keeping him excited?

Question

I do not want my husband to get bored or lose interest in me giving him sex and bj's.I want him to want it more and be excited about it. we dont have a problem now, we are passionate having been married for two years but It is just something that worries me now and again coz I hear guys get used to having sex with the same woman and lose interest.Is holding back a good idea.he always gets it whenever he wants it.I jut need ideas to keep the fire burning.

Answer 1

Even the best roller coaster gets tiresome after a while. It just happens if you are human. Most men want what they can't have, and if you give it out too freely he might get bored with that. Maybe try some mysterious attitude and make him work at it.

Answer 2

This what I said earlier this week. I work with mostly all guys @ my present job and all women @ my last. Do not hold out!

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker

try doing just the opposite of what u normally do, normal=boring, Just start with you initiating it, if he us ally does. Maybe use a blind fold. Or sum early morning/middle of the nite surprise sex. Join him in the shower, even if it is just 2 make out. Your are never 2 old 2 just make out, a lot of people 4get that an that's important. A lot of women don't like porn, but it can be get 4 pointers and to have on when u guys are making love. But u need 2 talk 2 him and find out what would really turn him on. And I mean, talk in the sense of sexy, not a sit down power point symposium. But a soft whisper in the ear "what would you like me 2 do 4 u 2day" or " What would make u hot enuff 2 take me 2 bed, ( insert sexy name, i.e Stud, big boy, or daddy) Try leaving a note on the door 4 when he gets home 2 let him know u are in bed naked and waiting 4 him, cuz u couldn't stop thinking of him all day, and now u wanns release some of your backed up tension on him. Man are pretty easy 2 entices, it is us ally the woman, that lose there drive with the day to day activity, kids, work, and the lack of attention given 2 them from their husbands. You can call him @ work and tell him to meet u @ a nice little restaurant and act like it's your 1st time meeting 1 another. Then go home or have a room ready @ a local hotel. And sometimes it is not how you do it , or when it's where. I am not saying get arrested, but sneak in a clothing room 4 a little fooling around. There coed changing room like @ Old Navy, act like u want his opinion on and outfit, or 2 zipper u up. No one will give it a second thought. Or in the car, the thought of being caught can be exciting, and if the cops do show, married ppl are usually just told 2 move on. Even the kitchen or the Closet so you can't see each other. MayB shaving blow, if u don't or in2 a shape(heart) or dying it a color Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

i dont think he ll lose interest, if you both are really into each other...at least not for a long time anyway.... i heard once that a man will lose interest in sex with the same female once clock hits 1000 times. not sure if thats true.. i have passed 1000 times with mrs hog rider and am still interested.. before you think 1000 times isnt much, and if it were money it wouldnt be but do the math...avg frequency past year 5 lets say...once a week... probably reasonable because theres gonna a week once a month you dont do it, some weeks, you dont have time, pregnancy and cant do it... ect, you get the idea... ill give you 200 times fo rthe first 5 years.. that leaves 800 weeks where you only avg once a week... so you will have about 22 years or so before the 1000 times run out... that being said... ive been married 25 years and have probably passed the 1000 mark a decade ago and still have interest.. (we have and still do do it alot) keep it interesting, do stuff together, keep lines of communication open, take care of yourselves.. sex should nt ever be a problem....

Answer 4

From a guys point of view,..i would say..don't think the burden of keeping the spark in your relationship is only your responsibility...it takes two to tango..Also,.. you may try being unpredictable,..non routines so to speak...the guy is Lucky that you are concerned enough about the passion content of your relationship to try to get ideas on ways to keep the fire going. Some say it is natural for passion to subside ..and to an extent i agree...however i also believe that making love is more than simply satisfying your mate., and more than making yourself available for intimate contact..sometimes just a look,..or a slight touch is enough to arouse the passion ..anyway...keep experimenting ...you will do fine it sounds like you have a healthy love relationship going...I wish you all the luck in the future....i hope this helps.

Answer 5

Even the best roller coaster gets tiresome after a while. It just happens if you are human. Most men want what they can't have, and if you give it out too freely he might get bored with that. Maybe try some mysterious attitude and make him work at it. Throw that booty back wearing a sexy thong. Try saying somethign dirty or doing someting unexpected. just dont do it all too fast or you will run out of things to try.

Answer 6

Try new stuff.Take him to a very nice motel,that's very fun.Buy sexy underwear,try porn and do crazy things.The truth is that most of the time our husband likes very wild sex.Just have fun and do whatever you feel like in bed,do not get embarrassed,he will love it.You should go to borders or any other bookstore,and find some sex books,they might give you very good tips that your husband will love.Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Honey he is a man, as long as you give him sex, it doesn't matter what you do to him he will be happy. Let him come up with things that he would like to do. sometimes they are scare of telling us, because face it a lot of women are still shy in the sex department. So ask him, don't be shy about it, that's the best way to find out what he wants.
Good luck

Answer 8

Just keep doing what your doing, and let him know that you're open to disscuss it should the problem ever arise.
And if you're really adventure-ish, then try buying some sex books, toys, and differnt condoms(like the ribbed ones, etc.)
the sex books, depending on if you get a really good one, will tell you differnt ways to do BJ's, positions, etc.
Don't stress yourself about it.though. It sounds like you both are content at the moment.

Answer 9

The things I could tell you to do that my wife started doing after 15 years of marriage are to detailed (graphic) for this board. My email link is on. Feel free to send me a message and I'll explain similar to the way I have done for others.

Answer 10

Holding back is the wrong approach. You need to find ways to keep it new and fresh for both of you. Wear something different and sexy. Change your hair. Do it somewhere different. Ask about his fantasies and tell him about yours. Try different things. See how long you can make it last. Use a new position. Keep it fun!

Answer 11

Ever so often do something out of the norm,say like games,from like karama sutra ect. Do different positions,get in front of a mirror and let each other watch ect. Just have fun sometimes doing things out tof the norm...