If being gay is normal?

Question

why are (or were) you ever in a closet in the first place???

Only people who are ashamed or know they are wrong about something would ever try to hide something... So why??

By the way....I am NOT Gay.

Answer 1

i'm not gay but my guess is because they know that their friends and/or family are going to have a problem with it..... not ashamed but they know it is not accepted by many

Answer 2

Well I wasn't. Everyone just assumed I was heterosexual, it was them that made the closet, not me.

So I didn't hide it, others just assumed wrongly, so I corrected them when I found out that not everyone was like me, which I truly believed until I found out about the sexual orientation spectrum.

I harbor no guilt, or shame, I wasn't raised with any of the preconceived notions that gay is wrong or anything, so to me it's no more important than my eye colour.

I mean it's sorta tough telling people because it's just big news, and there's fear of rejection from not being part of the more common lifestyle, but on the other hand, if I wasn't honest with people, I'd be a big fat liar.

So I'm honest, I hide from noone.

But people still assume I'm heterosexual if they generally don't know me, in which case again, it's not me hiding, it's them assuming.

And I refuse to wear a tag that identifies me as homosexual, not because I'm ashamed, but because I'm no different from everyone else, and shouldn't be held to a higher standard.

However, I do not at all assume that other people are heterosexual, or LGBT, so I have learned a thing or 2.

Answer 3

Well being black is normal and look what middle class white america did to them for decades. I'm sure if they could have kept "closeted" about being black to escape slavery, they would have. We are not ashamed. We have to deal with all the hatefulness people put into the world. I came out at 23, I wasn't in there because I was ashamed. I was in there because the judgemental world that we live in let me grow up in a world where being gay was not viewed as a "normal" option. So, it took me some time to realize that I was in fact gay. I figured it out in my late teens and I was fine with it myself, not ashamed at all. It was the people around me I was worried about. I didn't know how they'd react and I was scared.

Answer 4

Look at where you've said "Only people who are ashamed or know they are wrong about something would ever try to hide something... So why??" and the other homophobic responses within this thread, then there's the voilence and hatred shown towards gays so is it a question that really needs asking?

Answer 5

I disagree with your statement "Only people who are ashamed or know they are wrong about something would ever try to hide something."

There are many, many more reasons why people want to keep their private life private. Yes, I'm sure some people hide it because they are ashamed - they shouldn't be, but quite frankly I don't blame them for feeling that way, with some people's attitudes. But they also may be hiding it because they haven't fully made a decision on their sexuality yet, or because they don't want to cause a big fuss, or just because they see no reason to announce it. Straight people don't just suddenly announce that they're straight, do they? Everyone has their own reason so don't assume that they don't come out because they think they're doing something wrong.

Answer 6

We were in the closet because we hadn't realized we were gay yet. Very few people have sexual feelings in infancy. When you're first figuring your sexuality out, you feel insecure about ANY type of sex. It's not something you're born knowing. Some people choose to hide from the hate, and I can't say I blame them.

Answer 7

Because the general media shows homosexuals to be bad or harmful to society. Their message is that if you're not like the majority of people, you aren't welcome among us. This message is idiotic and this media is run by bigotry and discrimination. This media is the reason that there are so many racists and homophobics in the country. The general public is being taught to hate people who are part of a minority. The same basic thing happened back in 1994 with the Rwandan Genocide, though their media brought about more violent results and their message was a lot more direct. And the victims were a majority.
People try to pretend it's not true by hating people who are too direct in this hatred, like Don Imus for example. People typically hate Bill O'Reily for being too direct without crossing any lines, but also because he's childish and refuses to listen to reason, rather than his own hate based thinking that his mind won't waver from, not to mention his ego.

Answer 8

Its not about being ashamed

And there is no such thing as normal

While i was growing up I was taught being gay is wrong. Im half southern italian and half african american and my whole entire family is homophobic. When you grow up in a family that talks bad about gay people and dosen't accept that kind of lifestyle you get scared and you don't want that to be you. so you would rather surpress those feelings then having your family stop talking to you and outcast you.

Answer 9

You know.. it's not always that simple. People are scared they won't be accepted, they won't be liked.. that people will discriminate them. And sometimes, knowing that there are people out there who think being gay is wrong or whatever, it makes them doubt what they think, what they believe in. And if they truly believe it's not wrong, that it's okay to be gay, then they might be scared of rejection, of being disliked or unaccepted. But when they come to terms with all these things and with who they are, they come out of the closet.
Being something society doesn't really accept isn't that easy. It takes some courage.

Answer 10

I want to say something, but I want to qualify what I'm going to say first - please read my ENTIRE statement, or you won't understand.

Gays were FORCED into the closet due to societal fears of violence against them, including murder. There is NO debate about this - its still happening. I have been the victim of violence against gays, and I'm not even gay!

However to say that it is "normal" to be gay is probably the wrong word. If it were "normal", then half of the population would be homosexuals, and apparently only about 3% are. It might be more accurate to say that it is natural for SOME people to be gay, just as it is natural for some people to be over seven feet tall. Is that "normal"? No, but it is "natural". My language skills are abnormal - they are VERY high, so I am "abnormal" in at least that respect, but to say that it is wrong because it isn't normal is not right. Gay men and women have contributed a great deal to our culture, some of whom you probably didn't even know where gay.

Answer 11

Wake up weetie! These folks are, or have been "in the closet" because they live in a society that has made it hard on them for centuries. Being black is also normal, but black Americans for centuries black Americans learned to walk very softly and keep a low profile for the same reason. True, their plight was even worse, but it is a startling example of how our society has treated those it has chosen to discriminate against.

In both cases ignorance was the culprit.