We've been together for 1 year and 8 months, very happy, just spent a month of summer together, then he breaks up with me in the end?!?!?!?!
How in the hell can you tell someone you love them and you want to spend the rest of your life with them and then you break up with them? We've been so happy together, his family and my family are really close, his parents love me. We got engaged but hadnt set an official date. Did I mention that his mom was at the hospital when my mom was giving birth to me? thats how close we are, or were....he just tells me that its not working out. Im so upset and so hurt, yet so angry. I've cried all night last night.I want to be with him so bad. I love this human being with all my heart. We've always completed each other. What do I do? I'm so confused. Do I just turn around and walk away? B/c Its tearing me apart. I have no sleep, nothing.
2007-07-05 03:34:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A few possibilities:
1. He's met someone else.
2. He's met someone else.
3. He feels smothered and wants to break away and play the field and see if you'll wait.
4. He's met someone else.
My choice is probably not what most people would do, but it is what I have always done when leaving school, ending relationships with people or leaving jobs, and that is just to turn around and walk away. For me, there is less chaos and I can get on with my life. Not what most people do, but I grew up with very little security and prefer not to rely on other people to make me happy or complete. I love my husband, but I am with him because I want to be, not because I need to be.
2007-07-05 03:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Teresa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You feel one way, he doesn't.
Simple as that.
He needs time to grow, you figured you would grow together.
You sound a little young, like this was your first serious affair, and maybe you have always known each other. Maybe he realized that you were all he knew and he needs out a little to play the field. If so he was being both confused and fair.
No one can complete you, that's quite a heavy burden to lay on someone, he may not be ready for what you feel ready for.
Learn to complete yourself, learn to be yourself by yourself, then you will be ready to share the best of you with the person you were really meant to be with, not just the person who was the nearest.
2007-07-05 10:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds immature. He was telling you what you wanted to hear so that he could be with you and then dumped you when he got bored. You were in love with the person he was pretending to be but since that person doesn't really exist you should count yourself lucky that you didn't end up married where you then would have to go through a divorce. Good luck
2007-07-05 11:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kristy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to tell you the truth. It's not you it's me is not a reason, there's always something else. But if he says it's over then don't be after him. Sometimes in life we think we have the best of everything when everything goes well, but there's always a reason why things happen. You love him very much, but he might not be the one for you. God works in mysterious ways and sometimes when it happens we don't always understand the reasons. Just try to remember that. But do talk to him and if he really says it's over then you don't have a choice but to except it.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-07-05 10:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were his reasons for breaking up? Maybe it was getting serious and he feels like he needs some space until he makes things "legal."
I wouldn't be too upset just yet. Leave him be, let him do his thing and let him miss you. Guys do this, then realize they miss what they had and come back.
And honestly just because he broke up doesnt' mean he's met someone else. Generally, that isn't the case.
2007-07-05 10:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets put it this way....if the only reason he gave you was "it isn't working out" and that's it...then let it go. There obviously is much more and he isn't or doesn't care to be forthcoming about it.
Pushing for answers may only bring you additional grief however if it's closure you're looking for then I guess you'll have to push the issue and ask him why.
In any event....do you really want to throw yourself at him if he's being this way? Think of your pride and your scruples.
2007-07-05 10:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to walk away....he isn't the one. As unhappy as youare now, imagine how hurt you would be YEARS from now.
In the words of Oscar Wilde "I see when men love women. They give them but a little of their lives. But women when they love give everything."
I am sory for your heartache, truly.
2007-07-05 14:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by sparky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was guessing, he is interested in someone else. I believe he does love you but something has changed his plans and thoughts. keep your eyes open but until he comes back to you and you accept him back, go live your life and have some fun. I know it hurts but it will hurt even worse waiting for a year and seeing him with someone el;se while your life is on hold.
2007-07-05 10:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Frank L 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
walk away. in his eyes, it is better to walk away than to proceed with something that he thinks will fail. Was it a one sided relationship? Did you give it your all even afer the engagement?
2007-07-05 10:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by Yes I am here!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's found someone else, and when that doesn't work out, he'll come back to you. Question is, will you forgive him and take him back? That, or he's gay (not that there's anything wrong with that), and he can't lie to himself anymore.
2007-07-05 10:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋