2007-07-05 03:11:57 · 41 answers · asked by shruti m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I never had an arranged marriage. I would rather do it the love marriage way, personally.
A friend of mine from Lebanon, where they arrange marriages had told me that in America we marry the one we love. In Lebanon you love the one you marry. It makes sense if you think about it.
2007-07-05 03:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by TOMCTOM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging from the outcomes of some of the love marriages made in the West, arranged marriages may have some greater positives in that the arranged marriages may be more objective regarding the criteria for the matching of the marriage partners. Love marriages are often based on feelings and outward appearances. Arranged marriages are often based on finances, similar religious beliefs and backgrounds and long-standing family agreements . Therefore, many arranged marriages start out with the couple having more things in common and support from other family members than do love marriages. Feelings and acceptance of outward appearances may come later in an arranged marriage but if and when they do, they are deeper and often more lasting because the things that really matter have already been considered by objective planners without much regard to feelings and emotions. This opinion is theoretical because most of my observations have been in Western cultures.. Arranged marriages also depend on the expertise and insight of the matchmakers as well but these are usually more experienced and more mature than the bride and the groom.
2007-07-05 03:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE MARRIAGE
I would like to say that also Love marriage are based on a principle....in America, England and all the West part of the world arranged marriages don`t exist anymore, this doesn`t mean they have never existed... Nowadays, you can just live togheter for all your life with your loved person and never get married, that`s the perfect solution for people who don`t believe in the holy principle of marriage...For the ones who do believe in marriage and love, the bond is holy and the principle is always respected.
I don`t know the statistics so, I can`t say if arranged marriages last longer than the ones based on love but even if it is ... how relevant is for you the happiness of both human being? In most of the cases, the men are cheating and the women are suffering and growing up children....
The best thing is to close your eyes and think about the perfect woman that can match with you... it takes time but I am sure you will find her... and you will not divorce if there is true love... and you will be proud of your LOVED family.....
2007-07-05 04:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by forsequalcunamisfugge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both have their advantages and disavdvantages, for example, a love marriage may ware off when an arranged marriage, you eventually come to like the person, -which may take a while, and the love marriage may have higher divorce rates than arranged ones.
Personally you may think of more. I would go for Love marriage as I c/would probably sustain it more for my lady. You would have to keep renewing this love again and again, and it could be difficult. I would not base it on looks rather the persons personality and charm and wit and passion and charity...
But I have to know the person to get along with, if I know her I would spend more time with her - if she liked me back this time more intensely, I would further my friendship with her and shower her with anything she wants, this includes love.
At the endo of the day, it is up to you. If you want an arranged marriage (not to be confused with forced marriage) you have to get the parents involved - this means you probably lack confidence (although in some cultures it is compulsory) - you would first have to have their approval then the girls or mans. Then they would spend time with each other to get to know one another (although relativley short), then it is a quick decision "yes" or "no".
Then the final step: rejection or marriage...
2007-07-05 03:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who you ask. Most people, especially those living in countries like America and England, etc. will say love. Marriages that consist of love will be an emotional satisfying experience. As long as the two are happily in love, their marriage will be blissful. However, with "love", sometimes attractions die down, or arguments/fights cause you to do things you regret like cheating.
Arranged marriages are based on a principle. It isn't about love, it's about being true to the principle of what marriage is all about- a holy and sacred bond between two people. You don't have to be in love to get married or have children. If you think about it arranged marriages are much more successful (in terms of lasting and not getting a divorced) than marriages based on love since these marriages have a sacred purpose. To keep a bond between the two and have children. Love marriages do not promise that. However, you don't necessarily feel the "love" in an arranged marriage but you feel the "purpose''.
2007-07-05 03:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by melly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love
How could an arranged marriage ever be better? Maybe if the guy is rich and you cheat on him and find real love...then an arranged marriage might come close to a REAL marriage
2007-07-05 03:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by azure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love marriage
2007-07-05 03:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people will automatically answer 'love' but I don't know so much.
People marry for 'love' and can then find it hard to get on with the like part for the rest of their lives. They never learn how to get along with each other and what they called 'love' and was lust dies.
With a good arranged marriage the temperaments of the couple will have been taken into account and their parents will have thought carefully about what is best for their children.
Some arranged marries start with friendship and turn to love while some love marriages start with lust and end in hatred and divorce.
2007-07-05 03:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever it is, make sure it lasts. No point marrying out of love but you end up in divorce. My as well go for arrange marriage and because of the mutual respect, the marriage can last.
2007-07-05 03:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Ranania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe in a love marriage. But I do have a friend that had an arranged marriage and they are perfect for each other. I do believe that your family knows you better than you know yourself so no matter which type of marriage you go for you family should approve of it and it will work.
2007-07-05 03:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋