i dumped him after i told him i needed more time cause i was scared and he said ok. and i got over him but he called me recently said he wants to wait longer if thats what i need but he wants to be "with"me.. im scared he just wants me for certain things. what should i do?
2007-07-04 21:02:24 · 14 answers · asked by your_everyday_answer 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
By saying that he is willing to "wait longer", he is still saying that he wants you primarily for sexual reasons. I encourage you to look for a boy that is respectful of you and doesn't try to "pressure" you into doing things that you don't want to do.
I don't know how old you are but you sound young. Part of the reason for dating in the teen years (and after) is to experience dating with a number of different types of guys. This way you will have a better idea of the type of guy that is best for you.
There are lots of boys out there and don't waste your time with the ones who are jerks. You sound like a lovely girl. God bless you.
2007-07-04 21:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you're not comfortable with his advances then you should tell him so. If he fails to convince you that he is not just saying so to let your guard down, you can tell him that the two of you should take some time off. I mean like, take a break for some time and not acting like nothing happened. If he's serious for you girl, he'll wait and look no other way. Being you're already his girlfriend, you should know him by now so decide for yourself whether he's worth "being" with.
2007-07-04 21:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by banged_out 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Guys can go to any length if they really see something of their liking....believe me coz m a guy too and i know one;s psyche...To answer your problem.. I think u did good...It's always better to play safe wen it comes to such FASTMEN. You dont have to be scared. Just get him out of your mind for the time being. He himself would figure out soon as to why is he on your wait list? For now, just relax yourself by doing things that make you real happy....Love can never be away from a person who is a happy soul.... Take Care
2007-07-04 21:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You've done a good job. You can try it again with him but if the pressure starts again, dump him for good. Congrats on waiting until you're ready, whenever that may be, and have fun when you do :-)
2007-07-05 00:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is willing to change. You already said he respected your wish and was understanding. He seems like a good guy and it looks like he is willing to wait. Otherwise, why would he keep pursuing. Just stand your ground and don't put out. Simple as that!
2007-07-04 21:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
just tell him that he rushing in the relationship to fast for you; and tell him how you're scared because he wants you for "certain things". Im pretty sure he will understand
2007-07-04 21:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by BrownEyedMuggle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to say anything at all. Do you owe him anything?
Just say "Nah, no thanks. No sex until marriage".
And, "I'll wait for someone who loves me just for me".
Sex outside of marriage bears no security whatsoever!
It's up to you. If he REALLY love you, he'll wait.
Just say "No sex till marriage", and see what he does. If he then loses interest, then he did'nt really love you just for you anyway.
Don't be afraid to say it. Don't be afraid to lose someone who does'nt truly love you. As you have'nt lost anything you really did'nt have.
How much is your worth worth to you? How much are you worth to him? Worth the wait?
Worth someone saying "I DO" to you, and all of you not just your sex, and before God and witnesses, for better or worse, till death do you part?
Sex outside of marriage is unfaithfulness. And if unfaithful before marriage, will be unfaithful after marriage.
Your choice.
Don't give your pearls, what is sacred to you, to swine. Just to be trampled on, used and abused.
Do the "I DO", or suffer the consequences.
Your choice.
Choose well.
2007-07-04 21:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by SOULCRY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you scared f relationship, or sex?
i doubt he wants you just for certain things if he called you saying i want to be with you. he could of found some one esle to do certain things.
2007-07-04 21:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by charllie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
of course he just wants you for "certain things", it just depends on what those things are. do you require that a person worship you like a goddess, throw themselves at your feet and beg to spend the rest of their lives with you and only you as a precursor to any sort of intimacy?
love is not forever. if you like him, then enjoy the time you can spend together.
2007-07-04 21:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You should start slowly.
My girlfriend only allows me to kiss her feet. She dates other guys so she never gets bored.
2007-07-04 21:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋