passionate, intense and exciting but who can be difficult (moody, stubborn, irrational) or someone who is more moderate, even-tempered and dull who is easy to get along with (agreeable, pliable, rational)? Would you choose excitement or safety? Ecstacy & agony or middle of the road?
2007-07-04 21:30:51 · 19 answers · asked by amp 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I think intensity and passion are the only true definition of love. You know you're alive. And, sometimes you may feel like you're dying. But, you'll always know you're alive. If you accept less, you only go backwards in a relationship. If you accept the status quo, you are only giving up. But, if your passion is intense the excitement it brings you will only move you intensely foward towards more passion.
2007-07-04 21:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I believe I would have to take the middle of the road, because I can be passionate, intense and exciting while on the other hand, agreeable, pliable, and rational. I guess this would mean that I would get run over :-) I have a apply 5 rule; Listen, be considerate, think before you leap, love the one your with through thick & thin, and most importantly- don't put ice cubes down her pants and then run. I broke my toe last time I tried this:-)
2007-07-05 15:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is faulty (I am sorry to say) I can and do love both types. My love isn't given to only those who reciprocate.
The first type wouldn't love me in return as I am the second (minus the dull, I would like to think), and many times (as verified in the other answers) the second type only looks for the first because the seek to inject their "moderate, even-tempered and dull" life with what they presume is missing (therefore negating me from their options also)
In the course of a lifetime the Intense person will remove themselves from a dull relationship, or their partner will grow to resent them for the bullying that signifies the relationship (lets be honest), or the relationship will self implode if there are two intense people in it.
Similarly two "dull" people will have a life of little cheer or joy, a monotonous waste of space and air.
Lesson is you have to be flexible, you have to have a some variety in life (why do opposite polarities always compliment each other? there's something significant in that observation) or there's a good chance you will strive and NEVER arrive.
(BUT I COULD BE WRONG)...........
2007-07-05 08:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Michael B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people you attract in your life reflect your personality. If i'm reading a book ...a love story I expect the hero to be passionate, intense and exciting. But I know that i am moderate, even-tempered and dull who is easy to get along with...... so i'll be at ease with my type. When I want excitement I go to the movies or read my passionate love stories :)
2007-07-05 06:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Praxis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather choose someone who can be difficult yet passionate and exciting. Dull and boring personalities lead to dull and boring relationships. It all depends to the degree of intensity of either side and how much you are willing to put up with. A little argument or disagreement here and there keeps the relationship alive.
2007-07-05 04:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki Rae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd choose the former. [And it's not philosophical -- you described my partner, except for the "irrational" part.]
The middle-of-the-road person wouldn't present any conflicts. However, I think wanting that would display a certain lazy attitude toward life -- the yearning for an easy and bland life.
It is always best to live life passionately and with vitality. Also, it's from adversity and sorrow that we truly learn and grow -- without the bad times, you can't appreciate the good times.
2007-07-05 04:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all personal preference. I myself, would rather love someone more passionate and intense and try to understand what makes them moody or stubborn, so as not to inflame them. I'd rather have excitement, but this is all personal preference. Every relationship has something that draws people to it. It's about chemistry and what works, so.. I think personal preferences will give you many different answers to this question.
2007-07-05 04:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by Blip B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Passionate, intense, exciting, even-tempered, soft-spoken, could whisper things in my ears, that's one to love. Do you think such person do not exist. But he did exist. Ecstasy and agony are the two sides of the same coin called love. So be ready when it assaults you......you will not be able to resist.
2007-07-05 05:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by P'quaint! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At fifty six years of age and from repeatedly looking back I think if I had it to do over I would wish for the mindset to go with middle of the road which was impossible for me when the choice was there I chose excitement and regret it .
peace
2007-07-05 04:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather be with the exciting one because he may always want to keep me on my toes i will never know what is in store for me in my relationship which would be fun and i would make him work on his moodiness and his temper
2007-07-05 05:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋