things between my b/f and i are NOT GOOD right now.all we do is fight and i cant take it anymore..its always the same thing to..... a bad cycle...we fight i get stopmed on, put down screamed at and he apologizes and i stay......this time i left and now im pregnant and it sux! ......and any other time i would have been so happy but right now i am missrable and do not want to be pregnant at all! i dont know if this is just because things are rough or what but i feel horrible.......i feel bad that this little baby is coming into this hellish world!!! i dont know what to do....stay and try to fix it once again or be done and do it alone~again..i have a 2 yr old and his father lives out of state
2007-07-05 04:34:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
thanks for the feed back....right now my son and i are at my parents house, and that is working out great! a lot less stress but my b/f keeps showing up and bugging me all the time! its not a game we really thought we were ready to add to our family so i stopped my BC pills and now i am pregnant. Everything happens for a reason i jut wish i knew what this reason is..........
2007-07-05 05:41:18 · update #1
Your emotions are running high due to pregnancy but it sounds like your emotions might be running high a lot due to the instability in your relationship.
You can either talk things out and decide to act like adults or you should do what is best for you and your children. Children cannot help what they are born into, right? So you have the choice of working things out... he has to be cooperative of course, or seeking out other options, such as family and friends to help you through this.
It should be an exciting time for you!!!!!
Best of luck
2007-07-05 04:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by ivy9toes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is why some religions say that is sin to have sex outside marriage and all that. It sucks, i know because i am a father without marriage.
You must try to at least be a friend with your boyfriend. After all, he as the father have the responsibility (by laws also in most countries) to take care of the baby, too. At least he must buy things for the baby such as milk, diapers, food and the like, when the baby needs.
Some couples manage to go together after the birth of the baby, but most couples who marry before the baby birth broke soon or later. You do not marry for the responsability of the baby, but because you decide to love forever and love your boyfriend, that is.
I have some help of my faith, so maybe if you are a believer is a good idea.
2007-07-05 04:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Alder_Fiter_Galaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's best if you talk to somebody about your problem first..with your mom perhaps?or a bestfriend?somebody close to you and understands the situation that you're in. you mentioned that you already have a 2 yr. old and i assume that you're a single parent. it would be pretty rough on you and with your kid too, being pregnant and miserable. but, whatever you do, dont make hasty decisions. you might regret it in the future.weigh your options: can you handle another kid, emotionally and financially speaking?is your bf even aware that you are pregnant? you need to let him know; it's not just your problem. it's his too.he should do his share.it's his right and responsibility and he shouldnt run away from it.
hope things turn out well for you..
2007-07-05 04:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just give that baby the love it deserves...loving and doing right by your child is all the both of you will need to survive. If you've got that then everything else finances, etc will just fall into place.
Your bf has some anger issues and you nor your child need that. If you're miserable then trust me you'll be happier on your own. Its hard, but not as hard as trying to keep yourself up while someone is pushing you down, whether it be physically, verbally, emotionally; does not matter.
2007-07-05 04:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offence but it sounds as though having these kids is a sort of game. It's probably just the way this is written. If you love the guy, then go back to him and try to work things out. If it really doesn't work then maybe you should live somewhere else and try and work things out like that.
2007-07-05 04:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kaidra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need your family right now. Don't stay in a dead end relationship. It's not healthy for you or your baby. Get in touch with your family. And it also sounds like you need to go on birth control after you have this baby.
2007-07-05 04:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by pennpromp12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out...stay out! Period. That relationship is toxic. If you can't handle the baby then you can look at adoption or open adoption.
Stay away from someone that is toxic with you.
Truth
2007-07-05 06:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by I gotta Tell you... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay gone, you don't need the stress and you don't need to have a child in that enivorment.
2007-07-05 04:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by blebert2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend, I am so concerned for your safety. Please get a restraining order on your ex boyfriend. People can not be stomped upon, especially when pregnant. Please take good care. Sincerely, Runner
2007-07-05 13:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pray and also i will be praying for you!! here my email address if you need a friend!! efrain78223@yahoo.com
2007-07-05 04:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋