I have feelings of self doubt, paranoia, I feel rejected. lonely.
I feel like I have no real friends, but I don't know why.
I always think it is my fault, My bf says I am great and not to worry, but why are people not bothering with me??
Whenever I get in touch with old friends (which is not too much)
a) don't reply - which makes me think they don't like me
b) If they get in touch/reply I think they are only getting in touch to be nosy/show off about all they have achieved, to make themselves feel better especially if they see they have done more with their life than me.
c) only reply as I have got in touch with them, and I think would they have texted me first? would they text me if I never texted them?
When I look on friends reunited sites I always feel like other people are better/more popular than me (though i know these sites are prone to exaggeration) and I feel unpopular in comparison especially if they have lots of 'friends' listed eg on myspace/facebook
2007-07-04 12:41:22 · 27 answers · asked by uk.housewife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am not miserable to my friends or anything, I usually ask them how they are, all light hearted stuff, and i'm not clingy or anything, just the odd text or email
2007-07-04 12:50:00 · update #1
It is hard to keep in touch with friends, people have such a busy life now, children, family commitments, work. I havent got much time for friends, not because i dont care (i do) its. I work and when i come home i want to see my children. My friends understand, i think they would be more worried if I was out with friends all the time.
Stop worrying. Drop them a line/txt/email every now and then, they will come to you when they need you and a good friend will always be there when neede.
Stop being paranoid!!
2007-07-04 12:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jobylee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
believe me,sandy,i feel exactly the same way;i have friends,but do they holla?no.i feel like i am being taken for granted everytime i make the first step calling them or stuff.sometimes,i ask myself,too,would they've called/sent me a text message,if i hadn't done so first?and all that...
self-doubt?no,sandy;just like ur BF says,u REALLY are a great person,irrespective of what others give as an impression to this.and hey!if u weren't special and unique as u are,would u have had a BF in the first place?
rejected?maybe.thing is,sandy,sometimes,people just don't appreciate the fact that people like u strive to keep friendships going.but U are the one who stays in touch,U are the one who makes things happen,thanks to a call,a text message--a first step some other person would've thought twice before taking.at the end,it is all thanks to U!and for that alone--being a true friend--u sure can be proud.
lonely?yeah,we do feel lonely this way.but please,sandy,don't go after being "popular";that is just a notion which tells u,"do this,dress like this,speak like that..."most often,it means being someone u aren't,and that means being unhappy.at the end,what those who are "popular" want are real friends who can stick to them,no matter what,and not how many friends they've got...
hey!i am here to be ur friend,we are here to be ur friends,OK?u are not alone.
smile,OK?
all the best,sandy!
2007-07-11 17:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by aziztakashi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey travel bug ! With a handle like that you must have visited some interesting places either virtually or physically. Cutting a longer answer to another question - Don't measure yourself against others, family, friends or strangers - your special in your own sort of way be proud of your journey. Have you ever heard of upwardly mobile actors in Hollywood working in a bar, the positive ones say there in between parts ! maybe your in between what you think others perceive of you - put the past in perspective meet new friends that will see you and appreciate you as you are right now -
2007-07-04 12:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your insecurity eat at you like that. If you feel sorry for yourself, other people will also. It is not important to have many friends, only one true friend. Looks like you have that covered. Most people don't even have one friend that they can trust. If I were you I would create a journal. If it is important to reunite with friends, then write about it first. Get your feelings out before you decide to respond or initiate. By doing so you will be able to see things clearly and see for yourself when irrational thoughts try to come in. You are great and don't let anyone or anything convince you otherwise. Don't change!
2007-07-04 12:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by kswift25 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know, I feel the same way a while back, and i learned, screw them. You have to learn to accept yurself until anyone else can accept you. What age are you, if your old, well then maybe your friends have moved on in life, if your young, kids are cruel. Youll find your flock when the times right, just be a sound, well rounded person and the people will come to you. Remember, dont worry about knowing people, make yourself worth knowing ! x
2007-07-04 12:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what, I think that maybe this friends thing is just like when you desperately want a relationship, then one finds you when you least expect it... I'm sure if we forget about it as best we can and concentrate on other things, somebody will pop up, either an old friend from the past or someone who feels the same way as you, or someone completely new and random.
2007-07-04 14:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lola 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about "old friends"?
I didn't keep in touch with the ones who didn't keep in touch with me. Every High School reunion for the past 35 years I have been listed as "missing" on the register and I haven't lived more than 30 miles away the whole time. No one knows where I am or what I did with my life.
I simply moved on and don't look back.
If old friends can make you feel that way, I wouldn't call them "friends" myself.
2007-07-04 13:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kekionga 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Some friends are like snake skins and just have to be shed. Sounds like everyone is moving off in their own directions including you. If people don't stay in touch after you made an effort then I would leave them. There are other people out there who would love to have you as a friend - go and find them!
2007-07-09 10:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,some times friends are hard to come by and make you fell miserable and lonely. Dont worry you will have alot of friends as time goes along.Perhaps do some social works to those how are in need of your friendship, like the orphans, age and the disable. Or continue to yahoo.answers you can have lots of friends and noisy one too. Give us a smile okay,we want to be your friend.
2007-07-04 14:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by tiahkoh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
having many friends does not make some one more popular then you, what counts is having a few real true friends not a lot of just friends.
you need self confidence and self esteem/. you are overly suspicious of people.
if they don't reply . forget them . they aren't your friends.
if they do reply then go for it. talk to them. if they didn't care about you they wouldn't get in touch.
they sometimes wonder if you will text them . and since you made the first move , that is all you can do.
listen to your boy friend..
2007-07-04 13:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋