First off I was married before and I have 2 kids (age 5 and 2). I have been with my bf for about 10 months now. He has a god daughter that is having a bday party this weekend (turning 2). My kid's father was going to pick them up this weekend but my bf said maybe we should have him swap it to next weekend so that the 2 yr old can go with him (my bf) to the party. and me and my 5 yr old can have a fun girls day.
Here is the part that makes me wonder- the mother of his god daughter is his ex-fiance. I assumed since the kids wouldnt be here I would go with him to the party. he called today from work and made it a point that he just wanted the baby to go and that I should do something with my daughter. Not that I wouldn't love to have alone time with her but it is just I have a gut feeling that there is another reason he would rather me stay behind. I try not to be jealous of this girl but it seems he harbors feelings for her & she for him.
Should I be worried about it or let him go?
2007-07-04 09:56:10 · 14 answers · asked by angelbabies98517 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ALWAYS trust your instincts. let him go and show up later on. something's fishy here.
2007-07-04 10:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he took your son with him to try and ease your mind about that. He might be trying to soften both sides and is stuck in the middle. You know, not hurt the mother of his god daughter, but not hurt you either. The only answer he could come up with was to bring another and one that needed alot of his attention. I understand you being worried, but give him a chance to screw up. What you have said, makes him sound like a great guy. You allow yourself to enjoy the time with your daughter. Everytime a worry comes up, you change your mind set. Even if that way is to look at your daughter and tell her you love her. Things are going to be fine. Good luck.
2007-07-04 10:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta have trust in a relationship or you dont have anything. Look at it this way. He is with you right? He is not married to you so if he was wanting to go back to this x-fiance he could and he would. There is nothing holding him back. So, although I would be a bit jealous, the big picture is if he wanted her, he would indeed be with her and not you. So in saying that, let him go. Good luck.
2007-07-04 10:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he made it a point to let you know that you shouldn't go i would watch and see because that is a little rough around the edges and it seems to me that something may be going on and he knows that your 2 year old can't spill the beans keep your eyes open this seems to be a tricky one here. he seems to be using the god daughter to be around the ex-girlfriend as always they use the kids and hope that noone figures it out.
2007-07-04 10:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have not received and adequate answer that you can deal with on why you aren't invited. you need that answer before you can really judge the situation. if he can't give you a straight answer, and before you ask him , make sure you know what it is you want/need to hear, then i'd go with your gut instinct (which is really never wrong) and judge it as fishy. make sure you search for the honesty in his answer, regardless of whether you like the answer or not. if he can't be honest, then you don't need the headache of that relationship. cut and dry.
2007-07-04 10:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look,when you first met,did he have her baby around you? If so,then it's a manipulative thing.Men know that seeing good parental qualities in a man is a turn-on to women.But if not,he might want to show her how secure your relationship is. Let him take baby with him,and see if he's bringin' him for game or c***-blockin'.
2007-07-04 10:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bianca C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure you know about this women's instinct thing...i know its not good to think bad about your man but i believe that it is worst to let man fools you,its not bad to trust your instinct coz in this way you will think of the way to keep your man or to keep your pride when someone's try to fool you and make you look stupid in front of this girl...now if you have prove it right then at least you did something to stop it b4 it goes deep or if it is really serious at least you can prepare yourself for something worst to happened..it is easy to handle the pain if you are ready!!
2007-07-04 10:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he acts like that & i were you, i would let him go but i mean its your choice if u love him & trust him then keep him but if you dont then let him go. ~Good Luck~
2007-07-04 10:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him you prefer to go to the party wtih him..and if he gets upset about it then he is hiding something and you need to move on.
2007-07-04 10:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's trying to use your kid to get this woman jealous, he might still have feelings for her
2007-07-04 10:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋