Why are self-harmers so caring towards others?

Question

Why is it that people who self-harm or have self-harmed are so caring to others more than people who havent self-harmed before, i know some people may disagree but it's seriously true no offense is meant to anyone it's just a random question

To people who dont know a self-harmer/ have never come in contact with a self-harmer....I'm a self harmer and i care deeply about others and i try to help at any opitunity i get, self-harmers are not attetion seckers and for thoughs who think thay are i just want to say "you dont know us and do not have the right to judge us and if you do feel you have to judge us then keep your judgements to yourselves" now you've meet a self-harmer and have learnt something about them.

Answer 1

I don't know that they are. I have a niece who self halmed, and she is without a doubt one of the most difficult, unplesant people I know.

Answer 2

A lot of people lash out at others convinced they are the root of the suffering in their lives

The self harmer is introverted, sensitive and usually intelligent. They are NEVER the type to get drunk and start swinging their fists about in a town centre, behaviour considered 'normal' by this strange society we live in

Schizophrenics might attack themselves and others but they are rare in number. The introverted self harmer outnumbers them by a great deal.

*If you dont have a clue on the subject, ie not read anything on the subject and have not known anyone who has done this, why do you answer? Your ridiculous paranoid and uneducated remarks embarrass you

Answer 3

I have been cutting for the past 9 years. I started it when I was very young and not able to comprehend what I had started. Cutting is a way for people to feel physical pain rather then emotional pain. Because cutting has become more popular it is possible that people cut soon then handle the world in healthier ways. I do think that, sadly, some people do cut for attention but I believe that cutting for attention is a sigh that something is wrong. I do not think that cutting should determine weather someone gets hired for a job or not. I personally have scars all over my arms and wrist that are very obvious and I think that it is the cutters responsibility to properly cover scars to not distract. I have to wear long sleeves even when it is 90 degrees outside but I choose to do that so I would not be judged by my employer or any one else. As a cutter myself I see young cutters, not as being immature but naive.

Answer 4

I wonder whether it's a way of seeking approval from others and improving you're self-esteem. I've been a self-harmer for most of my life, which I put down to low self-esteem due to a partial disability. By chance, I discovered a website for self-harmers which enables us to offer and get all the support we need. All the best.

Answer 5

I kow what you mean i used to self harm alot i would never ever dream of hurting anyone else, i would always do anything to help others i even ended up working in a care home and looking after old people.
I think we are this way because it makes us feel needed, appreciated and worthwhile cos normally when you self harm you don't .

Answer 6

You're right hun. I have a great deal of compasion for other people but not myself. I developed problems three years ago which i can not cope with and started to self harm about a month ago.
You care about others who do not care about you. Why is this?

Answer 7

becouse they properly know what it feels lke and why they do it. i mean non self harmers nornally dont really understand what it feels like (the relief and good pain) or why they do it (normally because they feel they deserve the pain as a punishement or takes away pain from somthing else).

Answer 8

Caring toward other people who self-harm or just others in general?
Maybe empathy or just because they know what it's like to feel sh*tty.

Answer 9

They are probably more caring toward others because they believe that other people are more worthwhile. Self-abusers typically have low self-esteem so it seems logical to them that everyone else deserves more care and attention than themselves.

Answer 10

Perhaps the reason why they are self harming is that they are sensitive and/or have been through difficult times so can empathise with others.

Answer 11

cant agree, my ex wife use to claw herself bloody, it was even recorded in the mental health hospital, but one day she got mad at me and did it again, and called the police, when i told the officer i didn't do it and she had a history of it , just call the hospital, the officer wouldn't listen ,so i went to jail for two days, when the DA looked into it i was let go and told to go back home, of course i tried to sue the police department but got no where, one officer told me latter i would rather live under the bridge than go back to that woman, but i went back, thank God i remarried just last summer, so the story finally has a happy ending. :)