my wife and i have been married for 3 years and now from nowhere she gets the idea that HEY remember your old friend ....and i was like yeah so what? and she suggested having a threesome
2007-07-04 23:37:00 · 17 answers · asked by Goose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Don't do it! It will ruin your marriage!
2007-07-04 23:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by spunky_psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Better do some talking before turning over the sheets, you have a wife, a friend and yourself in this potential mix and a whole lot can go wrong. Maybe your wife will be enjoying herself more than you can handle?, maybe your friend is bigger in that department and you wife, well you get where I'm going. Maybe your friend is repulsed by the whole idea and that ends a friendship. It's a Pandora's box that might be worth not opening. I can tell you that is it very difficult to make it work in most relationships, one person seems to always feel shorted emotionally. I know in my relationship it would simply not be possible, period. My wife couldn't, wouldn't and I wouldn't ever even ask. Just wouldn't work. When I was younger and single I found myself involved in some 3 somes and it was a great time for all but nobody had any strong emotional attachments or expectations.
2007-07-05 07:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by gamerunner2001 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Odd. But she's definitely looking for variety. Or she has a huge crush on your buddy and she doesn't want to cheat on you behind your back (so she'll do it with your consent). It's your call, really. Are you comfortable with the idea? Would you get jealous? Would you trust your wife and your buddy?
2007-07-05 06:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by andrew sts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool--your wife is wanting to broaden her sexuality and play out some fantasies. That she came to you with it rather than trying to exclude you by cheating means that she trusts you enough to share and communicate her needs.
This also gives you the opportunity to negotiate some of your fantasies in.
If handled well, this could be a total win-win situation for you both.
2007-07-05 07:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the buddy is a chick then more power to it. But if its a guy. Then your in trouble. She is trying to sleep with other men and still have your approval of it.
2007-07-05 06:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by The V 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with rebecca.....i say she is trying to expand her sexuality and as her husband you owe it to her to help her. Make is a 3 some and enjoy yourselves. After it's over, suggest another with one of her girlfriends.
2007-07-05 08:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not too shy do it for your wife. In certain sense this is your role. If you are curious for detailed advice: x007steph@yahoo.com
2007-07-07 08:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel the fact that your'e here on yahoo answers and didnt just jump at the opportunity means alarm bells went off. trust your instincts- they're always right
2007-07-05 06:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ew, threesomes disgust me. I am totally monogamous...
2007-07-05 06:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Delilah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget your wife and have sex with the guy.
2007-07-05 06:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by meinnyc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude. duddeee!!!! she facked your buddy already. you dont do that with your wife. ESPECIALY with another man. It has to be two girls or more man. Divorce her now!!!
2007-07-05 06:44:11 · answer #11 · answered by twinkle toes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋