I'm in love with someone I can't have. She's been in a relationship for the past year w/her gf and it's killing me. She won't give me a chance because of the fact that I'm 3000 miles away. She says she can't be in a long distance relationship. I've tried eveything to forget her but I just can't. She says she's in love with me too but can't leave her GF because her gf's pretty clingy. Its almost been a year and I still can't let her go. I've tried dating other people but I only find myself pushing them away because I can't get her out of my heart or my mind, this is driving me insane. I can't sleep, eat or think....I need some advice ASAP
2007-07-04 17:52:09 · 18 answers · asked by RicH 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i've been away for so long because of my job...i should be heading back home to the states in about 3 months....i'm pretty sure i'm not obsessed, i just feel i don't have the closure i need to forget her. everytime i try to stop talking to her, she begs me back and asks me to forgive her. and im a sucker for her love :(
2007-07-04 18:06:06 · update #1
If you truly love her you should respect her decision to stay with her girlfriend. I know moving on from a love that burns so strong can be hard but you will be better off in the end. I don't suggest getting into any committed relationships right away. Go out and date but do not settle for one person as you will just push them away. Things will get easier in time. When you do move on I'm sure you will find someone you feel just as strong about. Best of luck sweety.
2007-07-04 17:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe it would help if you try to understand. I know that it is hard! However, she as well as you know that you guys can't be with each other. You guys are so far away and such. I mean, if their is, you think, a minor possibility then I say that YOU MUST FIGHT for her but if you think it is almost over then don't suffer anymore and let her go. I mean, if she doesn't want to let go of her GF because of you then she doesn't deserve you. Everyone should be and deserve someone that loves them back and is willing to give up for that person. Say to yourself and set a goal. Try to not suffer, because the more time that passes by the harder it gets because the more you get involved and you can't forget her. So, try to tell yourself that it isn't the world and things happen for a reason. Things will get better. I promise.
2007-07-04 17:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things are worth taking that ultimate risk for.
Sont know whats keeping you 3000 miles apart, but if you really want to show someone you love them, you should do what you have to to cut the distance and show someone you love that you are ready to take their hand and make as much sense of this crazy world with that person, and youll always work hard to show your love to them.
Now whether that person recipricates that back to you is a different story.
Some things are worth gambling for.....so good luck
2007-07-04 17:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by writersbIock2006 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is meant to be shall be. Perhaps the love you have for her is not the same in her heart. Certainly if I were truly in love with someone no matter what I'd try to be with them. She doesn't seem to be as into it as you are. Nothing but death could ever separate me from my love. Distance and time has no hold on our bond. So maybe you should think about that. Are her feelings as deep as yours? If not, my dear you may have no choice but to let time heal the wounds in your heart. They will not go away quickly or easily though. God bless.
2007-07-04 17:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by MzNeekie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ur this crazy about her she's probably the 1 for U! get her real address and maybe send her a gift and tell what u've been doing and how u can't let go (some girls like that) and that u can't date anyone else and also that u like her and if your letter is affectionate, how could she say no!?
2007-07-04 17:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by sillygoose112393 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to get her. I think she has made that very obvious to you. Maybe you should listen to what she is saying. And after a year and 3000 miles you are still hanging on? I think maybe you could use some counseling. I'm not being sarcastic..you sound obsessed with her...not in love with her.
2007-07-04 17:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, get over her because you are just torturing yourself. You have to know when to cut your losses. But I guess if I was completely in love with someone who also claimed to love me, I would not stop at ANYTHING to win them over. But I'm a dummy I cannot say that this will work.
2007-07-04 17:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my twenty years in gay life, I have seen this all too much
I know from experience you will just have to suffer and let her toy with your feelings because you wont listen to this very sound advice
MOVE ON FIND SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOU WITH RESPECT
Any way you have been told now go and do what thousands of your sisters have done before you, wallow in misery and degrade yourself till you come to your senses own your own
2007-07-04 18:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by Vida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, sounds like your screwed...
Find a way to move on..
3000 miles is way too far !!!
If you love her that much then u must leave her so both of you can find a way to be happy.
Good Luck!
2007-07-04 17:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Makai 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shes playing you..i was in the same situation cept the person wasnt far away..the person he was pursuing was..and i wasted my time..and then i just moved on..im still upset that he would do that..but i dont care about him...but i think u should just forget about her and accept whats happening..
theres no point in crying over things u cant control..either do something or get over it
2007-07-04 17:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋