I have no idea why. It's not that my husband is not satisfying me, because I was the same way in previous relationships. Also, I cannot have an orgasm (at least I don't think I can). I will eventually get that "funny feeling" but I never feel or see anything come out. It is really starting to get to me. I sometimes feel that it is pointless to have sex if I am not getting the full benefit (orgasm) from it.
What can I do?
2007-07-04 20:14:24 · 19 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't like long sex either. Everyone is different, everyone is an individual. So for YOU, short sex is normal and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
I agree, getting a vibrator might REALLY help. If your husband is willing to try it out, that is.
Counseling might also help, but probably isn't necessary. Read some books, talk to your friends.
Good luck!
2007-07-04 20:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by luvrats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actual penetration? Who the hell wants to do that for a long time, talk about enough already. Yea, I'm good with 10 to 15 minutes and perhaps around the same amount of foreplay. Without foreplay an orgasm is rare.
Some women cannot orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. Try using clitoral and nipple stimulation before and during sex.
Sex is great, but my god, people who want to or do it for hours at a time are nuts. I'd rather do it 4 times a day, than for 4 hours a day!!
2007-07-04 20:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by qwertatious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same,but i think i'm worse than you,its sort of a chore to me,but yes,you can talk to a thrapist about it.I actually can only reach an orgasm on my own,never with a man so...
2007-07-04 20:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way---I often skip the foreplay and just get right to it, and after 10-15 min I feel all set---I also have PCOS so maybe that has something to do with it--maybe our hormones are off
2007-07-05 12:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women don't always necessarily have to "see anything come out". Its the feeling that's important. Women are not like men. But has he tried going down on you? That usually gives you that feeling.
Good luck!
2007-07-05 08:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by Quote 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way too before. It was suggested that we need to have foul play first and fortunately, it does helps me and since then i have been enjoying sex with my hubby and could not stop having it. And in a way, it kind of help my relationship with my hubby. Thanks to the information of having foul play.....
2007-07-04 20:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dark Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a woman that is a little unusual. Most women take that long just to get warmed up!
Is it uncomfortable? You might want to try extra lubricant or massaging your clitoris during intercourse.
2007-07-04 20:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some good counseling - you are putting WAY too much negative energy in to something you don't even know about -
2007-07-04 20:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a vibrator and use it at the same time with your husband. Trust me, it does wonders. I was the same way until I used a vibrator. Its so worth it.
2007-07-04 20:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jess02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard that if a man wanted to, he could make love for days by forgetting his needs and focusing on the woman's. However, most men can't pull their head out of their own @$$ long enough to even see that someone else is in the room!
Sorry, I've been married too long to the wrong man. It's getting to me, and this is how I vent.
2007-07-04 20:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋