I have a question. According to mark 19:9, luke 16:18, and scripture in the bible regarding adultery. According to god, a marriage is a promise made before god to commit to a partner for the remainder of life, to which no man can separate. People think of adultery as cheating on your spouse, when god states this as "except for the cause of sexual immorality" but the bible clearly states adultery by definition is remarriage after divorce. God also says to flee fornication, meaning to run away and fast... as if in danger.
I have kept myself pure but I am middle aged now, and the majority of selection for men are divorced men. It does not mean they are bad people, but anyone that is divorced with the exception that their wife cheated on them, and not vice versa is off limits due to the potential sin of adultery. What is sad, is that if I fall in love with a divorced man, and he has no conscience for scripture - then he will find love with another women. I know it is adultery for me
2007-07-04 10:58:09 · 13 answers · asked by EM-water2 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, all you need to do is turn to John 3:16... For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son and whosoever believith in him shall have peace and everlasting life.. Jesus died for all sins.. God loves us as a father loves his children.. Do you believe? Do you admit that you are human and capable of sin? Do you love God and know that he loves you back? Then, that is all there is to it.
2007-07-04 11:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a relationship with God you don't need to ask anyone what to do. You know in your heart what is right and what is not. Why did you get divorced? Did you cheat? Did you try to make it work? Why did it happen? It's funny that folks tend to ask God AFTER the fact instead of before. You have the answers to these questions. I do not judge you or think I am better than you, I am not. Remember "What God has brought together, let no man drive asunder" Who brought your first marriage together? Did God make a mistake? How foolish to plead with God about something you are going to do anyway or have done. Be sincere with Him and He will guide you. Good Luck
2007-07-04 17:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get this. If you divorce - breaking away from the committment, then that means you failed and you cannot be wiht another man again? But, if you remarry, you just made another committment to only that man. So how can that be adultery when it's within a marriage? If what you're saying is true, then how come a born-again-Christian gets to be Christian again when they too have fallen off the wagon? So, in my opinion, I think you may be misinterpretting the scripture. God forgives and he didn't make us perfect.
Also, I wasn't aware that divorce was practiced back in the Biblical era. That's news to me.
2007-07-04 11:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Coqui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am a Christian woman and divorced. My ex and I like and respect each other very much....we were divorced before I turned my life over to the Lord and I, too, struggled with this, absolutely CONVINCED that if I married again I was committing adultery.
The Lord brought someone into my life who is separated, and I believe that he is my future husband....and we BOTH have wrestled with this.
The other day I went walking in the morning, and as I had slept in I was running late. On the way to the park to walk, there was a radio show on called "Discover the Word". They were talking about divorce so I listened intently (now mind you, I am very careful about what programs and WHO I listen to for spiritual guidance...some of these TV and radio preachers aren't what I would call reliable and Biblical if you know what I mean, and "Discover the Word" was a Bible study type show that I have respect for. Their website is
www.rbc.org).
Anyway, they're discussing how God hates divorce BUT....He also knows that as we are human it is sometimes necessary. It was like God was reaching down in the car and putting His hand on my shoulder and saying "It's okay, I know sometimes it's necessary. I don't like it, but it's sometimes better to have a healthy, loving marriage than for two people to stay in two miserable unhealthy ones." I was in shock....and THRILLED that someone I respected was telling me that it's not just "if you divorce you're an adulterer for life".....that GOD is bigger than that.
Go to http://www.rbc.org/search.aspx?term=divorce
and look at their topics on divorce...you'll find them Biblically based and very thought provoking.
God Bless.
2007-07-04 11:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that remarriage after divorce is always adultery. There are different views about this... and you can find a man who is serious about following God, and serious about obeying scripture who just has a differetn interpretation of it.
Also, I think that if a man went through a divorce, even if there ws no adultery... once his ex wife get remarried, i believe he is released from waiting to reconcile with his ex-wife.
Some more views about it:
http://www.gotquestions.org/remarriage-adultery.html
2007-07-04 11:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by MASE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of Gods greatest gifts are unanswered prayers... The lord knows what hes doin when he brings 2 people together.. His ultimate goal is pure love in the heart. If a man has been married in the past ...I doubt if God will find that a sin in either of you if you r both in love... Once divorcement is granted... and it is recognized in the bible as official.... Not all men cheat ... And if he does its a chance you take in a marraige .{..A man who believes in God can also cheat or he may not } We all our sinners and Christ died for our sins... God knows whats in our hearts ... and thats all he wants to see ... the love pure and simple....... He wants to know that its real ..for that is the way he sees us........
2007-07-04 11:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is whatever you see it as in your life--Divorce is too easy to get these days--no one seems to have to try to make a relationship get stronger and carry on with the family as planned. It is man's court system--not the church that has fouled everything up---and the church and state have to be kept separate so the judge can't make a couple try for the sake of what God commanded. Well I don't classify it as anything but a poor state of affairs in this day and age. I never married or had kids because I couldn't fully commit as intended. ...and a sad family relationship would have made me feel lousy.
2007-07-04 11:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the church will annul certain marriages if one spouse or the other is say a person who beats them every night...but if you marry a divorced man it is not your sin for the bearing if they committed mistakes earlier in life so go for it. if you didnt commit it and did not know anything about his past life i say go get em
2007-07-04 11:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Goose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you meet a man and fall in love and he has been divorced that you shouldn't worry so much about it. God also forgives people for their wrongs!
2007-07-04 11:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by kirk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-17 18:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋