how do i say no?

Question

my husband of 7 yrs wants to renlist in the army. im sooo scared and dont want him to go back. how do i tell him no.we have 2 children. i need help trying to explain to him why we need him home with us and not deployed constantly.

our children are 5 and 8. we met soon after he got out of the army.we started a family when we were young(i was 19 he was 22). my lil sister is airforce as well as her husband and his lilttle brother is army currently seving his 4 tour in 5 years. i've seen what war does to families. he has always wanted to go back because he feels i am his support system. if i say no i fear he will think i failed him and that i'm no better than his first wife(she was with him during his first enlistment).

Answer 1

in situations like this your husband needs to think of the children. Sit down with him and explain to him your concerns, ask him to see things from your childrens perspectives. Im gathering that your children may only be young and if that assumption is correct then your children need there father around...

Answer 2

Just the way you are telling us. He has served his country admirably and now his family needs him. You could ask him what his reasons are for re-enlisting- and really listen to him without judgement. And ask him to listen to you in the same way.
A young wife and 2 small children need their husband/dad around for many reasons! There is so much he would miss by being gone. I hope this works out well for all of you.

Answer 3

Tell him to join the Men's Department of the U.S.A armed forces., aka the Marine Corps, typically rotations are less than 10 months, vs. 18 months, and the USMC lasts longer and dies less, through superior intellect, and determinaton. Honor, Courage, Commitment. OORAH! Semper Fi!

Answer 4

Tell him what you just wrote here. Tell him you need him home to help you raise the family. Tell him you are afraid for his life. Don't hold back your feelings. But, don't make him feel like he's a bad guy for wanting to go. Be sensitive to his feelings about being in the service.

Answer 5

tell him he has done is duty to his country now he has a duty to you and the kids, and then tell him that you guys can help the cause in another way. Helping send troops letters , phone cards, girls scout cookies, whatever. Then get him into bed and make passionate love to him all night long. show him how good it is to be home

Answer 6

Tell him you love him and you and the kids need him Suggest finding ways to serve his country from home, without re-enlisting.

Answer 7

hi there sweetheart you 2 have to sit down and talk about this and you really need to let him know how you feel and that youre scared that he will be sent away on duty .....but you have to take in to consideration that he might still go ahead with this ....and in a away you cant really stop him if he is hell bent in signing back .....only talking can help you with this ....iwish you good luck with this and take care xx

Answer 8

just tell him you and the kids need him to be there , and that you dont want the kids growing up without their father if anything was to happen to him

ask him if he thinks his children should grow up without a father

tell him you need his help to raise the children full time and not just when he's on leave


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Answer 9

Tell him the military or the family.There far less lethal jobs in the world than going to the military.

Answer 10

just sit him down and talk to him and explain to him how you feel. I understand your reasoning behind it, we live in very trying times, so, if you both talk about the pros and cons of it maybe you will come to an understanding. Best of luck.


Stay Strong.