Does True Love need to be reciprocated?

Question

If you love another for who they are should you not continue to love them even if they may not love you back ?

Answer 1

If love is "true" then is requires nothing from the object of one's love at all-- it would be given wholly and completely for the other's good and their good alone. Whether this kind of love is possible in this world is another question entirely.

Answer 2

True love certainly has its own rewards, not being the least of it is completely satisfying to the one that loves it also give an emits love outwards to the one that is not reciprocating and the world. It is said that there is always one that loves better than the other, loves more than the other, loves without demands from the other. This is true love and it rare and beautiful for all of us. One might call it wisdom. There is a wonderful saying: Love is reflected in love!

One of the most loving actions is to let that which cannot love back, go, walk away, no strings attacked, so that person can love in their own way.

Answer 3

Wow, Don's really got this subject going on, that made me a little teary too.
On the question, asking shows not enough knowledge about love and a neediness.To put it bluntly, wanting something back is a subtle form of soliciting You pay me, I'll give you. I love flowers, I don't ask anything. They pumped me, should they pay me too? That would suck them dry. He gives us infinite love because he has so much. We get filled up. We see things to love everywhere, to many to handle. In one second we are not thinking about some guy anymore and off to the next delight. If we chase them then we don't have love, we want theirs. We can't get it because it's a feeling inside. Happiness is kind of catchy but not enough to live on. If they come to you and are not connected to God, they will ruin you, your joy, your hope and your faith, whether they say they are a Christian or Muslim or not. If you don't have it, they won't or you wouldn't attract them. If you don't need them, in reality and not games, they would have come to you also. He's not ready for anyone, involved or feels your neediness. when you are full you are attractive to everyone and you will have to be very independent, intuitive, (perhaps thoughts guided by God or reality coming to mind) to have good judgments, to pick the best. Wisdom comes from God too. When your full of love your in tune with Him. When your not full of love your empty and don't really love anything and someone will take the little bit of love you have. Looking to the creation, instead of the creator as the source depletes you. Even knowledge of God is only some little thoughts to passing through the mind like food passes through the body, Keep it too long and it spoils. It needs daily updating from the spirit, sometimes momentarily. The angels pray day and night or are in connection always, that love feeling inside and the sane harmonious images in the mind. When the images don't match each other you feel irritated and have to find out why. . Getting paid back doesn't jive else you wouldn't ask. I like the saying, if it's questionable don't do it. You questioned it for a reason. Someone correctly taught you love is unconditional, but that's a saying that can get you in trouble not handled right. If you wonder if you should love someone you shouldn't. But in what way? Not pursueing the relationship, but enjoying the memory of them, not owning them. You pick a flower you kill it. People pursue people they can't get. Pursuing is real needy. Most people when they get you then run the other way to tap another flower because they can't get what they need from you only drain. A good relationship is more like a good friendship. In time it shows it's durability and everything is mutual, smooth and self controlled also. Peaceful, harmonious, but never boring. In tune. Would it feel that way if he responded. I think it would 'feel' real awkward for me. I doubt it's a good sign. He probably just left a failed relationship, it's too slim a possibility that he is so wonderful and just had to be in the mood for a relationship although possible. Ask Maybe a long fairly slow relationship would tell. That's always the case anyway. The average for the guilding to come off the lilly is six months to see clearly. It may be a rare man that can wait that long, but that's what you want and even then you need your emotions to get out of the way enough to have any judgment on the matter and have more even feelings. So clinical, I wish I could be more poetic and brief. I guess I'm just learning too. Most of us are still just little children about life, aren't we?

Answer 4

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 5

Of course you can love someone who doesn't love you, but you can not have true love or romantic love or be IN love if it is not reciprocated. Once the other person loses their love for you, then the love has no means to exist or grow and it will eventually diminish into nothing. The sooner both sides allow themselves to let go, then the better off they will both be.

"The Sun without water cannot a flower grow."----me

Answer 6

This is not true love. You have a romantic crush on a person who apparently doesn't feel the same towards you. This is a perfectly normal, everyday occurrence; one which all people experience at one time or another in their lives.
True love is a two way street felt by both parties. (A good example is Steve [The Crocodile Hunter] Irwin and his wife Terri.)
True love doesn't come to us all. But you'll know it, if and when it does.

Answer 7

If you feel the way you have framed your question then the so called "true " love is a conditional love . Anything conditional is a strain on the giver and the taker. It will not blossom into true love till well after the condition is removed.

Please donot put any condition and donot love in expectation of something inreturn. Keep giving and it will come back to you in good measure.

True live is not measureable by any ....meter.

Answer 8

True or real or unconditional love exists without reciprocation, but it sure makes your world a happier place to be when the object of your affections also loves you!

Answer 9

I think the idea of true love includes the idea of reciprocation -- otherwise it's a different kind of love . . .

Answer 10

No, you are the only person who knows the depth of your emotions. It is very easy (and quite sad) to love someone that does not return your feeling.
True love is what you, yourself feel.
A perfect love would been reciprocated.