And you know that you are also annoyed by her, will you give her chance?
2007-07-05 01:47:54 · 10 answers · asked by gel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes. maybe you should give her a reality check. as a friend, not someone who wants a boy-girl relationship. you get the drift. i sort of pity her. if i were in your class i would talk to her. she might not be that bad, for all you know, some people hate her just because other people do. get to know her personally, but draw the line lest she gets emotionally hurt.
2007-07-05 01:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by girlnumberone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you really gotten to know this girl? I mean really, have you taken the time out to talk to her? To just get to know her? Probably not, you're probably letting everyone else's perception of her cloud your own judgement.
Give her a chance, no one says you have to go get married or immediately consider yourself boyfriend/girlfriend. Ask her on a date, then take her somewhere the two of you can just get to know each other, somewhere she'll (and you) be comfortable so she can open up and be herself. Keep the date light, say like take her to a coffee house or just a walk in the park, or something. Somewhere you can really talk. Movies are a bad idea because you can't TALK and get to know her. Ask her for an afternoon date, something you can do until the sun goes down and then you part your ways. But whatever you do, DO NOT take her somewhere that you'll run into your classmates who "hate her", that will lead to them teasing her or you, or her clamming up and not feeling like she can be herself and then the date will be a bust.
But make clear to her in the beginning that this is all it is, is one date. By the end of the date, you may decide you want another date with her. Be clear and honest with her so either way this goes - she won't feel as if you've played with her or her emotions.
But in the end, if you end up liking the girl, that's great for both of you. If you still don't like her - then at least you gave it a shot and I promise you that's something she'll remember for the rest of her life (trust me, I've been in her same shoes, luckily the guy who gave me a chance is now my wonderful fiancee). She'll always remember you as the one who gave her a chance. And even if it turns out you don't like her like that, don't be mean about it. Just tell her that you're sorry but you just don't feel the same way about her as she does you. That you're flattered but you just don't feel it. Then either try to be her friend or just drop it, just don't be mean to her or embarrass her. That scars a girl and sticks with her longer than you can even possibly imagine.
But don't worry about what everyone else thinks, if you may see a completely different side of her that she feels too pressured to let show around all those people who "hate her". And if you do end up liking her, even if it's only as a friend by the end of this date, maybe you could help everyone get over their ignorance and help her show her true self around everyone.
Edit: I agree with killerweed_13, something made you feel compelled to ask this question on Yahoo! Answers, do you secretly kind of like her too? If that's the case, don't worry about what everyone else thinks, they're not the one who is seeing her. You shouldn't allow your feelngs and perception be tainted by others, don't worry about what they say or do, end the end you're the mature one.
2007-07-05 02:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by BadWolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude...I went through this same thing with a guy this past four months...All of our band class hates him and our so freakin annoyed by him cause what do ya kno...hes a pain in the a** to everyone. But I gave him a chance and well...I wont go in to details about our break up but it was all because everyone said I could do better...but hey, if you like her and really think it could work...you could give her a chance...but if you feel something is going wrong...dump her before she does you! Good luck Chico!
2007-07-05 02:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by no 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I liked her back and the rest of the class hates her, sure, I'd go for it. Who cares what everyone else thinks.
On the other hand, if she annoys me... NO WAY. I hate being annoyed. Tell her to get lost.
2007-07-05 01:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
y would u want to do that if u r annoyed by here. now if u like her for her forget what the class thinks
2007-07-05 01:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by souelreavertate 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes... even if you also get annoyed by her... because you know why, you wouldn't post that question and have those DOUBTS if you really think she doesn't deserve a chance with you... maybe you also like her... think about it.
2007-07-05 01:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by killerweed_13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question makes me remember how vicious children and young adults can be to each other. Very sad.
2007-07-05 02:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by SC 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you REALLY didnt like her then why should you? You should date someone just because you feel sorry for them, only date her if you like her.
2007-07-05 02:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u really likes her and she likes u should take a chance who cares wat other ppl think go for itlive ur life u wanna live not like everyone else wants u to
2007-07-05 02:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by Daddy's_Gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about what other people think.
2007-07-05 02:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋