why am i seing so many hurting wives and husbands because their other one doesnt want to say i love you..or give affection/ dont they know it is causing pain? i dont understand wgat is so hard about touching someone you love....or saying i love you...how damn hard is that!?
2007-07-04 19:11:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe that it's a necessity. I don't understand either. Some people are so cold. If you're going to be like that then why be married? It seems as though they just want a companion to take care of them. My husband and I tell each other I love you all of the time. And we touch whenever we pass each other. Affection is a vital part of the relationship.
2007-07-04 19:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by wolflady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands ex-wives, and mother were all 3 very abusive to him and My ex husband was a real prize. My husband and I are both very affectionate with each other and hardly ever argue or disagree. We show our kids that we love them and tell them when they get embarassed when we kiss that we would rather them see love than violence and abuse. We can only try to teach them how people should be but we are hoping that it rubs off on them and will therefore be able to set a high standard for the marriages that they will hopefully have one each.
2007-07-09 01:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by roloswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on how hard you are? there are a lot of feelings involved... you don't know what you are asking sometimes it can be harder than you think. You need to realize that saying I love you only means something if you feel it and if something has been done to you to make you doubt those words they are harder to say than you will ever know... and if you have had something done to make you fearful of a touch you dont want those either, and if you have cause that fear you have a reason to be weary.
2007-07-05 02:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are all kind of peoples as there are all kinds of fashion to choose and suit each one, most of us are very individualistic, some just wanted the other to follow their way, while others simply are just dun care so much and have it their way.
We are not so gracious as we thought we are, perhap only in appearance, but deep in one mind, one protect oneself pride and intergrity very strongly. Most of us simply do not like to forgive or forget about thing that hurt them nor do us love to show affection when other are just stubbornly waiting for us to show.
In so many kind of different behaviors and personalities it is difficult to match each other perfectly, does resulted in divorce and separation. Not only you dun understand why, i guess even God is also finding it damn difficult to understand man and woman love relationship.
2007-07-05 02:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have serious intimacy issues, like my soon-to-be ex- husband. He didn't even know what foreplay was, and didn't like to kiss, and that is just 2 of the problems. Now we are getting divorced and he is bitter, but he should have showed some love.
2007-07-05 02:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by trancegoddess2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it usually goes a lot deeper than that I suspect. if it were that easy, more people would be doing it. they spend their days at work thinking about everything that pissses them off and when they do get home, the are so mad that no matter what anyone said to them, it would not appease them. I think it's mostly false pride.
2007-07-05 02:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have no idea what "love" is and they have no idea why women say it all the time in such a militant fashion.
If a woman tells a guy she loves him, she demands that he says it back, which is BS. If you really love someone you can tell them and leave it at that.
2007-07-05 02:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. I'm really tired of trying so damn hard with him. I'm worn out. I want to feel wanted too, and you can't feel wanted if your the one always wanting.
2007-07-05 02:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some people need to have affection more than others do and sometimes when you are married for so long you just figure that the other knows how you feel without you having to be all lovey dovey!!
2007-07-05 02:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone has there own problems my friend remember not everyone is looking at the situation they way u and i might be looking at it,all u have to do is try it with your own personal life and hopefully some of them might take example from u and do the right thing.
2007-07-05 02:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by Rendevous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋