its about my marraige save it?

Question

i dont know how to describe but its very difficult i m married to a guy of my own choice and after 4 yrs of marraige i found that i dont love him he is mothers boy now being with him i feel the need of someone else mentally with whom i can share my feelings and etc i dont want to break my marraige and at the same time i m missing the guy who use to love me earlier and now he is also happeily married i dont know what to do?

Answer 1

You need to decide what it is you really want before you make any decisions...Sometimes people tend to think that the grasser is greener on the other side but, what they fail to realize is that if you nuture your own grass it can be as green too....Don't be fool by the illusions that things can be better with someone else if your not focusing on who your with...Everyone has problems but, don't make mistakes that you may regret later...If it's space that you need so you can do some realizing that by all means let your husband know but, don't leave one person for another nor one marriage for a relationship that you may be unhappy with later

Answer 2

Try to take yourself back to the days and moments that you were madly in love with your husband. What attracted you to him in the first place? Sometimes as the marriage progresses we get caught in a rut and forget why we fell in love in the first place.

Your marriage is worth saving. The feelings that you are going through now, happen to so many couples. We tend to get "comfortable" in our marriages. Find that little something to make things more romantic again...fall in love with your husband all over again.

The "other" guy is married. Don't lower yourself to pining over someone that belongs to another woman. You are too good to fall into the category of a home wrecker.

Everyone always suggests counseling in matters like this. I agree with that, but first try the suggestions I have previously mentioned and see if that works. You feel in love with him and married him...you can fall in love with him all over again, if you just give it a chance.

This advice comes from a woman that was married for 33 years and divorced three years ago. You know? Divorce is difficult and I only proceeded with that course, when there was absolutely no hope left for the marriage. I gave my marriage every chance in the world to succeed. I was proud that I gave it my best efforts.

I don't want to see you go through the same thing. How bout a bubble bath with some candles surrounding the tub, with some soft music playing; as a treat for you and your husband tonight? It may do wonders...

Good luck to you sweetie...Really!

Answer 3

In other words you're giving seroius consideration to entering into an affair of sorts. Not necessarily with the other guy whose married but with someone intellectually and sexually stimulating as well. Of course..I realize you didn't mention the sexually stimulating part but lets face it.....you don't think someone is going to love you just for your mind alone do you?

So...if you do know the risks involved and that there is no going back because the die has been cast. Either that or practice self control.

Answer 4

The first thin you need to do is sit him down and tell him that you are either falling out of love with him or you already have and be honest. Everyone has the right to change their minds or leave someone they don't want to be with but it is the way you do it that will make you a good person. Forget the ex lover and make your decisions based on the relationship you are in and the man you promised to be with forever.

Answer 5

You sound like you are saying you need a man in your life to be happy. Any time you look outside of yourself for happiness you will miss it. Take care of you. Get a small group of friends with whom you can share and be yourself. Your marriage may or may not survive, but you will be well cared for. You deserve better... but it won't necessarily be with anyone else.

Answer 6

You have unresolved issues with your ex. Move on because life is too short to have loads of guilt over the past. If you love your husband and the feeling is mutual, get into therapy for couples as soon as possible. And best wishes to you both.

Answer 7

He needs to snap out of it. He really needs to make a choice between you and his mother. This is common and most guys mature enough to let mama go, but may need some encouragement...he needs to know that he is the man and needs to step up to the plate without mama's consent and knowledge of his life. If he is not willing to let go...I strongly suppgest for you to look for another husband.

Answer 8

this is easy...if you want more attention then sit down and tell him in a loving way you want to share more with him. dont use the words you need more he isnt giving enough.. a momas boy means he is a loyal person, which means he will be loyal to you as well....so....tell him in a loving way not a selfish way, and also tell him u want him to share more with you...

Answer 9

I think you should concentrate on making things work with your husband and forget about the man you used to be with. Communicate with your husband about what you feel is lacking in your relationship.

Communication is key.

Answer 10

If you love this man and want him then relocate so the mother is not close to your home. Maybe talking to him and his mother through counseling would help.Is there any children involved???