would this tick you off?

Question

i have 2 children (2boys) when my first was born we nearly called him rhys but changed it to kieran then my sister got pregnant had a boy and called him rhys, then i got pregnant again had another boy we had the names callum or nathan we choose nathan but then my sister got pregnant and called her second son callum now i am pregnant again and so is my sister i told her if it was a girl i would call her erin now yesterday i aked her what are you gonna call the baby if it is a girl? guess what she said erin

would this annoy you it just seems every name i like she calls her child i probably am being petty but just wondered how other people would feel

Answer 1

It would definitely bother me. Why on earth would you go and tell her a third possible name after she had already jacked the first two? Your both pregnant, and obviously she has no imagination of her own, so why would you think this time would be different. Have you sat her down and expressed how you feel about her using the names you've chosen? If not, you definitely need to, before your babies are born and end up with the same name. Good luck.

Answer 2

Take it as a compliment. You can also say.....I notice you chose the names I have thought of for my babys. I wll take it as a compliment. Then tell her some other names you like. Then see if she changes her choice. If she names her daughter Erin, Go ahead and you use the name too.

I was supose to be Katherine. I adore the name and wish it was my name. But.....my aunt and uncle told my parents they wanted the name Kathlene- so they all agreed that whoever had the baby first got the name. Well, my parents were expecting me so they figured the name was mine. Well, a month before I was born my aunt and uncle adopted a baby girl and they named her Kathlene.
I have over the years told my parents that they could of still used the name. We never lived in the same place and I could of been called Katie, I love that name. My cousin is called Kathy, I could of been called Katherine or Katie. I still with they would of.

I can see why you would be annoyed, but drop it because family is forever no matter what happens in life. Some
times we have to let things slide off our backs or we turn in to anger and bitterness that will just fester for years.
You do have control over your happiness

Answer 3

I understand your anger completely. My parents have another daughter (I don't consider her my sister any more after the horrendous lies and deceptions she has perpetuated over the years) and when I was pregnant with my daughter she planned her wedding for my baby's due date.....even though she knew it was my due date. That annoyed me, but my daughter got her own back by being 5 weeks premature!

Also, my daughters middle names are Amelia Rose, yet when the sister fell pregnant a few years after my baby was born, she stated that if it was a girl, HER baby's name would be.....Amelia Rose! When I pointed out that those names were "taken" I was accused of "stealing everything that she liked" even though my daughter was 4 at this point.

Thank God I no longer have any contact with her, my life has been so much easier since then!

Answer 4

I'd be flattered - they do say that imititation is a form of flattery! It means you make good choices - and have in my opinion although your second choice names for the boys are nice two so your nephews have nice names too.But if you both have girls next it would be better to have different names as it could get confusing when you are together with the children - tell her you picked Erin first and she can choose it as a second name if she likes.
I never got to have a daughter so that was that - but I did choose a few girl's names just in case - Susan,Alison,Pauline - a bit boring I know but I had my reasons - but it wasn't to be I had all boys!

Answer 5

Hmmm - Why not sit down with your sister and tell her how you feel? Explain that you are flattered that she has used names you thought of for her two boys and you think they really suit them but you really wanted to use the name Erin and would rather she didn't. Discussing this with your sister in an assertive, adult fashion will be much more effective than moaning about it on here to a bunch of strangers. If you don't tell her how you feel how is she supposed to know? And if she still wants to call her daughter Erin there is nothing you can do about it really, except think of another name. Next time don't discuss your name ideas with her either.

Answer 6

It's funny because my mom had this happen with her sister-in-law and now my cousin and I have the same middle names and the same initials.
Are these names all family names? If they are, then no one has "dibs" on the name. Which, yeah is annoying (I know, all of my cousins are poping them out right and left, and using family names...) But, can you honor your family by picking a different form of the name? like callum becomes caleb or malcolm? Or, just use the name as a middle name.
I think you should tell her you were now thinking of ... insert other name ... and see what she says.

Answer 7

yes it would! I am sure your sister loves you and you her, but this would really make me crazy! I don't know why your sister would be doing this unless it is just to make you mad and to get under your skin. Maybe she has some jealousy issues with you or something? I just would stop telling her what you are going to name your new baby or say you are going to name you baby this weird name even though you aren't really and see if she bites! Tell her you have changed your mind and don't want to name your daughter Erin, but something else and see what she does then. And one more thing may work. Make a deal with her that who ever has their baby first gets to use the name Erin, and the other has to choose something else, maybe this would work? Good Luck and congratulations!

Answer 8

This would totally piss me off and it would creep me out to...like does your sister have the power to plan when she's pregnant with you two always being pregnant at the same time. Tell her how you feel and i'm sure it will change things and then with any luck she wont call her baby Erin aswell if it's a girl.

Answer 9

If I had a sister that constantly grovelled everything that I discarded, I'd get really annoyed by it too.

I'd kick her @ss if she stole baby names from me. Even if my husband and I didn't choose to name our baby whatever. People who do that are just down right rude. When I finally choose a baby name, I'm telling no one but my husband and mother.

Sounds like everything is a competition to her with you, and she's only getting pregnant just because you are too. I would personally mention something to her. Tell her to pick her own baby names. Throw a baby name book in her face or something. Maybe she'll get the hint that she's stealing intimate and personal things from you.

Answer 10

Oh me oh my O.o I think she's copying more than your names. Whats up with you guys getting pregnant at almost the same exact times? lol Just kiddin'

Anywho I must say I would be royally ticked too. Just say 'Back of sister, this names mine!' add a little grrr and you'll have your situation SOLVED! lol I'm kidding again.

But I do like the idea of telling her a gosh-awful name and see if she names her kid that lol. The names you chose are so cute to! ^^ I hope you beat her in popin' that kid out so you get the name Erin! :D I'm not kiddin this time, either. ^^