broke up with my now x gf last thursday, for quite some time, i have been feeling like a doormat being put on the back burner and this treatment started after a big fight that was my fought i treated her nice and etc but she kept on doing this. on thursday she went out with her friends and i ask her to see her before i go on vacation and she said yea, then i text her that i was going to the movies with my guy friend she flip and began cursing at me and told me im not going to see u later on after the movie i call her and she didnt pick up she out hanging out and wasnt available to see me. i felt that it was a smack in my face. so i had enough so i broke up with her was i overreacting? after i broke i told her its over she call me 3x and then finally text me, good luck i hope u find the right girl for u as i wasnt the one, i wish u the best. now on monday she text me and tells me to read my email, in the email she writes"eventhough we didnt work out i want to be friends, u r a great
2007-07-05 03:55:31 · 7 answers · asked by simple J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
person and eventhough we fought alot it was great between us, i wish u the best and i hope u find the girl u r looking for. i still love you and please respnd back to this email" so i responded " im sorry for what happen and i wish u the best too and i hope u find that guy that makes u complete i thought we had something special but it got too outta line between us best of luck" after this email she call me 5x at work to talk she told me she still loves me and told me what went wrong between us, i told her alot of things then i hung up later on that night i got 5x private calls and i know it was her, i havent heard from her since and this was tuesday what should i do i will like to work things out if she could go back to her old ways before the big fight because she was great
what should i do? what should i say?
thanx
2007-07-05 03:58:45 · update #1
from a female's perspective, i think she needs some room to grow and to be on her own. i understand you miss her, and she probably misses you too (hence the private calls), but she just doesn't seem like she wants to persue a relationship any longer. if you feel like you can't be "just friends" with her, then cut off all communication with her, which will be the easiest way to get her out of your head. start going out and hanging out with your boys, you will eventually find another girl to fill that void that your ex filled at one time. if you felt like you were put on a back burner, then she probably isn't ready to give someone her all...
take this time to have fun, live life, and have no regrets! =)
2007-07-05 04:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think even though you may have overreacted you have been feeling unapprecaited for quite some time....Sooner or later things would have been at a low point where someone would have been doing the break off....I'm not sure if you ever told her how you felt and maybe things could have been worked out but, there comes a time where if your not happy things can get alittle ugly..Maybe time apart can be a good thing for the both of you to do some realizing...No one should take anyone for granted nor should anyone be unhappy in a relationship where there is love involve...
2007-07-05 04:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't state your age, but you are both babies. Adults don't treat each other as door mats, and adults don't start screaming and shouting, and adults learn to discuss differences without rage and resentment.... You and she can't/don't do that. Learn from this error, no matter how old you are. When people end up cussing at each other, there really isn't a relationship of love, kindness and support. If you were never told this, remember it... "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say it at all...."
As for her, she's even more infantile that you... consider it a learning lesson.....
2007-07-05 04:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds familiar to me this is happen a lot...the only advice i can give you is try to work things out if its still doesn't work then find someone better you deserve. She might not the one for you but you had good times with her. You should still talk to her, she sound acting like childish or immature. Don't be push around by her your too nice you don't deserve her. Try to move on. Goodluck to you!
2007-07-05 04:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to mature a little and never hang up on a call that is so rude. You need to meet other people this relationship is OVER! Read what you wrote it's obvious it's not a healthy relationship and you are both behaving very childishly.
2007-07-05 04:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by sleepyhollow50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both seem to be made for one another. Your common bonds seem to be no self esteem, no common sense and no scruples or dignity.
In short....a beautiful relationship.
2007-07-05 04:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.... move on, buddy. She is volatile. There are women out there who aren't crazy.
2007-07-05 03:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋