I just found out I'm pregnant. According to my last menstral period i'm about 7 weeks pregnant. That means my boyfriend and I would be having a baby. But my menstral cycles are usually 40 days apart and i'm not sure if thats a factor when estimating how far along you are. If thats the case then it's possable that the baby might not be my boyfriends and I really hope that isnt the case because my life will be ruined. My question is, how can I find out exactly who's the father of my child. I don't want to have this baby if it's not my boyfriends. Please help me.
2007-07-05 00:29:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
and not that it makes a difference because i know you all have your worst oppinion on me now which is okay but, i dont go sleeping out. it was ONE time and ONE mistake that i'll prolly have to live for, for the rest of my life, but im not asking for Dr. Phils advice on my relationship, i already know i messed up big time, im just asking if there's anyway to know for sure.
2007-07-05 00:50:39 · update #1
Sorry honey there is no way to tell who is the daddy as you need a paternity test once the baby is born, you can not find out whilst you are pregnant, go to your doctor tell him your dates and see if you can work it out from there. I know how difficult it is, been there done that, i did give up my first pregnancy for this reason. Good luck, i know your probably confused, but if you need help dealing with this than email me okay...trust me i was in your shoes 2 years ago, its not nice hey. Take care of yourself
2007-07-05 00:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You need to consult a doctor to determine how far you are into pregnancy.
Additionally, you might want to look into some person or service to help you stablizie emotionally. Check out the links at the end of my post.
I don't know the reasons why you had unprotected sex with two (or more) people in such a short time span, but in case that one time wasn't voluntary, you do need help.
Also, be aware that abortion creates the risk that you might not be able to have children at a later time.
You also need to talk to your boyfriend. He has a right to know what's going on, and there might be more than just a small problem if he finds out about this at a later time. Believe me when I say that such things *do* have their way to bite you in the butt when you least expect it.
If your boyfriend is not supportive of you in this time (not saying that he must understand at once, but he should come around in a reasonable amount of time), then it might be worth considering if he's the right man for you - even if this is his baby. Raising a child is not a job one person can easily do alone, and if your boyfriend slinks out of the current problems, it's very likely he'll slink out of any problems that will show up later.
If possible, ensure your family's support.
Please calm down and don't make any rash decisions you might rue later on.
Ultimately, only a DNA test when the baby is born will be able to tell you who the father is.
2007-07-05 07:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lee L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As has been said, you've already likely screwed up your life by not keeping your legs together and your pants on. Why take it out on a baby before s/he has a chance to live? Give him/her up for adoption.
Besides, even if the baby is your boyfriend's, that doesn't mean he'll be happy. He might disappear with no forward address and you would still be an unmarried mother.
By the way, what about your parent(s)? I'm not sure they would be thrilled to know that they're going to be grandparent(s) to a child with an unknown father and a mother who is unmarried.
I also feel sorry for the baby. Regardless of wether or not you let him or her live.
Just some thoughts....
2007-07-05 07:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by Vegan_Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your long menstral cycle is a factor in working out how far along you are, its usually 28 days isn't it. Dr would be best to work that one out.
2007-07-05 07:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by riszo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know for sure is to have a Paternity test after the baby is born. If it's not your boyfriend's baby, put it up for adoption. I think either way, you should ACT like a woman and raise your baby regardless of the outcome!
2007-07-05 08:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Queen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So in other words you are deceiving your boyfriend and if you happen to find out that the baby isn't his you will have him or her conveniently killed, sucked into a sink, that is.
You need to not sleep with other men if you are serious about the one you are with. You wouldn't like him to do it to you. Was it worth it? You may have to wait until the baby is born to take a DNA test which is very expensive. But it isn't only expensive money-wise, it is also going to be very embarassing.
Or you can go on the Maury Povich Show and have him tell you if he is the daddy or not.
I feel sorry for your baby.
2007-07-05 07:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Pam K 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why does it matter whether it is your Bf baby or somebody else as long as the egg is yours. Even if it is not your B's it is of some other man's with whom you had physical relation willingly. Unless you are raped, you had enjoyed sex with that man and had this fetus evolved.So let the fetus grow to be a baby which is yours hundred percent.
2007-07-05 07:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by rajan l 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are already ruining your life by sleeping around. Use some self restraint, you're unfortunately going to be a parent to a child. Its about time to start using common sense and be a better parent than you are a person.
2007-07-05 07:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mary D 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Go to the doctor and they can determine a date of conception from an ultrasound. In the future, please use a condom until you are in a long term relationship and sure of who and what you want. I really hope that you get the results you want and are happy.
2007-07-05 07:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by amoroushotmama 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
will you got to sit down and think about it really hard!
think back, you was that most likely to have gottin you preg, -bust in you- and if ur 7 weeks who did you have sex with like almost 2 weeks before that, you got to thing of all the conclusions you can. sry
2007-07-05 07:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by theyknowmeaslilb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋