would i be pushing my luck if i decided to call a new baby the same name as i had for my "baby"that i lost at 20wks?..I love the names we picked out but i m a bit scared if i used a name we had picked i wont be able to move away from that part of my life..not that i want to forget........................
2007-07-05 01:23:09 · 25 answers · asked by paddlepop 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
I lost an 18yo son 5 years ago and I use his name on anything applicable, it makes me feel good just hearing his name and helps me heel. Good luck sweetheart. Marty Down Under
2007-07-05 01:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by jigi 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think it might feel a bit strange not only for you but also for the baby when the baby grows up and realizes he/she has the same name his deceased sibling had.
Maybe you could use the name you had picked out in the middle name spot? That would be a nice way to honor your little angel, plus you will get to use a name you obviously love. Also, it will allow your new baby to have a his own name.
Really, it's all up to you and how you wish to handle the situation. If you ever plan on discussing the fact that you lost that baby in the future, I would give your new baby a new name. If you plan to never discuss the sad past, then I guess no harm would be done to reuse the name.
Sorry about your loss, I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy this time around :)
2007-07-05 10:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by Verity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason I feel it is wrong to use the exact same name. It seems disrespectful to the other child you lost, almost like you are replacing him/her. I know with my heart that is not your intention, yet it just feels "wrong" Perhaps use one the first or second names you had chosen paired with a new one, to make it somewhat unique to this particular child you are having, but to keep a part of the name you loved for the last child. Doing this is also a nice way to honor the memory of the child you lost. If the original child was John James as ex. You could do James Logan, etc. Good Luck.
2007-07-05 08:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation as you. We lost a son a 22 weeks. He was going to be named after his father and grandfather. At the same time next year we found out we were pregnant again and then found out it was another little boy. My husband really wanted a son named after him and I really wanted to honor my husbands father as he is such a good man. However, I could not name my new son the same name as the son I just lost. I had planned on using my husbands middle name for the first son, and ended up using his first name for our second. We weren't able to use my fathers name, but was able to name the daughter we had 10 months after #2 was born after his mother. My main reason for not naming baby #2 the same as baby #1 was that to me, baby #1 was a completely different child. I knew I couldn't replace him and that if I gave baby #2 the same name, then I would have felt as if I were trying to replace the baby we had lost but knew that i couldn't. I hope this all makes sense.
2007-07-05 10:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that name. Use it if you rally love it. I think naming your baby the same name would be a lovely tribute and memorial to the baby that you lost. Try saying the name often and see if it really hurts too much. I think if you want to use the name, you should, and as you get to know your baby after the baby is born you will associate that name with this baby more than with the other baby.
2007-07-05 08:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just try to forget. And pick another name. I'm sure your child wouldn't like to grow up and find out that they were named after the baby that you lost. It's a little creepy.
2007-07-05 08:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Stefani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am sorry about your loss.
Second, Don't name tha baby the same because it will give u bad memories and make you think of the child to much. It will also hurt your kids feelings if they know.
Third, Why dont u use it as a middle name or a variation of the name,
Hope I helped!
2007-07-05 08:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In time you will emotionally move away from that sadness but you will not forget, so why not celebrate the affirmation of life and give the same name to your baby in part as a token of remembrance!!?? Best of luck!
2007-07-05 08:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
***I lost a baby at 10 weeks, and I plan on using the same name. I feel if I had a stillborn baby, then I would name it and choose another name for this one. But personally, I treat miscarriages differently. I guess because, unlike a stillborn, I don't have the baby in my arms...to see. But that's just my opinion.***
2007-07-05 12:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Peppermint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say to pick a different name for the new baby for three reasons. The first reason is you need to allow yourself to know and accept that you lost one baby and that even though this new baby will be alive and in your arms, he/she is NOT the one you lost. The second reason is that your new baby is an individual. He/she needs his/her own unique identity. And the last reason is you need to let the angel of your lost baby know that he/she was still your first baby, and you will always hold them in your heart, and that no one can replace him/her.
Good luck and God bless, honey.
2007-07-05 09:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lyssa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do that to your child. A baby's name needs to be unique and special. You're still holding on to memories of the child you lost. You will NOT move away from that part of your life if you name your new baby the same name. You are still mourning the first baby, and I understand that. His/her memory needs to be put to rest. Please turn the page and give your new baby a TOTALLY different name.
2007-07-05 08:32:23 · answer #11 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋