i just lost my job,my car was totaled(my insurance had lapsed at the time of the accident). i have bills to pay and im in debt. my life is just falling apart and i don't know which way 2 go!!! what do i do and how do i do it? i have no one willing to help me and i'm scared!!! any suggestions?
2007-07-04 17:32:59 · 13 answers · asked by sassy1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've been through this and it is not cool. It is very hard to build yourself up from nothing BUT it can be done.
first
you have to find a job
anything, any job
Income is most important now
look in papers and classified ads for rooms to rent on a week to week basis
work your butt off and save up money to rebuild your life
I wont lie it is really hard and lonely but can be done
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-07-04 17:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
You need a financial intervention. You've hit bottom, so now you need to get help.
You need to talk to a financial planner to get help with how to proceed and how to afford pulling yourself from this hole. Just go to your bank and ask who to talk to about financial planning. They should help you to go through your budget and figure out what has to stay, and what has to go in order for you to get back on your feet.
You also need to get a new job, now. You're jobless, no better time to start looking. Meanwhile you should get unemployment payments.
But I want you to realize this has nothing at all to do with being a lesbian, don't use that as an excuse or a scape goat. This is just some bad luck, along with some bad spending(because you're in debt).
You can learn from this though. Because now you know what it's like to lose everything without a back up plan. So this time around, make sure to have a savings account with enough to support you in case you lose your job again, or have other major bills come up. You have to make that a priority.
But just remember you're not alone in this either, a lot of people, especially in the USA where spending is higher than earning, have been where you are. So there's more solutions for this now than ever before.
So talk to a financial planner, get a plan for your financial future.
2007-07-05 03:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my stepdaughter. She was living a lesbian lifestyle, was bankrupt at 19, couldn't keep her car on the road, got kicked out of several apartments.
She got out of her self destructive lifestyle. Gave up the gay thing. Moved back in with us to get her life back on track. She went to school, applied herself and is now a completely new and different person.
Now she's making $15/hr, almost completely out of debt, and is engaged to get married.
As hard as this sounds, you are where you are today because of the choices you made in your short life. You need to make better choices. Drop the gay lifestyle, it's not getting you anywhere. See if your parents will take you back, but you'll have to earn their respect and trust. Then keep your promise to them!
2007-07-05 08:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you have no one willign to help you, but chances are you havn't tried strangers yet.
liek the first answer, a womans home is a good idea. also, if you're a member of a church, or if you can find a homeless shelter of some sort where they ahve a councelor who can help you get your life back.
really, you jsut have to keep tellign people you've messed up, but you want to fix it. When you admit you were wrong, and you NEED help, someone might jsut want to help.
2007-07-04 17:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by risks_(with a pessimist) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can try contacting a friend, sibling, or any other family member that will be willing to take your in. I really sorry about this. If I was in your situation I would I have done what I just said.
2007-07-04 17:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when life gives you lemons make lemonade!!! althouhg it may take awile befor e you squeeze out the lemons i would get a JOB!!! first thing and try to room with a friend or relative and try to stay safe!!!!!
i better not be hearing about some woman on the news found dead in a dumpster ok!!!!!!!
good! now go out there and show em' whatchou got!!!!
2007-07-04 17:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by RC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes find the neariest human resource building tell them what is going on and ask what to do I am not an expert but I cxan tell you need professional help! GOOD LUCK (^_^)
2007-07-04 17:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by kay b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look up on the internet the "womens shelters" in your city/state. make some calls to them and see if they can direct you to help.
prayers out to you.
2007-07-04 22:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by pəɹ noʎ uɐɥʇ ɹəʇɹɐɯs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a womens home nearby....im sorry for your misfortune
2007-07-04 17:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry your eyes out until someone makes it all better.
2007-07-04 18:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋