should i tell my mom about me being possibly pregnant?

Question

ok.
about 3days ago my bf fingered me.
and i am worried if he had any sperm on his fingers but i think it was just pre-***... we are really scared and are not sure. i've been stressing out about this for a while now. ive been crying everynight and everyday and my mom wants to know whats wrong? should i tell her that there is a slight chance of pregnancy for me? do u think she will understand that we did not have sex. he JUST fingered me but i am at risk i am scared and confused what is the best way to tell her. plz help!!!!! thanx.

Answer 1

i think you should def. tell her. ur mom will help you through everything if you are pregnant. and she prob.might freak a little but then she will come down and talk to you. i think you should just come right out and say it in like dinner convorsation. =]

Answer 2

Ok, first calm down.
Second, the likelyhood of you being pregnant from a fingering session and him having pre-*** on his finger is almost nada.

There is a VERY, VERY small chance but I am saying that because it is just reality but it is uncommon.

I do want say this,

if you think you are pregnant from something like that you are surely not mature or old enough to be engaging in any sexual activity other than the occasional kissing and snuggle.

It is not worth the crying every night and the disappointment in your moms eyes who you clearly care about and is concerned about how she will view you.

Dont let a little boy talk you into giving up something you are clearly not ready for. When sex is an option a mature woman knows to get birth control because a baby is not an easy job.

Remember this: If he tries to say you dont love him or he will leave you tell him this:

You I can get back, if I give up me, I will be gone forever.

And if he leaves then see you later, gator. men are so overrated and when you love YOURSELF you will realize that until a man loves me the way I deserve then I dont need ya.

But seriously, you are ok, baby doll and just dont do anything that can get you prego.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Sweetie you arn't at the risk of being pregnant. When you get fingered, Im sure his finger touched the air before going inside of you! And the Air will kill the sperm- So if any sperm did happen to go into you- Its dead and it isn't going anywhere! lol Probably drained when you pee'd! Dont worry yourself or even you mom by asking anything like this to her- All is well for you!! Also, if you are soo scared about this stuff, Try not to do it until you are ready! Save yourself the Stress of thinking of what could happen :) Good Luck Sweetie!

Answer 4

Aw honey, I think you are worrying for nothing. But, I do think that maybe things are going on between you and your boyfriend that you are not ready for? Maybe that is the conversation you and your mom should have. I would not tell your mom you think you are pregnant though, but if you are worried this way, then I think you need to have a heart to heart talk with both your boyfriend and your mom (NOT together) because this kind of stress is not something you want to worry about again right? And the more "active" you become with your boyfriend, the more the odds are going to be that you eventually WILL have sex with him, and then you really will need to worry about becoming pregnant.

For now, I would be really really amazed if you got pregnant this way. The odds are more than 95% sure that you are not, but since you are so worried, I think maybe you might want to cool things off a bit with him and talk to your mom about what is going on and whether or not you are ready for this sort of activity. A lot depends on whether or not your mom will freak out on you for even doing what you did (no idea what your age is) but if you think she will listen and help you, then go ahead and talk to her. If she will really freak out, you might want to talk to another adult family member....older sister, aunt, older cousin, etc... and get some advice on your boyfriend and what is going on between the two of you. Good luck and try not to worry :)

Answer 5

There is sperm in precum and although the chance of becoming pregnant by contact is slim, it is possible, in slang it's called a "splash pregnancy".

Tell your mom if you want to, she can probably help calm you down, or just stop worrying and wait for your period, or next time this happens, go immediately to the pharmacy for emergency birth control.

Educate yourself before you start fooling around and getting sexually active, and educate your boyfriend as well. Would you drive a car before you had lessons? Would you jump off a pier if you didn't know how to swim?

Answer 6

ok try not to worry too much
firstly how long is your cycle if its a regular 28 day cycle you would ovulate around day 15 you would notice a egg white stretchy cervical mucas around ovulation
if you have a irregular cycle say its 28 this month and 30 days the next month the ovulation day would be on day 17 for a 30 day cycle so if you can work out at what time in your cycle it was it might help ease your mind
also are you sure it was sperm on his hands did he come before he touched you and was it on to his hands he would want to have a lot on his fingers to get you pregnant
try not to worry to much i would say you are alright if you think it will make you feel better talking to your mum then do talk to her may be look in to the pill or something when you want to take your relationship to the next level

if you are feeling really stressed it will delay your periods coming so try and relax and not worry i really think you are all right its a lot harder to get pregnant than you think ask any one who is trying to conceive.
i know there is cases out there but figure out your cycle
checkout mymonthlycycles.com you can enter in your cycle length and it will show you when you are most fertile
i hope this helps and try not to worry to much
good luck

Answer 7

This is weird for me being the mom of 2 teenage girls, but I say not to worry at this point. Worry may interrupt your cycle and you could miss or delay your period. you can always take a home pregnancy test.

But you and your mom should be able to talk about sex. I dont know your age but intimacy is normal in a relationship, your mom was a teenager once also.

If a person is sexually active they need to be informed! I am sure there are many places to get info of STDs and other risks from sexual behaviors.

Dont worry, get informed!!!

Answer 8

Calm down, you cannot get pregnant off of being fingered. LOL! I don't know how old you are, but you may want to start paying attention in Sex Ed class! My best advice to you is, if you feel your responsible enough for sex, the get a job. If you don't have a job, then don't have sex. If you have that type of relationship with your mom then you should talk to her about sex, if you don't then try to find an adult you can talk to. Best of luck.

Answer 9

I have but few questions? Was that finger worth all the stress and tears. Was that finger pointing you in the right or the wrong direction. You call him a boy-friend; boy yes friend no. Honey go to your mother thats who loves you. A real mother wouldn't put you in harms way. But a boy-so call friend would. Your mother has realized something is wrong who else has.

Answer 10

Look. We all (some of us) know what's going on with you. First off, your a young lady...don't use the word "fingering". Say we were fooling around. Don't make yourself any less a woman.
I do think that you should tell your mom. Let her go through this with you. Because if you are (hope not), your going to have to tell her anyways!

Answer 11

Relax and don't panic. Do you have any signs that you might be pregnant or are you just speculating?

If you need somebody to talk to, and you think your mother will be supportive then you I would tell her. Be mature about it and tell her your concerns.

If you think your mother would make you feel even worse about it, then don't bother mentioning anything until a) you missed your period, and b) you took a home pregnancy test that produced positive results.