my g f is afraid of sex becuase she heard first time sex is painful. how to calm down her and encourage to go whole heartedly for first time encounter
2007-07-04 22:30:50 · 11 answers · asked by krishprud@yahoo.co.in_KISHORLAL 6 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Slow and wet.
I don't know how old you are, but no matter, you shouldn't be pressuring her. She shouldn't be scared if she wants to do it eventually, but she shouldn't do it until she's ready. Remind her that it only hurts badly for some girls.
You two can also prepare before hand by stretching her vagina such as with fingers or objects. If you do it right, that could seriously decrease the pain. Or you could even break the hymen (assuming she has one...it might not even hurt!) before sex.
2007-07-04 22:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get her very wet and excited. Foreplay is important, guys! If she's not into it emotionally, it won't be fun physically. The first time, be gentle, don't just stick it in there. Listen to her and back off if it hurts too much. You have to remember that girls are emotionally different than boys, and losing her virginity might mean something different to her than it does to you. And wear a condom!!
2007-07-05 05:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by squeeky714 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well you will want to start with some type of foreplay.
touching feeling kissing... wait until she is wet so that the penis slides into her with some kind of ease. You can also try some kind of lube like Ky. There will most likey be pain still, but it's not that horrible. good luck :]
2007-07-05 05:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by lexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lubrication will help. It is not extremely painful, usually just a bit of soreness, and a slight loss of blood from the hymen breaking.
2007-07-05 05:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do oral sex with fingers, with toungue, increase her wetness, and dont jump into ugly things, time will come when she surrenders and will be on top of you, ask her to conquer instead of yourself, her fear will be lost
2007-07-05 09:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use Johnson water jell for lubrication.
2007-07-06 11:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by manjit grover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all convey her it wont heart that much
do it slowly and then try to push slowly and keep foreplay on with her to convert her mind abt thinking of pain
2007-07-05 05:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by bunty 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hey do my formula and im doing this daily
kissing her ***** vagina every second
and im sure it will reduce it
just kiss her vagina ***** every second ok
2007-07-05 08:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first. That will reduce her fears and feelings of guilt.
2007-07-05 05:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋
lube ! lots of lube.
2007-07-05 05:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋