We were together for 8 years. No kids I have forgiven him for lying to me about being married, then for cheating on me, so many other things. Then 2 months ago I found out for the last 4 months he's been lying yet again! This time he told me his father had brain surgery. Every week for 4 months he'd go visit him at the hospital and he would even cry about it to me saying he's scared he may die. We'll oneday I called and guess who answered! His dying father whose never been sick yet alone in the hospital. He said he lyed so he could stay overnight away from me - he only did that like 4 times in the 4 months but still. Why lie especially that. So now I told him I need space and don't want to be with him anymore and he will not respect it. He calls and leaves messages and just won't quit. I feel like he is killing my spirit slowly and even when I tell him this he still keeps calling saying he can't get through the day without contacting me. What do I do? I am so stressed out!
2007-07-04 10:18:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to stop believing his BS. he knows exactly which buttons to push wwith you, because you always let him and give in. He believes he can get away with anything because you have been so gullible and keep taking him back time after time. Why continue this? Do you honestly believe he will stop lying and change just like that?
2007-07-04 10:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him go, cause he's just going to continue this way since it's all he knows or wants to know. He's lied, cheated, among other things and he continues to do so. Do you honestly think that he's going to stop now. I believe that he tells you what you want to hear but not necessarily what's true. He probably gets a high just from knowing that he's torturing you and making your life a living nightmare cause no guy in his right mind who genuinely loved you would put you through this sort of torment for 8 years! I actually know a guy quite similar to him and I'll tell you from experience, they don't change, if anything they get worse. They get a high from doing things to make you pity them, they lie about simple things they could just be honest about in the first place (and when you find out, make up flimsy excuses to justify why they lied) and just leave you feeling emotionally sick (and eventually physically sick). So if you you've had enough, I would suggest you break it off and move on because if you stay with him long enough to eventually get married, you're going to spend everyday of the rest of your life regreting that you didn't dump him when you had the opportunity.
2007-07-04 17:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so so fortunate that this has ended. I mean it will when you get a message machine to take calls and change your phone number, locks, maybe even move somewhere else. Dont you think that you deserve someone who doesnt lie? Dont you think that you should deserve someone much better.? He isnt respecting you still as he is not quitting and it will continue if you go back with him. Please make a major change in your life now before you slip back into that mess.
Also, if he continues to bother you after you make changes like not answering your phone, then think about restraining order and protect yourself. you need help and support right now so please call a friend or someone to talk with. Congratulations a new life is ahead of you. Hooray.
2007-07-04 17:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH WOW! Yeh thats aweful when he claims to go see a "sick"family member. I think that that takes lying to a very different level. I just wouldnt answer the phone and chalk it up as a lesson learned. Good luck to you!
2007-07-04 17:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cardinals fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone# or don't answer his calls, if you talk to him it's because you want 2. Turn you voice mail off ancheck your Caller ID. If you really don't ever want to here or talk charge him with harassment or stalking.Find some 1 that will treat you with respect. Good Luck.
2007-07-04 17:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he doesn't stop contacting you, you will contact the police and go to court to get a restraining order against him. get your number changed if it isn't too much of a hassle. a friend of mine is going through the same thing with her ex fiancee. he lied about everything... she is basically ignoring him and not letting herself be alone when he comes to get his stuff out of her house. she is doing good so hang in there!
2007-07-04 17:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not respecting you. he lied about his father apparently this guy can not be trusted. sounds like he's going into stalker mode, if he continues call the police and let him know you are serious and what to be left alone.
2007-07-04 17:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his butt out of the house. He has no respect or love for you. Just be thankfully you have no kids in this situation.
2007-07-04 17:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings that you dont have children and can move on. Honey he never truely loved you b/c love is not about pain. Do not take him back he is not worth it.
2007-07-04 19:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Swan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bock him and not have any contact with him. He is a loser.
2007-07-04 17:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋