notion may stem from issues of trust or self-esteem. The dream could also indicate that you are unconsciously picking up hints and cues that your significant other is not being completely truth or is not fully committed in the relationship."
On top of this, I'd like to say that I get a sense that you need to work on that childhood stuff as well. Stop pushing it back and ignoring it, and find yourself a good therapist who can help you with it. These dreams are screaming at you to resolve the past once and for all. Face your fear of it and it'll lose it's power over you.
2007-07-05 04:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simply because you are a 'jealous person' and it's on your mind. The 'subconscious' is the source of our dreams ... when we can't or don't want to think about something when we are awake, we 'dream about it' at night ... but because it's the subconscious the dreams only make 'some sense' and are filled with little bits of other 'withheld thoughts' that may or may not be directly related to the one being dealt with. We actually all have hundreds of dreams every night, but we only remember those we have right before we wake up ... so you might be 'more worried' about your husband cheating than you think, and that is 'helping to wake you' when you have this same/similar dream every night. Try TALKING WITH YOUR HUSBAND and tell him that you don't really 'think' he's cheating, but your childhood issues are causing this ... he should 'reassure you' that he's not cheating (even if he is cheating) and that should help these disturbing recurring dreams from happening so often.
2007-07-05 04:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing it is a sign of is your insecurity in your relationship with your husband. It is not a sign that anything is happening at all, it is merely the fact that you have thought about it and have some fears that it could happen and your mind is not letting it go. If your husband is showing now signs of a cheater and you have no real reason to suspect him, then you need to relax and enjoy the fact that he is not cheating on you. Do not let your fear that it could happen become a problem that need not exist. So many times, people will fear that their partner is cheating so much, that they convince themselves it is really happening and ruin a wonderful relationship. It either results in fights because one has to defend them-self against false accusations, they get tired of being accused of things they are not guilty of and they leave the relationship all together or they figure they are going to get accused of it, they may as well do it and at least enjoy the thing they are being constantly accused of. Don't let something that is not real change what you have.
2007-07-05 05:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a dream. A conglomeration of thoughts in your head that is strung together to make some sense because thats how your mind processes fragments of information.
If the signs aren't there then there is no reason to discuss this any further.
I do have to say that your husband must be a saint if he puts up with this paranoia issue that is a 'childhood issue'. So it being as such maybe you should try advancing from childhood to adulthood, don't you think?
2007-07-05 05:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only reason that i can see is that you have it in your mind to cheat . If your husband has no signs of cheating then its in YOUR mind not his . What ells could it be ? If you keep dreaming it the excitement intrigues you probably make you hot in away . Do you have better and more sex with your husband after a dream and look at it like you have to make love to him hard to keep him . I think you just need more excitement in your sex life
2007-07-05 05:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out and tell him. If you are upset about him keeping secrets from you, like another woman, stop and think, you are doing the same. You are keeping your worries a secret from him. Tell him about you dreams, and see how he reacts. If things start to change, like he comes home earlier, or starts to act like you are on to him, then worry and confront him again. If you can, show up to his work unannounced a time or two, go to lunch with him. Make sure he never knows when you will show up. But dreams are usually just our insecurities popping up and really nothing more. so don't jump all over him just because of a dream.
2007-07-05 04:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by aliciamichelle06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 15:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by vansoest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you dream it cause it is on your mind. And if you have been with guys that have cheated on you. You might be makeing him take the blame for what the others have done to you and made you feel.
2007-07-05 04:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by mother_of_three97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are not as close to your husband as you need to be to feel secure.
Or...sometimes...in our dreams we face our worst fears. It is a self-protection thing.
Dreams are not signs, please don't believe in superstitions because they are the path to stupidity. Listen to the rational and logical side of your mind that is telling you that he doesn't show any signs of cheating.
2007-07-05 05:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to plan a getaway with your hubby to assure yourself of his love for you. Sometimes if there hasn't been intimacy for a while it can stir up feelings of insecurity and distrust.
Keep in mind that if it is his desire to be unfaithful there will be nothing you could do to prevent it so stop driving yourself crazy with "what ifs". Do what you can to make sure he loves to come home to you. Men will fool around with other women because of how they feel about themselves when they are with them. If he is happy at home he won't wonder. Also, if he hasn't given you any reason to distrust him don't punish him with suspicions and paranoia.
2007-07-05 04:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋