21 year old female here. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. 6 months ago we finally decided to have sex. Sex at first hurt a bit, but now it burns really bad, to the point where I can't even take it anymore.
There was a point where I had a bad yeast infection, but thats gone now. We are both STD free (we know this for a fact). I don't "lube" well down there, so we have gone through some lubrication products....the problem is they all burn and make sex even more painful.
I don't know what to do anymore. I feel horrible. My boyfriend has been wonderfully understanding, but this whole situation is making me a nervous depressed wreck! I've had it. This has basically killed what was left of my already low sex drive and now I never even want to try because I am so afraid of the pain. Even when I am completely 100% comfortable/into it, we try and it still hurts. Even when I lube well naturally!
It's a horrible burning feeling and I don't know what to do! It's unbearable.
2007-07-04 21:40:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Update:
We've tried just spit before. It still burns :-/
Also, I don't lube too well naturally even if I am turned on. Even so, it still burns with natural lube.
I am allergic to latex, so I don't use condoms. They hurt more than anything.
2007-07-04 22:01:41 · update #1
Almost forgot, I considered maybe I was allergic to sperm, however he has never ejaculated in me or near my vulva/vagina.
Also, fingers hurt as well. Lately, tampons have even been sort of painful to get in.
I have no idea whats going on, but it's fustrating. I do plan on going to the gyno. I was going to wait until my next check up but I can't take it anymore.
2007-07-04 22:03:47 · update #2
Also wanted to mention, we've tried every position we could think of. Everything hurts :(
2007-07-04 22:04:32 · update #3
He's an average sized guy.
Also, hygeine is not an issue with me. I don't douche or anything stupid. I don't do anything to upset the PH of my lady bits, however I do keep myself clean.
2007-07-04 22:06:17 · update #4
I am also on the pill, which I know can make you dry and give you infections.
It was pretty sore down there before I was on the pill (we tried fingers, not actual sex..still burned)
2007-07-04 22:08:41 · update #5
Good Evening,
It is really hard to give you an online diganoses and you really should see your doctor. It could be many things.
If you are using condomes durring sex you are having an allergic reaction to the latex. It is very painful and it really hurts and you will feel that burning type sinsation.
You have vaginitis.. but you said that is gone now. You are allergic to the lubercations. your ph levels are changing.
Semen may be the trigger altering your vagina's chemistry. Other possible triggers are lowered immune resistance; douching; birth control pills; antibiotics; or, cuts, abrasions, or other vaginal irritation (friction from intercourse, fingers or fingernails, or tampons).Friction from intercourse can irritate vaginal tissues, and may make you more susceptible to vaginitis.
Or it also sounds like you may have an allergy to the proteins in your boyfriend's semen, also known as human seminal plasma protein hypersensitivity (SPH).It's possible to have allergies to common proteins found in most men's semen or to have allergies to a specific person's proteins. Reactions to contact with semen may include localized pain, itching, redness and swelling, or systemic responses, like hives or trouble breathing. Most symptoms typically start within 20-30 minutes of contact and can last for hours or days. The severity of the reaction depends on your personal chemistry.
Also, there are a couple possible ways for a health care provider to desensitize a person to semen.
Please go to your Doctor and let them know. Sometime antibodics need to be taken for vaginitis. Do not sit in pain tell them everything. Let them know you are in alot of pain now and really need to be seen asap. Obstain from sex until you have this looked into. Never let your self suffer please.
All My Best
Hope this helped
I hope you find out what this is. Blessings...
2007-07-04 22:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Whispers h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the contraceptive pill. It creates serious hormone imbalances in a minority of cases. You can use a German calculator/computer that is available on the web - http://www.ladycomp.com/ for this purpose.
You can see the sense in the people who tell you to get married, because this is the "for better or for worse" part.
You could have trichomoniasis, but you say you are not infected, so it is the pill which can cause dryness and lack of lubrication and burning - vaginitis.
It will take a time for the effects of the hormone to cease to have effect and sometimes, fear of pain may persist, with consequent loss of libido.
2007-07-05 05:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think it may be best that you see a doctor. Either you have a infection of some sort i would say of even and physical problem with your vagina.
Have you tried using some sort of lube? could also be that you are not wet enough when your boyfriend enters you? does he have a really large penis? that would make it a bit more pain full if you are not wet enough. some girls have this problem and need some help with lube.
2007-07-05 04:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by darth72au 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can see only two possibilities - hygiene or infection. Take care of the first, if the problem persists, see a gyno. BTW, natural body fluids are better lube than any external petrochemical product; engage in lots of foreplay, it is romantic too.
2007-07-05 04:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you use condoms it could be the latex try lamb skin you could be latex allergic.If no condom use.Worse case your allergic to him.Yes women can be allergic to mens sperm.If no condoms try regular vasoline it can coat you on the inside so what ever is irratating you can't.Don't try this with condoms it will make them break.
2007-07-05 04:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by singleladybuglooking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a doctor
2007-07-05 04:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by smurfnbee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably time to see a doctor. Might want to try some different positions/angles in the meantime.
2007-07-05 04:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by wellsey05 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad that you are going to see the gynecologist about this because there are a couple of possibilities that could be causing this that the dr may check for. They are: endometriosis and vulvodynia (a painful condition of the vulva-the external genital area) and one of the classic symptoms for both of them (learned this from other women and friends with these problems and have a problem with this symptom) is painful intercourse.
To learn more about endometriosis please check out: http://www.endocenter.org
To learn more about vulvodynia please check out: http://www.vulvarhealth.org
2007-07-05 05:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by sokokl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you using condoms? maybe you are allergic to latex. that's the only thing i could think of. you might have a medical condition though. you should see a doctor
2007-07-05 04:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by me 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to a doctor and get advice. and he might recommend some other type of lube
2007-07-05 04:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋