I like men and women but my mom says there is no such thing as bi. Do you agree?

Question

She says there is one that you like more than the other.

Answer 1

That is a complicated answer. Yes there is such a thing as being bisexual, but it doesn't necessarily mean you are equally attracted to both sexes:it just means that you find both sexes attractive. I myself would be a perfect example. I am attracted to both women and men, but I identify as a lesbian. Mainly because I prefer women to men.

Then there are people who started out as bisexual, but then decided to just swing one way or the other. I knew of a girl who was bisexual, but found it more convenient to be heterosexual and never pursued a same sex relationship again.

Of course, it's more of what you think and how you feel comfortable identifying yourself. It's not for others to decide.

Answer 2

Your mom is mostly wrong and a little right. Yes, there is such a thing as bisexuality. But it doesn't mean a 50/50 split all the time. Many bi people, such as myself, are attracted more to one sex than to the other, but we still like both. Take a look at the Kinsey Scale. I'm somewhere between a 4 and a 5 myself.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

Answer 3

still bi though, aka, liking both guys and gals.

heterosexual ( hetero = opposite) = liking only the opposite sex.
homosexual (homo = same) = likes only same sex.
bisexual ( bi = 2) = likes both in some way shape or form.

i'm bisexual with a 80% preferance towards the same sex, but that doesn't make me either completley gay or completley straight.

different people have different tendancies, some lean completley one way, some lean 50/50, some lean the other, it's just variation, at the end of the day, the labels don't matter, love who you love.

Answer 4

Yes and no.

Sure, most Bisexuals do tend to be attracted to one gender more than the other, but that doesn't mean they're not bisexual.

I'm bisexual. Oddly, I'm about middle of the road attractions wise.
But your Mom is way off base.

We're not Confused
We're not Greedy
We're aren't any more likely to cheat than anyone else.
We aren't just looking to turn on guys.
We aren't just playing around until we find the right guy.
I haven't been 'hurt' by men and "chosen" to claim to be bi.

I'm bisexual.
It's just who I am.

Yes, my partner of more than ten years has been another woman. But that says nothing of whether our relationship (gawds forbid) if something were to happen...who I would be attracted to next...male or female...I don't know.

I just know that I have good and bad experiences with both genders.
I'm still attracted to both genders...although totally devoted to my partner.

Answer 5

you are right. If you like both sexually, you are bi. If there were no such thing as bi, the word bisexual would not exist

Answer 6

Most bi people have a preference one way or the other; it's just that both attractions are strong enough to be acknowledged and acted on. Your mother doesn't live in your head. Tell her your truth.

Answer 7

There is such thing as being Bi. One of my friends I know were Bi.

Answer 8

Research in human sexuality over the last fifty years says differently. Human beings are amazingly complex. It's naive to think that every person fits neatly into one of two pre-constructed categories like gay or straight. In a society obsessed with labels, however, its difficult just to be yourself and not to conform. Trust your gut and walk your own path. Check out this article on the Kinsey scale: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

Answer 9

Bisexuality is the sexual attraction to both sexes. How much of either is not really relevant. Doesn't matter if it's 50/50, or 60/40.

And a person can be equally attracted to both, if that were not possible, then pansexuals wouldn't exist either.

Answer 10

well, i do think bis tend to like one sex more than the other, but this does not mean they are not bi.
do what you want.
i have a friend who almost always has both a boyfriend and a girlfriend. this works because she finds people who are either bi or not possesive. oh, and she is super communicative, which is essential.