pls. answer my question,i need your advise
2007-07-04 22:16:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmm, drinking is normally caused either because he is addicted or unhappy about something, it may be something personal or business. Its not good him spending so much time away from you and drinking will not solve his problems. Sit him down and ask him what is wrong. It is very important that he starts communicating with you. I do supsect something is bothering or upsetting him though and that is how he escapes.
God Bless!
*H*
2007-07-04 22:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't listen to those people who are saying that you need to be a better wife. I did everything for my ex husband/ alcoholic jerk and it didn't make a difference that i did it all for him. I left him when I finally got up the nerve and am now married to an awesome guy that loves me and my children as if they were his own flesh and blood. As for the stopping him from drinking, I have no clue but just remember that his bad habit is NOT your fault. If you want to live with his drunk abuse then go on but you'll eventually get up the nerve to make your move. I feel for you and any other people men and women who feel that they have to stay because there is no place to go. Good Luck.
2007-07-09 02:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by roloswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make someone quit drinking. You can show tough love, and tell him if he doesn't quit drinking it is over, and then follow thru. If he is an addict he will lie, or quit for a short period of time, but you can't put up with that.
2007-07-05 05:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop him. He has to want to stop drinking and staying away late. However, you can tell him this is unacceptable to you and if he continues, you will not stay in the relationship.
2007-07-05 05:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when someone is really into drinking its very difficult to get them to stop. There is a biological craving they are unable to resist. I had a 15 year relationship and we couldn''t fix that issue:(
2007-07-05 05:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The correct answer to your question is "Nothing".
I am an alcoholic, sober now for 37 years. and when I was drinking no one could stop me. Just as you can't stop his behavior or he yours.
The ONLY thing you have control over is yourself and the situation you place yourself in.
2007-07-05 05:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by hexeliebe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have a good gentle talk with him and try to find out the reasons. Is it he has to entertain his cilent due to his work? or he trying to mix with his co workers by having a good happy hour after work. You are unable to stop him for drinking. You have to let him cut down his regular drinking slowly,. Good Luck!
2007-07-05 05:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by TO 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him seriously a night before he is going out. Tell him you don't like it and that you get worried about him, and that you miss him when he leaves until very late at night.
2007-07-05 05:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Roberto 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first why is he drinking, try to solve that (with him) don't tell him to stop, that won't work and mostly causes the opposite.
plan nice things together so he won't go out that much, ask him to do more things with you like you did when you first met him.
2007-07-05 05:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sylvie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 Yrs I threatened I would leave if she didnt stop drinking. She didnt so were not together anymore.
She stoped for her new guy. Our son said to me DAD MoM didnt love you she stoped drinking for him and not for you
Something to think about
2007-07-05 05:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by curious6710 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋