Am I wrong somewhere or I need develop the quality to listen, listen and listen.
2007-07-04 22:45:10 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For your earlier question Saptapadi (7 phere or 7 steps) I gave you the duties and affirmations to be made by the Bridegroom, when they hold the feet of the bride and say. But the sad thing is that they do not act as per the promise they made before Agni. What to do.
It is the nature of some husbands to criticize, argue, quarrel and behave badly. It happens almost in all families now a days where the wives go for earning and ego clash is taking place. This situation need to be handled very carefully, otherwise the life will be spoiled and the most affected person would be the wife. So, I suggest the following -
1. To put up with the wrong doings of husband and learn to listen to him as much as you can.
2. Try to Analise where it has gone wrong; if you are above to locate any adverse thing on your part you should correct yourself immediately, so that the position does not aggravate.
3. If the husband is on the wrong foot, try to explain him, convince him of his mistake and make him alright. The best time for this is when he wants to have sex.
4. Put up with him for some more time. Do not tell your misunderstandings to others excepting your parents. Others will only laugh and will not be of any help.
5. If he is not changeable completely then think of alternative.Do not be hasty to take any other action.
6. This can be sorted out by cordial and smooth talk between you only. You try on the above lines and you will be successful and lead a happy life
Best wishes.
2007-07-05 01:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jayaraman 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This the best way to show always respect, love , affection for others. In this position may be you wrong or not but I can think you are not guilty as no one can understand nature of human mind, but can say how it to be utilised. So when you show respect, love , affection but in return you get from him criticizm, rude behaviour and argument, then you should ignore the matter and forget about that and him for long period or forever, if he is really a human, I think he should understan you and he will be changed himself.
2007-07-05 02:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pintu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. Some people are givers and some are takers. They will take all you have and really believe that they in no way shape or form, do they need to give back the least bit of appreciation. The one who needs to develop the listening quality is him. And Sometimes there are people who only hear what they want to hear. I call it tone deaf.. Where they become deaf to the tone of OUR voices. I know it hurts to have someone that you love treat you this way. Let him know how you feel and My advice is to continue to show the respect this way, he can never say that this is something you did to him as well. be the better person and i hope you can come to fix this. god bless and good luck!
2007-07-04 22:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself what motivates you to show respect, love and affection to someone who apparently feels none of these things for you. This is not a reciprocal relationship of equals. Your question assumes you can do something to cause him to love / respect you. You assume you can make another person feel things they don't feel naturally. You do not have this degree of control over others. Why do you stay?
2007-07-04 22:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by RJM 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's too bad that we tend to put so much effort into a no win situation.
The only thing wrong here is that you have spent too much time already with the wrong guy.
Find someone that makes you feel good about yourself and not someone who tears you down.
Good Luck
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2007-07-04 22:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Rani.
First of all, i 'ld like to say thank for your respect,affection and all which u show for your loved one.
i just want to say please keep on this spirit as one day he will surely realise you and your feelings.
Actually there are may kind of men in this world. Some people think they should be given very special attention at all time. That is the common problem in men(You can say). These type of men can be handled by soft behaviour and more and more listening to them attentively without argument. As you support them by listening and your good behaviour tactfully they will start realizing their mistakes and try to come out from this dilemma.
They need more and more moral support and mutual understanding.
Actually we all are facing such problems in our life in any form, may it be office,home,college, at parking place,on road at time of commuting,etc.
Please avoid any type of argument with him/her specially at time when u think he is disturbed/tired/ admant on some thing.
Just keep it going and wait for best time to clarify him/her in pleasantly manner.
Do things what he/she likes .
Always ask him before taking a new step (just to realize him/her how to important he/she is for you).
Always ignore his/her ruthlessness and try to present yourself as good as you can.
Don't be disheartened even you are not getting desired result. Just keep trying.
Always be optimistic and do not worry for result.
These are some techniques which i think if all of us apply it in our routine life, we will be able to achieve desired result.
2007-07-05 00:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by ROMIL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respect, love and affection can not be forced. They are earned by one's actions.
Figure out what makes him rude. Fix that problem!! I think you are ignoring his needs and priorties.
2007-07-04 22:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by picaresque_82 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep silence for sometime. Observe his behaviour only. Do not reply at all. I believe he is not fit for your friendship & respect & can be forgotten.
2007-07-04 22:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby, you are nowhere wrong.
It is the way of life.
My father used to tell that you need to adjust with others.
The sad part of the story is, it is always me who need to adjust. It is never the other way round.
Accept it. or otherwise you will get mad.
But never seek a solution.
2007-07-05 00:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some man are rude in talk but soft in bed. they are not loved but hated, at the most. They are idiots
some man are polite in talk and polite in bed. they are neither loved nor hated but are tolerated.. They are diplomatic
some man are soft in talk but rude in bed and they are most loved and sought after ones. they are real juice .
so you have to choose who you want to live with idiots or juicy ones
2007-07-05 06:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by krishprud@yahoo.co.in_KISHORLAL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋