Would always asking my hubby questions regarding his affair and why he left me and our 2 kids for someone annoy him or if i acted like i wasn't bothered but remain friends for the sake of kids and let him see what he's missing would that work better and maybe he'll come back?
2007-07-05 01:57:11 · 10 answers · asked by winner2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion, acting like it didn't bother you would be best. It would not only save your children from seeing more arguing or you at your worst it would show him you truly are the better person. Another thing you need to do is find yourself. Get to know you and who knows after some time you may find you are better off without him. When he does get his head out of his *** you may decide it's too late for the relationship. Good Luck to you. Life is a challenge sometimes. Seize the day.
2007-07-05 02:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by hootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
string him up by his testicles and burn him...hes a cheater and thats what he deserves right?
come on people! are you really that bitter? the guy is a human who has made a mistake
in this particular instance though it is important that you keep perspective. Be honest with him...if you want him back and believe you can live with the fact that he cheated then talk to him. You most certainly do have the right to ask the questions you want...but its not going to make it easier for you if you ask for specific details about what happened and where. This doesn't help you at all.
If you believe you and your family is better off with him there then yes most definitely do something about it...but if your going to have him back to torture and degrade possibly in front of the children then you are doing the wrong thing by then and yourself.
Keep it all in perspective as well...he had an affair...he didn't kill anyone
2007-07-05 02:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by bob s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want this lying cheat back? The message you send your children is "mom is a doormat and not worth honest commitment or treatment."
That is how they will grow up thinking people act. Your son's will think its ok to treat their wives like they are nothing, and your daughters will lay down and let men walk all over them, just like mom did.
He left you because he didn't love you. He left you because he's a liar and a cheat and they never ever change.
Get some counseling and move on with your life.
2007-07-05 02:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither!! You should totally ignore him and if you have something to say about the kids to him, write it down on paper. He needs to feel guilty for what he's done and if you stay friends with him, he'll think everythings okay and he'll have the best of both worlds, you as a friend and his new honey to play with. I think it will bother him more if you ignore him as much as you can. If he knows it bothers you, then it will probably bother him to.
2007-07-05 02:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question has a stick of dynamite in it." And maybe hell come back?" Does that mean you want him too? If so, then the answer is just tell him exactly how you feel about it, that you have forgiven him (if you have) and build yourown life.
He will observe that you are moving on and perhaps if you do want to re establish with him it will work out. Either way, Up up and away for you.
2007-07-05 02:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by glenn t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come back???
So he can do it to you again?
Don't try to annoy him, and don't do things to have him come back.
Get a divorce, hit him with a truck load of child support, take the house, car and kids like all the other women do in this world and move on with your life.
When he is working two jobs to pay the child support and try to pay off all the debt you stuck him with from your marriage, you will have succeeded in getting your justice.
2007-07-05 02:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want him back? Can you "act" like it doesn't "bother" you? It would MORE than bother me - it would probably destroy me. I could remain civil - not friends - but I don't know if I could stay married unless he was truly sorry and dealt with whatever sent him into the arms & bed of another woman.
2007-07-05 02:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by molly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living well is, as they say, the best revenge.
Act totally happy, and move on with your life. And if you find a new man, be sure to flaunt it!
You don't want him back--he'll cheat again and the whole mess will start over.
2007-07-05 02:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him back. You are better then that. There are still good men out there. take a chance with them instead of a man that cheated on you.
2007-07-05 02:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by mizzgrizz01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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http://abc.go.com/primetime/exwivesclub/index
maybe they will put you on tv
2007-07-05 03:03:02 · answer #10 · answered by a_nemus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋