Can you trust without having respect first?

Answer 1

No, I don't beleive that you can. I think you need trust someone before you can respect them.

Answer 2

...and sure, why can't you trust without having respect first? Or vice versa for that matter.

For me...it depends on the situation or circumstance and not on whether trust or respect comes first, etc.

In this instance, it would depend on what level of trust and/or respect I was expected to have and demonstrate in any given circumstance.

Also, I can name numerous examples of where one must have or are required to have some level of what be termed as "trust" -- and the same goes for 'respect' -- just to successfully navigate through our daily lives.

As you have given no further clues or parameters in which both trust and respect are going to exist, it is very difficult to give any kind of meaningful (specific) answer aside from anything that would or could be construed, or applied as "black and white" or "absolute".

What is it that you expect to avoid or solve by having some kind of 'absolute' as it relates to these two aspects of relationships?

I guarantee you that if you think you can avoid or prevent anything by coming up with some 'formulae' and applying it without judgement -- you are going to be sorely disappointed.

Being forced to do either -- to trust or show/have respect is NOT evidence that either exist, but simply that you are being "forced" into behaving as if they existed. And, that the only evidence of anything is your compliance with a expected type/kind of behavior.

For, or to me -- both trust and respect do NOT come or exist as a result or are dependent upon each other -- but simultaneously occur -- arise from a completely different source (or method) -- and that source is something that is "earned authority" -- or that authority which has been earned through being questioned, tried and tested; and found to be respected and trusted.

An "earned authority" can be anything -- just as an unearned or unjust authority can be anything.

My opinion is, is that if you first seek to verify and validate whether "any authority" is just and "earned", then you will run a less risk of betrayal or having a lack of trust or respect -- or having to demonstrate trust without respect or respect without trust.

Regards.

Answer 3

I think there are situations where there is no choice. There were times (in the military) where you had to trust in the training and judgement of your leaders, even if you didn't respect them on a personal level. In a personal relationship, I believe trust and respect go hand in hand. I don't see where one can exist without the other. Just MHO

Answer 4

I suppose that depends on your definition of respect (and trust for that matter). There are people in my life for whom I have little respect for their personal decisions, but there are many things with which I would trust them. However, if you're speaking about TOTAL trust, absolutely not. I wouldn't trust them to make healthy decisions (physically, spiritually, or emotionally), or to guide others in making healthy decisions.

On some level there is respect for these people I am thinking of, in that I know that they are loyal, helpful, kind and good people. Therefore, I guess in my mind at least some level respect is necessary for any trust between them and me.

Answer 5

Every time I drive my car, I have to trust that most people will obey the traffic laws, therefore, I have to trust other drivers. I do not know any of these people, so I can not have the knowledge inherent in having 'respect' for them. But I do have to trust them, or I would be frozen with fear and unable to drive.

So, yes you can 'trust' without 'respect'.

Answer 6

You can trust that someone will be exactly who they are this given day. That trust may be that that person will lie to you if that is their character. That does not require that you respect that person. You just trust that they are who they are and base your decisions on that knowledge and trust.

Answer 7

no,but also depends on the circumstances