my boyfriends mom is a b*tch?

Question

my boyfriends mom does not want us together still and every time we try to go out she says that she is sick so he can take care of her or she is really stressed or that she needs him to dirve her places and she drives all day long what she needs him for. i cant take it anymore i really love him and he loves me we been together for 2 years and she never liked me and now she is getting worse. i have not see my boyfriend in over a week because of her. please what do i do? i told him to just walk out and leave but everytime he does she brings his dad into it. and when he tells them that they can not keep him away from me its like haveing the biggest fight in the world. they wont leave him alone. PLEASE HELP US!!

Answer 1

I hate to say it but your boyfriend does need to step up. This is his family, and it's definitely not you're responsibilty to deal with their rudeness. It's a very ackward situation for you, and no one has the right to ask you to deal with it in a confrontation with your mother in law. It's hard for you boyfriend to confront his family, but you need to let him know that if he can't, then you'll be at an impasse. I broke up with my fiance of 4 years after he still wouldn't stand up for me against his rude family after four years of telling him to. In the end, I couldn't respect a man who didn't respect me enough to defend me. If he won't defend you now, he won't defend you for other things either. So even though it's hard for him to make that choice, it's his mother and not you that is forcing him to make it, and he needs to stand up and decide. You're worth way more than that, and you deserve respect, and to be treated like a human being, instead of being cut down by your boyfriend's mother. Hope this helps, best of luck! Email me, if you want to talk, I know exactly how you feel.

Answer 2

Thats tough. It's hard to get a kid away from their mom. Most mom's don't want to let their kids go. Why doesn't she like you? Maybe you should try having a heart to heart with her...I mean I know you probably don't like her. But that's the best way to get through to her, you would have to talk to her. Tell her how much you love her son and that you want to be able to see him more. Tell her you want to agree on times that you can see him and times that she can have him, you know? You've been with him a long time, are you two thinking about getting serious? If so, maybe you should mention that to her too. Hope I was helpful. *StaRR*

Answer 3

Oh you sound just like me in a simular situation:you may not like what my answer is but here it is.Find you another man quick.When the mother,grandmother etc mothers period get into the relationship it turns into more drama thean it's worth.I been there done that with my X's grandmother who raised hi, beleve me it was a long hard road.I ended up having to take care of her until she passed away 3 years ago(she was 98)just know that life is to short to put up with sombody elses drama.

Answer 4

Ohhh honey....I know exactly what you're going through. I dated this guy and we were supposed to get married, but his sister was so oddly jealous of my time with him. Ever seen that episode of friends where Rachel dates this guy and he's super close with his sister? Like that.
The harsh realization I came to was this. She was in his life first, and she will always be his top girl. There are some strange relationships out there, and logic doesn't help these people!
Do yourself a favor and get out. It will never get better.
Sorry.

Answer 5

Have you tried just visiting with his parents? Be nice to her. Spend some time with them and your b/f together. If she sees that you are not out to take her son away from her, she may back off. Just don't make your b/f choose between you or his parents. You will be the one to get hurt. Good luck. :)

Answer 6

tell her that an abortion is genuinely no longer mandatory considering you're making use of beginning administration/condoms. She's probable purely frightened approximately being a sort of mom's you notice on Maury Povich who's elevating her son's toddler cuz he and his female pal weren't sensible sufficient to apply protection. purely tell her you're unlike that. tell her you're smarter than that.

Answer 7

If the boyfriend won't cut the apron strings now, just think how much worse it will be if you get married and have children. I say it is time to bail out of this relationship.

Answer 8

Have you thought about the both of you sitting down and talking to his parents together? Him walking out isn't going to help your relationship at all it's just going to give grounds for more resentment and your boyfriend is going to be made to choose now say he chose you over his mum it's a hard thing to break the bond between mother and son i can tell you i have two of them and no matter what they always end up back with me and turn to me for help and support, my oldest son has had a few relationships of which i didn't like the girl at all, i hasten to add at this point i am nothing like your b/f's mum i allow my children to have a life and to make their own mistakes, i just sit back and smile, as for your b/f's mum she is wrong what she is doing but the more you try to tell her and the more you try to get her son away from her the harder she is going to fight for him and i think she has as good as proved she will stop at nothing to break you both up! Sit back and let this run it's course, you say you both love each other well this alone will get you both thru this, i know it's easier said than done but you both have been together for 2 years obviously something is strong between you stop giving her cause to make a scene let your b/f handle it if you back off and let him sort his mum you will find he will come to you for your love and your support, he will come to you to talk about how he is feeling and share what he is going thru, at the moment he is probably too scared to even mention her name to you because of the anger you are feeling towards her for what she is putting you both thru, but at the end of the day if you are both meant to be together you will both get thru this trust me you will, he will see what she is doing and trying to do, and he will make that break you just have to be there to help and support him thru this as it must be really hard for him. In years to come you will both look back and laugh but it will only make you both stronger : ) Suggest to your b/f that you both talk to his parents and see what the problem is she has with you, just suggest it and let him go to his parents and arrange it if it doesn't happen just wait for him at the end of the day sweetheart she hasn't broken you both up it's been two years and she is still trying so that proves one thing whatever she is saying and doing isn't having an affect on him but it is on you and this is what she wants. She wants to stress you out so you argue with him because he hasn't seen you for a week or because he is driving her around, in his eyes he is only doing things to make her happy and keep her sweet so he doesn't get hell at home but in her eyes she is putting distance between you and your b/f and putting strain on your relationship which is what she wants, he is happy at home but when he is with you you are both arguing because you haven't seen him for a week, you are playing right into her hands. Deep breaths, calm down and relax : ) If i didn't know better i would guess he is an only child! They are the hardest, been there, hang in there honey i'm here if you want to chat i truly hope it works out for you : )